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This is a very long one..I have a lot on my mind right now….so go get a drink, pop corn, and get ready to laugh at my stupidity.
In May 2007 I got engaged to a girl I barely knew, and it didn't work out. I was on mid-tour leave from Iraq, got engaged on a Tuesday and she called it off on Thursday. I flew back to Iraq and got a message from a girl named Jessica, about the blog on my short engagement. She had also senta guy named DJ a message at the same time. They started dating shortly after, and we became friends. I came home in late September, and met her the week I came in. We started talking more and more and he became very jealous. One morning around 130 she calls me hystarical. They had been on the phone all night arguing and fighting. I drive 2 hours to her house, at 130 in the morning. I meet her less than 5 minutes from her house and stay there for the rest of the day. We had our first kiss that night. A day or 2 goes by....they're back together. They break up again and again and again, and I make the trip to her house again and again and again. Well they finally call it quits. I go over spend the night with her multiple times and everything goes smooth. Then one night while laying in bed long story short....she lost her virginity. We arent dating....we are saying I LOVE YOU, doing couples things....but never really dating. This goes on for a few months....she gets her grades...and she failed all her classes at JSU. She says that she's going to quit with relationships, and focus on school. We slowly start talking less and less....but are still saying I LOVE YOU and talking about a future together. One night I try to call and can't get in touch with her, I started feeling so sick. The next morning I wake up check myspace and low and behold...STATUS = IN A RELATIONSHIP. I'm 100% distraught. She calls we talk, cry and I cut ties with her. Then her mom calls me one day and says "You need to talk to her, Im about to kick her out if things don't change" So I call, 3 days into the relationship, they are having sex, and he didn't use a condom. They eventually break up, and I put it aside, and try to work on us again. Mean while DJ has came home and got married. I find out about it laugh, and go on about life, the I LOVE YOU'S start agian, and everything is on the right path again. He calls her, and in under a week gets his marriage annulled, and they are back together. Again Im out in the cold, and have no clue where to go from there. Once again in under a week they start ****ing. I dont hear from her for about 2 months and out of the blue she calls needing help. He came to AL and missed a formation, and was in a team-leader spot so he had to do a 5,000 word essay, and it was due the day before. I help them by doing the whole thing by myself. I gradually start talking to her and things didnt turn out for them. She immediately starts dating someone else, and starts calling me again around the clock. She didnt have a job so she doesnt understand calling me at 2am when I have to be up at 5 isn't the right thing to do. And once again her and the new guy immediately start having intimate encounters. I drop off the face of the earth yet again, but still can't let go of this girl. They only last a few months, and she starts hounding me again. She comes and visits me in GA after I had a parachute accident in jump school. She stays all weekend and things are great. We start talking all the time....I stay up til 3 in the morning just listening to her sleep. I buy her a promise ring and tell her that I promise to always be there for her....everything goes good for 5 months....I talk to her as much as possible, and even pass up on things I want to do so it will make her happy. One night we get off the phone, and she says HEY YOU I HAVE TO TELL YOU SOMETHING.....I ****ING LOVE YOU. The very next day she moves a guy in, and they start dating...This time I expected it. It didn't shock me that it happened. They last a week....she calls every night crying and I stay on the phone with her til 3 or 4 am when I have to get up and go to work at 530. They break up, and incredibly she didn’t put out. She comes to NC for her brothers deployment ceremony. She starts telling me she loves me again….and we start talking about getting together and a future once again. Then she takes a trip to PCB. I don’t talk to her, all weekend which is cool I’m giving her space trying to be a good guy. She goes home yesterday, and posts a survey on myspace here are the answers that absolutely killed me Why did you kiss the last person you kissed? Because I was attracted to him. lol Do you think the last person you kissed cares for you? I dunno about cares, but attracted to, yes. Say something about the last person you kissed? He's hot as hell and a total sweetheart. Did you kiss or hug anyone in the last 48 hours? - Yes and Yes :) Where is the person you last kissed at this moment? - PCB How many times have you kissed the last person you kissed? - A few. Lol So lets recap. Ive been a very nice guy. Gave out way to many chances in the name of love and this is what I get, every time. Women you wonder why guys are ********? Maybe because most guys realize that’s the only way to keep from being ran all over. Women the next time you say THAT GUYS AN *******. Think about it for just a second….were you a girl that put him in those shoes? Was there a nice guy in your life that you constantly waked all over causing him to change to try to better himself? Guys, how many times has being the nice guy, got you screwed over? Maybe Im just angry and hurt right now but I just wanted to see if anyone sees the logic in it. |
