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I meet the most amazing guy ever he is sweet,funny, good looking the problem isnt him its me.im having a hard time trusting anyone not just him my family, friends, even myself so how can i have a relationship when i cant even trust myself to make the right decision? Any advice? Cause i want this to work out
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Edited by
Gumbyvs
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Wed 07/15/09 07:02 PM
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The saying, innocent til proven guilty usually works for me. But trusts issues are always hard to cope with at times.
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I still have not figured that one out!
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I meet the most amazing guy ever he is sweet,funny, good looking the problem isnt him its me.im having a hard time trusting anyone not just him my family, friends, even myself so how can i have a relationship when i cant even trust myself to make the right decision? Any advice? Cause i want this to work out  judge his worth by his actions and not his words
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I meet the most amazing guy ever he is sweet,funny, good looking the problem isnt him its me.im having a hard time trusting anyone not just him my family, friends, even myself so how can i have a relationship when i cant even trust myself to make the right decision? Any advice? Cause i want this to work out why not talk with him about this? Write out a list of things you do not trust about yourself, then write down one thing that you can do to make a change about each one. And what are the wrong decisions you are making? I make wrong choices everyday...I learn from them and keep going... IF you want this relationship to work out, then you need to really find out what it is that you do not trust about you first. This is NOT about blame...it is about learning and changing.... Good Luck!! |
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I meet the most amazing guy ever he is sweet,funny, good looking the problem isnt him its me.im having a hard time trusting anyone not just him my family, friends, even myself so how can i have a relationship when i cant even trust myself to make the right decision? Any advice? Cause i want this to work out When you get the answers, please do share. |
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All the trust in the world can only be earned and can be destroyed in an instant of indescretion or deciet.
You must let him at least earn trust and keep it until he proves himself otherwise. Life is about taking chances and giving chances. |
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you'll never be happy with another if you aren't happy with yourself.
you cannot trust others if you cannot trust yourself. so it sounds like you need to work on yourself for a moment huh... learn to let go and trust. or you're gonna crash and burn and be worse off than you are now. |
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...DTA... 
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I meet the most amazing guy ever he is sweet,funny, good looking the problem isnt him its me.im having a hard time trusting anyone not just him my family, friends, even myself so how can i have a relationship when i cant even trust myself to make the right decision? Any advice? Cause i want this to work out for me, i never give anything that i couldn't afford to do without. and i always expect to be let down so that when they let me down i'm prepared for it. i trust people to be people which is to say that they will always have their best interests before my own. find one that feels differently and that'd be the person you trust. . . . |
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Without trust you cannot even begin to have a relationship with anyone. The person you have to start with first is yourself and take it from there...
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I meet the most amazing guy ever he is sweet,funny, good looking the problem isnt him its me.im having a hard time trusting anyone not just him my family, friends, even myself so how can i have a relationship when i cant even trust myself to make the right decision? Any advice? Cause i want this to work out judge his worth by his actions and not his words Amen to that 
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Edited by
auburngirl
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Wed 07/15/09 08:09 PM
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Removed since it was just too much
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idk.. ive been lied to before by an ex but ive never brought that grudge over to the next girlfriend. i give everyone the benefit of the doubt.
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Well... there comes a point in time where you simply CAN'T learn to trust again. I mean... if you've been jacked around after repeated attempts at getting into relationships, you tend to get a wee bit hardened after a certain point.
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Yes? |
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too much.
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I meet the most amazing guy ever he is sweet,funny, good looking the problem isnt him its me.im having a hard time trusting anyone not just him my family, friends, even myself so how can i have a relationship when i cant even trust myself to make the right decision? Any advice? Cause i want this to work out Trust comes with time, some will break our natural barrier of suspicion and get our trust and lots will only pass and deceive us in some way or another, that is life. If your lucky you can have a couple person in your lifetime you really trust, treasure them and let them know they are special. |
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Trust is a very hard thing and once broken is tough to repair. The sad part is that if you've learned that lesson the hard way, it's hard to trust ANYONE - even someone who hasn't earned your DIS-trust.
No good advice...just an observation. |
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