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Topic: How long should one wait?
randyrobinett Joined Tue 10/06/09 Posts: 147	Mon 11/09/09 08:32 AM
I have been separated for 6 months and i am now officially divorced.How long is it proper to wait before I go on an official date.I am ready and willing ,but want to be proper.

moonlight_ride62 Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 4414	Mon 11/09/09 08:35 AM
I have been separated for 6 months and i am now officially divorced.How long is it proper to wait before I go on an official date.I am ready and willing ,but want to be proper. what does being proper have to do with anything...times a wasting...on your mark get set GO

Gossipmpm Joined Tue 03/03/09 Posts: 19414	Mon 11/09/09 08:37 AM
If you feel your ready now Go for it!!!

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Mon 11/09/09 08:37 AM
If you're divorced and mentally ready to date again, go for it. Good luck.

STARTRAVELER Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 9691	Mon 11/09/09 08:38 AM
When your mind is clear and you can get througH a conversation without bringing up your ex. every other sentence unless asked too!Good luck .

wildbill92 Joined Wed 06/03/09 Posts: 237	Mon 11/09/09 08:39 AM
it all depends on the person. i tried to date someone a week after my divorce but it did not work out. so, just ease into it and see where you land. if you see yourself starting to sink...dinstance yourself and take some time off. it can only get better for you, my friend.

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Mon 11/09/09 08:44 AM
I have been separated for 6 months and i am now officially divorced.How long is it proper to wait before I go on an official date.I am ready and willing ,but want to be proper. Meh. Properness sucks. Look, if you are asking this question, then it means that (a) there is someone you want to ask out, (b) you feel ready, but don't know how it will "appear" to her or others if you date now, and (c) YOU ARE OVERANALYZING THIS!!!! Like Nike always says, "Just Do It!"

Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Mon 11/09/09 08:46 AM
I have been separated for 6 months and i am now officially divorced.How long is it proper to wait before I go on an official date.I am ready and willing ,but want to be proper. when you feel your ready...mentally and emotionally.

silly Joined Wed 04/25/07 Posts: 2789	Mon 11/09/09 08:53 AM
I have been separated for 6 months and i am now officially divorced.How long is it proper to wait before I go on an official date.I am ready and willing ,but want to be proper. when you feel your ready...mentally and emotionally. amen

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Mon 11/09/09 09:02 AM
How long were you married? How do you feel about your ex?

michiganman3 Joined Mon 10/29/07 Posts: 14521	Mon 11/09/09 09:07 AM
Do you feel that you really need someone to be with? Can you just go out with women and not be looking for something more? Are you still feeling 'crushed' or 'devastated'? Take your time, you're in no hurry.

Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Mon 11/09/09 09:14 AM
I wouldn't date anyone 6 months out of a marriage..especially if it were a long marriage...just so many adjustments and 6 months really isn't very long. Just my own thoughts from my own experiences...

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Mon 11/09/09 10:20 AM Edited by Goofball73 on Mon 11/09/09 10:32 AM
"Sigh". Okay people. He asked this question, and in doing so, he gave me the impression that he "feels" ready to date. That, or he thinks he is ready for it, and he wants to know if there is like some sort of time limit on how long to wait. Ok. There is no rule book in dating, and as such, there is no law that says when you can or can't date. It is basically your call. You have spent six months single, are divorced, and it is apparent that urge to see what is out there is striking your curiousness. Well, the only way to find out what is out there is to go out and date. I'm sorry, but you are over thinking this way too much, and it seems you are putting alot of pressure on yourself over this too. I just wonder why that is? I waited almost a year before I dated (after my divorce), and I was ready when I did. I never questioned if I was ready at six months because I had no interest in dating. You seem to have this interest, and so I think you should just figure out if you want to do this. If so, then don't half-a$$ it. Go for it. Meet chicks. Date em. See how fun and crazy they are. Enjoy the ride.

catseyes1 Joined Fri 06/19/09 Posts: 1459	Mon 11/09/09 10:21 AM
When you feel you are ready and comfortable to get back in the dating scene.

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Mon 11/09/09 10:26 AM
"Sigh". Okay people. He asked this question, and in doing so, he gave me the impression that he "feels" ready to date. That, or he thinks he is ready for it, and he wants to know if there is like some sort of time limit on how long to wait. Ok. There is no rule book in dating, and as such, there is no law that says when you can or can't date. It is basically your call. You have spent six months single, are divorced, and it is apparent that urge to see what is out there is striking your curiousness. Well, the only way to find out what is out there is to go out and date. I'm sorry, but you are over thinking this way too much, and it seems you are putting alot of pressure on yourself over this too. I just wonder why that is? I waited almost a year before I dated (after my divorce), and I was ready when I did. I never questioned if I was ready at six months because I had no interest in dating. You seem to have this interest, and so I think you should just figure out if you want to do this. If so, then do half-a$$ it. Go for it. Meet chicks. Date em. See how fun and crazy they are. Enjoy the ride.

sinbadd Joined Wed 11/04/09 Posts: 38	Mon 11/09/09 11:46 AM
You should wait entill you want someone not NEED SOMEONE! I am not saying thats what you are doing but divorce sucks ones ego can take a beating and finding someone at times can dull the pain.I say embrace the pain,grow from it,be yourself and like a june bug to a light you WILL attract someone!

randyrobinett Joined Tue 10/06/09 Posts: 147	Mon 11/09/09 01:51 PM
amazing......I got answers that made sense and from the heart from strangers.......thank you ....I learn more each day in here

pkd1220 Joined Thu 05/24/07 Posts: 8318	Mon 11/09/09 01:52 PM
Go out and meet people and just have fun. If you end up going out on a date and it doesn't feel quite right-then you'll know. Enjoy!!

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Mon 11/09/09 01:53 PM
amazing......I got answers that made sense and from the heart from strangers.......thank you ....I learn more each day in here You're welcome, hope it goes well for you.

MelodyGirl Joined Sun 01/25/09 Posts: 9452	Mon 11/09/09 01:54 PM
"Sigh". Okay people. He asked this question, and in doing so, he gave me the impression that he "feels" ready to date. That, or he thinks he is ready for it, and he wants to know if there is like some sort of time limit on how long to wait. Ok. There is no rule book in dating, and as such, there is no law that says when you can or can't date. It is basically your call. You have spent six months single, are divorced, and it is apparent that urge to see what is out there is striking your curiousness. Well, the only way to find out what is out there is to go out and date. I'm sorry, but you are over thinking this way too much, and it seems you are putting alot of pressure on yourself over this too. I just wonder why that is? I waited almost a year before I dated (after my divorce), and I was ready when I did. I never questioned if I was ready at six months because I had no interest in dating. You seem to have this interest, and so I think you should just figure out if you want to do this. If so, then don't half-a$$ it. Go for it. Meet chicks. Date em. See how fun and crazy they are. Enjoy the ride.