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This is a very long one..I have a lot on my mind right now….so go get a drink, pop corn, and get ready to laugh at my stupidity. In May 2007 I got engaged to a girl I barely knew, and it didn't work out. I was on mid-tour leave from Iraq, got engaged on a Tuesday and she called it off on Thursday. I flew back to Iraq and got a message from a girl named Jessica, about the blog on my short engagement. She had also senta guy named DJ a message at the same time. They started dating shortly after, and we became friends. I came home in late September, and met her the week I came in. We started talking more and more and he became very jealous. One morning around 130 she calls me hystarical. They had been on the phone all night arguing and fighting. I drive 2 hours to her house, at 130 in the morning. I meet her less than 5 minutes from her house and stay there for the rest of the day. We had our first kiss that night. A day or 2 goes by....they're back together. They break up again and again and again, and I make the trip to her house again and again and again. Well they finally call it quits. I go over spend the night with her multiple times and everything goes smooth. Then one night while laying in bed long story short....she lost her virginity. We arent dating....we are saying I LOVE YOU, doing couples things....but never really dating. This goes on for a few months....she gets her grades...and she failed all her classes at JSU. She says that she's going to quit with relationships, and focus on school. We slowly start talking less and less....but are still saying I LOVE YOU and talking about a future together. One night I try to call and can't get in touch with her, I started feeling so sick. The next morning I wake up check myspace and low and behold...STATUS = IN A RELATIONSHIP. I'm 100% distraught. She calls we talk, cry and I cut ties with her. Then her mom calls me one day and says "You need to talk to her, Im about to kick her out if things don't change" So I call, 3 days into the relationship, they are having sex, and he didn't use a condom. They eventually break up, and I put it aside, and try to work on us again. Mean while DJ has came home and got married. I find out about it laugh, and go on about life, the I LOVE YOU'S start agian, and everything is on the right path again. He calls her, and in under a week gets his marriage annulled, and they are back together. Again Im out in the cold, and have no clue where to go from there. Once again in under a week they start ****ing. I dont hear from her for about 2 months and out of the blue she calls needing help. He came to AL and missed a formation, and was in a team-leader spot so he had to do a 5,000 word essay, and it was due the day before. I help them by doing the whole thing by myself. I gradually start talking to her and things didnt turn out for them. She immediately starts dating someone else, and starts calling me again around the clock. She didnt have a job so she doesnt understand calling me at 2am when I have to be up at 5 isn't the right thing to do. And once again her and the new guy immediately start having intimate encounters. I drop off the face of the earth yet again, but still can't let go of this girl. They only last a few months, and she starts hounding me again. She comes and visits me in GA after I had a parachute accident in jump school. She stays all weekend and things are great. We start talking all the time....I stay up til 3 in the morning just listening to her sleep. I buy her a promise ring and tell her that I promise to always be there for her....everything goes good for 5 months....I talk to her as much as possible, and even pass up on things I want to do so it will make her happy. One night we get off the phone, and she says HEY YOU I HAVE TO TELL YOU SOMETHING.....I ****ING LOVE YOU. The very next day she moves a guy in, and they start dating...This time I expected it. It didn't shock me that it happened. They last a week....she calls every night crying and I stay on the phone with her til 3 or 4 am when I have to get up and go to work at 530. They break up, and incredibly she didn’t put out. She comes to NC for her brothers deployment ceremony. She starts telling me she loves me again….and we start talking about getting together and a future once again. Then she takes a trip to PCB. I don’t talk to her, all weekend which is cool I’m giving her space trying to be a good guy. She goes home yesterday, and posts a survey on myspace here are the answers that absolutely killed me Why did you kiss the last person you kissed? Because I was attracted to him. lol Do you think the last person you kissed cares for you? I dunno about cares, but attracted to, yes. Say something about the last person you kissed? He's hot as hell and a total sweetheart. Did you kiss or hug anyone in the last 48 hours? - Yes and Yes :) Where is the person you last kissed at this moment? - PCB How many times have you kissed the last person you kissed? - A few. Lol So lets recap. Ive been a very nice guy. Gave out way to many chances in the name of love and this is what I get, every time. Women you wonder why guys are ********? Maybe because most guys realize that’s the only way to keep from being ran all over. Women the next time you say THAT GUYS AN *******. Think about it for just a second….were you a girl that put him in those shoes? Was there a nice guy in your life that you constantly waked all over causing him to change to try to better himself? Guys, how many times has being the nice guy, got you screwed over? Maybe Im just angry and hurt right now but I just wanted to see if anyone sees the logic in it. I think you gave this girl ONE too many chances. Yes I understand you were just being a nice guy, but there are times where you have to put your foot down and say "Enough is Enough". |
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Dump her. It's obvious that she's playin' you, and the reason why she can KEEP playin' you is because you allow it.
Tell her to shove off and go choke on a tire. |
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That's not nice...that's low self worth.
Who made you the rescuer, the back up guy? You did. Reap what you sow. Sorry it's a bit harsh, but it is EXACTLY what you are doing. |
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Edited by
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You made a statement after this story: "Women you wonder why guys are ********? Maybe because most guys realize that’s the only way to keep from being ran all over. Women the next time you say THAT GUYS AN *******. Think about it for just a second….were you a girl that put him in those shoes?"
I'll address that topic and not the trainwreck you told us about with this 'girl'. While I agree that some PEOPLE (not just guys) have baggage and hurt feelings from past relationships, there is no excuse to bring that baggage to the next relationship. My answer is when I see a guy who is a jerk, I don’t care what the reason is – he is a jerk. No one has to be a jerk. Little children do not know how to internalize their emotions but adults should know better. Carring those hang ups from one relationship to another is pure dysfunction. No one can take advantage of you unless you allow them to. If you do -- then take responsibility for allowing it. Just from this story, it sounds like you enjoy the drama or keep company with people that have a lot of drama. Your first order of business should be to keep better company. I wish you the best but you can grow a spine without being a jerk to the next girl.  |
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Honey you got screwed over because you were too blind to see that she was a HO leading you on the whole time. Can we scream BACK UP GUY?!
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This is a very long one..I have a lot on my mind right now….so go get a drink, pop corn, and get ready to laugh at my stupidity. In May 2007 I got engaged to a girl I barely knew, and it didn't work out. I was on mid-tour leave from Iraq, got engaged on a Tuesday and she called it off on Thursday. I flew back to Iraq and got a message from a girl named Jessica, about the blog on my short engagement. She had also senta guy named DJ a message at the same time. They started dating shortly after, and we became friends. I came home in late September, and met her the week I came in. We started talking more and more and he became very jealous. One morning around 130 she calls me hystarical. They had been on the phone all night arguing and fighting. I drive 2 hours to her house, at 130 in the morning. I meet her less than 5 minutes from her house and stay there for the rest of the day. We had our first kiss that night. A day or 2 goes by....they're back together. They break up again and again and again, and I make the trip to her house again and again and again. Well they finally call it quits. I go over spend the night with her multiple times and everything goes smooth. Then one night while laying in bed long story short....she lost her virginity. We arent dating....we are saying I LOVE YOU, doing couples things....but never really dating. This goes on for a few months....she gets her grades...and she failed all her classes at JSU. She says that she's going to quit with relationships, and focus on school. We slowly start talking less and less....but are still saying I LOVE YOU and talking about a future together. One night I try to call and can't get in touch with her, I started feeling so sick. The next morning I wake up check myspace and low and behold...STATUS = IN A RELATIONSHIP. I'm 100% distraught. She calls we talk, cry and I cut ties with her. Then her mom calls me one day and says "You need to talk to her, Im about to kick her out if things don't change" So I call, 3 days into the relationship, they are having sex, and he didn't use a condom. They eventually break up, and I put it aside, and try to work on us again. Mean while DJ has came home and got married. I find out about it laugh, and go on about life, the I LOVE YOU'S start agian, and everything is on the right path again. He calls her, and in under a week gets his marriage annulled, and they are back together. Again Im out in the cold, and have no clue where to go from there. Once again in under a week they start ****ing. I dont hear from her for about 2 months and out of the blue she calls needing help. He came to AL and missed a formation, and was in a team-leader spot so he had to do a 5,000 word essay, and it was due the day before. I help them by doing the whole thing by myself. I gradually start talking to her and things didnt turn out for them. She immediately starts dating someone else, and starts calling me again around the clock. She didnt have a job so she doesnt understand calling me at 2am when I have to be up at 5 isn't the right thing to do. And once again her and the new guy immediately start having intimate encounters. I drop off the face of the earth yet again, but still can't let go of this girl. They only last a few months, and she starts hounding me again. She comes and visits me in GA after I had a parachute accident in jump school. She stays all weekend and things are great. We start talking all the time....I stay up til 3 in the morning just listening to her sleep. I buy her a promise ring and tell her that I promise to always be there for her....everything goes good for 5 months....I talk to her as much as possible, and even pass up on things I want to do so it will make her happy. One night we get off the phone, and she says HEY YOU I HAVE TO TELL YOU SOMETHING.....I ****ING LOVE YOU. The very next day she moves a guy in, and they start dating...This time I expected it. It didn't shock me that it happened. They last a week....she calls every night crying and I stay on the phone with her til 3 or 4 am when I have to get up and go to work at 530. They break up, and incredibly she didn’t put out. She comes to NC for her brothers deployment ceremony. She starts telling me she loves me again….and we start talking about getting together and a future once again. Then she takes a trip to PCB. I don’t talk to her, all weekend which is cool I’m giving her space trying to be a good guy. She goes home yesterday, and posts a survey on myspace here are the answers that absolutely killed me Why did you kiss the last person you kissed? Because I was attracted to him. lol Do you think the last person you kissed cares for you? I dunno about cares, but attracted to, yes. Say something about the last person you kissed? He's hot as hell and a total sweetheart. Did you kiss or hug anyone in the last 48 hours? - Yes and Yes :) Where is the person you last kissed at this moment? - PCB How many times have you kissed the last person you kissed? - A few. Lol So lets recap. Ive been a very nice guy. Gave out way to many chances in the name of love and this is what I get, every time. Women you wonder why guys are ********? Maybe because most guys realize that’s the only way to keep from being ran all over. Women the next time you say THAT GUYS AN *******. Think about it for just a second….were you a girl that put him in those shoes? Was there a nice guy in your life that you constantly waked all over causing him to change to try to better himself? Guys, how many times has being the nice guy, got you screwed over? Maybe Im just angry and hurt right now but I just wanted to see if anyone sees the logic in it. I totally see the logic in this. It just happened to me kind of like this just yesterday on here. Not having the honest answers up front when she has someone else in the back seat ready to kick you out of the passenger door and let the next one sit up front. If It wasn't from the help from a few emails, one which I showed her. One which I didn't, and a help from a very cool dude. So my advice is the last girl that did this to me thought the grass was greener, then again. A few years later it's all boo hoo. Im sorry. I want closure. I told her to **** off. It's the net. I learned not to get your hopes up to high from some woman that's playing around. listen to your instincts brother. As well as her new man playing with a womans heart and dragging her along then dumping her to get with the one I was seeing. As of yesterday. All within a few hours everything changed. For me. It's better. And sometime they wonder why we are ********. I feel your pain. |
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hey. im sorry if i offended you on this ....im not going to punish the next girl over this...im just hurt and speaking on pure emotioin 90% being anger. If I would have let her go...i wouldnt be in the situation.
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The thing that gets me is that you both said "I love you" to each other. When you say those three words, it shouldn't be just said...it should have a meaning. In your case, you might have meant it. But what about the girl? She probably said it just to say it. If she meant it, she wouldn't have guy hopped every time. Honestly, I think you need to move to the next girl. You are wasting your precious life on this girl. There is better. Don't get yourself worked up...move on. Learn from the experience. Best wishes to you in your decision.
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HONEY I HAVE A SIMULAR STORY. WHAT IT SAYS ABOUT YOU IS YOU TRIED YOUR BEST THATS ALL WE CAN DO... YOU BE WHO YOU ARE.. DID YOU DO IT FOR THE RIGHT REASON???? WERE YOU SINCERE ABOUT IT??? BUT DONT BE ANGRY AT HER WE CANT MAKE ANY ONE ELSE HAPPY ITS NOT OUR RESPONSIBILITY .. WE LAY DOWN WITH OUR SELFS AT NIGHT NO ONE ELSE IS IN OUR HEADS RIGHT??? SO IF YOU CAN LAY DOWN AND SLEEP AT NIGHT AND SLEEP GOOD AND HONEST WITH OUR OWN THOUGHT THEN SO BE IT... DONT LET YOUR ATTITUDE LOOSE ITS ALTITUDE. BE HAPPY AND THANK YOU FOR GOING TO IRAQ I SALOTTE YOU MY FRIEND MOVE ON BUT YOU CANT BE A COUPLE UNTIL YOU ARE YOU... CAUSE IT TAKES TWO. SOOO BE YOURSELF
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hey. im sorry if i offended you on this ....im not going to punish the next girl over this...im just hurt and speaking on pure emotioin 90% being anger. If I would have let her go...i wouldnt be in the situation. You seem like a nice young man. The only person you should truly be angry at is yourself for wasting so much time and energy on this girl. Ever heard lie to me once shame on you.. lie to me twice shame on me? Hopefully you have learned a lesson from this. No one should ever let a person put them through this kind of stuff. It can also be classified as emotional/mental abuse. |
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 OK you see that? Ok learn it well. You concerned about how women think men are ********? YOU are responsible for all that happened to you, and ya kept coming back. Whaddaya want? Why do you seek women who are unstable, and obviously in other relationships? AND if ya didnt know.. why do ya continue when you KNOW shes screwing this guy, and that guy, and the same guy, and someone else, and his brother, when your gone for two minutes. You had SO MANY SIGNS, Ya had SO many clues..YOU had EVERY RED FLAG possible. So If you wanna blame women.. thank you. We dont need a guy whos so incomplete seeking us anyway. Your a target for ANY women looking to take advantage of someones ignorance. My advice: stay single, and work on your issues. Do you think you cant do better ya gotta chase some crazy loose woman? COME ON! No pity from me. Good luck. |
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Sorry partner. Its easy to watch the movie, and yell at the actors. Move to the left!, Its behind you! But, the real world ain't like that. If you need something to compare to. I was replaced by a horse. Honest. But, this girl wants a friend or " Ann Landers". Not sure which one.
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I read the title and that last bit, really the middle isn't necessary for my conclusion.
People do not create people, beit a woman or a man. Neither inhibit the actions of the other and neither can get someone to do something they don't want to do. Choices all lead up to that, we make choices on a daily basis...some in light of another person and others without concern of how someone else feels. You did what you did (whatever it was, again didn't read it) because you chose to do what you did. Blaming someone else for your own mistakes only shows lack of responsibility. I know why my relationships failed, it is because I have little to no emotional value. I don't feel, and find actions or words hard to come up with in some situations. I answer most problems with a laugh or joke, I'm rarely serious about anything. I'm the problem, so I do not date. I find it funny when a "nice guy" posts, or even a "BBW". The post is always relatively the same 'why can't I find someone?', I'm not saying this post reflects those as I didn't read your post and rarely read those posts. However, if you can't get past someone else's mistake...how can you ever get past your own? |
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I read every word and I think that brother, you need to cut all ties with her... No disrespect to you but she seems like a real head case. You deserve stability in your life and someone that isn't going to USE you like that when they have problems.
There are many woman out there that won't do that to you... Thanks for your service by the way... good skills and luck in the future man... |
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hey. im sorry if i offended you on this ....im not going to punish the next girl over this...im just hurt and speaking on pure emotioin 90% being anger. If I would have let her go...i wouldnt be in the situation. While it doesn't seem fair to kick a guy when he is down with the whole " what the hell were you thinking" but come on guy you need to have to read your accounting of this last romantic fiasco every day for a month and kick your own arse accordingly. I am sure if you have survived as long as you have in the military that you have learned something about honor. It is never wise to give another human being control over your life when you do not see them practiceing honorable behavior towards others or you. You always have the choice to practice honor and demand it of others. I am not sure what got you off track with this woman. I doubt you are really a drama junkie but if being in the military especially Iraq would not contribute to that I don't know what would. Probably a few things before that. I think I would find a good professional to work it out in private rather than and open forum on the computer. You do need to move forward from this experience. Being angry is one of the first stages of greiving the others won't be nearly so easy. I know it might sound crazy to tell a young viral man to lay off sex but you are confuseing sex with love and don't need a repeat performance. Last I would say jump in and enjoy the Mingle experience. You will find you won't always like what you hear but over all I have seen are most are decent people who will give you a sustained sense of friendship which can not be a negative. Welcome to the family. |
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Hmmm
Everyone said what I was gonna say Welcome Tammy 
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This is a very long one..I have a lot on my mind right now….so go get a drink, pop corn, and get ready to laugh at my stupidity. In May 2007 I got engaged to a girl I barely knew, and it didn't work out. I was on mid-tour leave from Iraq, got engaged on a Tuesday and she called it off on Thursday. I flew back to Iraq and got a message from a girl named Jessica, about the blog on my short engagement. She had also senta guy named DJ a message at the same time. They started dating shortly after, and we became friends. I came home in late September, and met her the week I came in. We started talking more and more and he became very jealous. One morning around 130 she calls me hystarical. They had been on the phone all night arguing and fighting. I drive 2 hours to her house, at 130 in the morning. I meet her less than 5 minutes from her house and stay there for the rest of the day. We had our first kiss that night. A day or 2 goes by....they're back together. They break up again and again and again, and I make the trip to her house again and again and again. Well they finally call it quits. I go over spend the night with her multiple times and everything goes smooth. Then one night while laying in bed long story short....she lost her virginity. We arent dating....we are saying I LOVE YOU, doing couples things....but never really dating. This goes on for a few months....she gets her grades...and she failed all her classes at JSU. She says that she's going to quit with relationships, and focus on school. We slowly start talking less and less....but are still saying I LOVE YOU and talking about a future together. One night I try to call and can't get in touch with her, I started feeling so sick. The next morning I wake up check myspace and low and behold...STATUS = IN A RELATIONSHIP. I'm 100% distraught. She calls we talk, cry and I cut ties with her. Then her mom calls me one day and says "You need to talk to her, Im about to kick her out if things don't change" So I call, 3 days into the relationship, they are having sex, and he didn't use a condom. They eventually break up, and I put it aside, and try to work on us again. Mean while DJ has came home and got married. I find out about it laugh, and go on about life, the I LOVE YOU'S start agian, and everything is on the right path again. He calls her, and in under a week gets his marriage annulled, and they are back together. Again Im out in the cold, and have no clue where to go from there. Once again in under a week they start ****ing. I dont hear from her for about 2 months and out of the blue she calls needing help. He came to AL and missed a formation, and was in a team-leader spot so he had to do a 5,000 word essay, and it was due the day before. I help them by doing the whole thing by myself. I gradually start talking to her and things didnt turn out for them. She immediately starts dating someone else, and starts calling me again around the clock. She didnt have a job so she doesnt understand calling me at 2am when I have to be up at 5 isn't the right thing to do. And once again her and the new guy immediately start having intimate encounters. I drop off the face of the earth yet again, but still can't let go of this girl. They only last a few months, and she starts hounding me again. She comes and visits me in GA after I had a parachute accident in jump school. She stays all weekend and things are great. We start talking all the time....I stay up til 3 in the morning just listening to her sleep. I buy her a promise ring and tell her that I promise to always be there for her....everything goes good for 5 months....I talk to her as much as possible, and even pass up on things I want to do so it will make her happy. One night we get off the phone, and she says HEY YOU I HAVE TO TELL YOU SOMETHING.....I ****ING LOVE YOU. The very next day she moves a guy in, and they start dating...This time I expected it. It didn't shock me that it happened. They last a week....she calls every night crying and I stay on the phone with her til 3 or 4 am when I have to get up and go to work at 530. They break up, and incredibly she didn’t put out. She comes to NC for her brothers deployment ceremony. She starts telling me she loves me again….and we start talking about getting together and a future once again. Then she takes a trip to PCB. I don’t talk to her, all weekend which is cool I’m giving her space trying to be a good guy. She goes home yesterday, and posts a survey on myspace here are the answers that absolutely killed me Why did you kiss the last person you kissed? Because I was attracted to him. lol Do you think the last person you kissed cares for you? I dunno about cares, but attracted to, yes. Say something about the last person you kissed? He's hot as hell and a total sweetheart. Did you kiss or hug anyone in the last 48 hours? - Yes and Yes :) Where is the person you last kissed at this moment? - PCB How many times have you kissed the last person you kissed? - A few. Lol So lets recap. Ive been a very nice guy. Gave out way to many chances in the name of love and this is what I get, every time. Women you wonder why guys are ********? Maybe because most guys realize that’s the only way to keep from being ran all over. Women the next time you say THAT GUYS AN *******. Think about it for just a second….were you a girl that put him in those shoes? Was there a nice guy in your life that you constantly waked all over causing him to change to try to better himself? Guys, how many times has being the nice guy, got you screwed over? Maybe Im just angry and hurt right now but I just wanted to see if anyone sees the logic in it. 
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hey. im sorry if i offended you on this ....im not going to punish the next girl over this...im just hurt and speaking on pure emotioin 90% being anger. If I would have let her go...i wouldnt be in the situation. I am sorry you are feeling so bad. This woman sounds whacked and most likely she will have many problems thru out her entire life. Let it go and do not look back, focus on your life and finding a stable and decent relationship. Hope things improve for you.
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Your story reminds me a bit of my own ill fated love story. The real problem is that a large number of people, men and women, aren't happy with the idea of having a lover who is also your best friend. They need one or the other. So they'll look for someone to f*** based purely on sex appeal and if they begin to really trust you you get shunted into the friends list (or were there already). Don't ask me to explain the difference between having sex with a friend and sex with a lover though. Never made sense to me. |
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