Ditto....people aren't likely to change.

Well we went our date, ate Taco Bell and saw Avatar (which is a really awesome movie; by the way)...so we kissed for an hour in the parking lot and WOW...the chemistry was there....just like our first date...it was like he was a different person. I even got the "butterflies" when I was getting ready....So, he said "I love you" and we might get back together after some time. And no, I didn't get laid, but is that really important in the scheme of things? I am haappy and I think I'm going to give it another try. Any opinions, suggestions, or comments are still appreciated.

Question: Would you hop in bed right away, let things happen naturally, or would you consider sleeping with someone else?

I love to hear from everyone,
Cristina

Under special circumstances...which is another way of saying 'no'.

wait....you dated this guy for how long before you got engaged to him and then you broke up? you just went on the first date since the break up and you are asking about sleeping with him?

would I get back with an ex? sure date his brother
just kidding

No I agree with the majority of members here, there is a reason for my breaking up with him, so any type of reconciliation is not an option for me.

Woohooo on your date!!!

question #2 - does not apply as there would be no reconciliation for me.

Good luck to you

no

ABSOLUTELY!!! Right after I get a lobotomy!

one i can say i wouldn't mind getting back with....but it's too late for that

No, I would not hop in bed right away. With a new relationship and definetly not with an ex. Obviously there was/is a reason that you guys broke up and if you are going to see if things are going to work out I would go slow. What has changed to make it work this time around?

You mentioned that you met him here on Mingle2. Does he still have his account? If so what are the chances that he is reading your posts?

Good luck with whatever road you take.

oh dear I hate saying this but realistically ...


If he spent an hour kissing you and said that ... it sounds like he is still looking. He'll keep you close enough as a backup but not as a girlfriend.

And you deserve to be somebody's number ONE!

Do not make someone a priority who makes you an option.


Go out and live your life! Do not put it on hold. If he is ready to commit to a relationship with you again later, YOU can decide if HE is right and worthy of YOU ...


All the best

no i wouldent i would rather string her up from the back of a train for cyote food.

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No, I would not hop in bed right away. With a new relationship and definetly not with an ex. Obviously there was/is a reason that you guys broke up and if you are going to see if things are going to work out I would go slow. What has changed to make it work this time around?

You mentioned that you met him here on Mingle2. Does he still have his account? If so what are the chances that he is reading your posts?

Good luck with whatever road you take.



No, he deactivated his account when we got engaged and he knows about this forum. He went through a really rough spot, lost his house, business, stock money, you name it...his mom passed, etc. He just needed some space and it seemed like he was atotally different guy today...almost better than when we first met. He just asked me over the phone if I would like the ring back??

On another note, I appreciate everyone's comments....and yes I am taking a risk getting back with him, but true love is hard to find!

I will continue to keep everyone posted

In my opinion:

You only dated a small amount of time before getting engaged. You guys have broke off the engagement due to a rough time in his life. Which is usually when a partner is needed. He asked you over the phone if you wanted the ring back.

What is wrong with taking your time to build that relationship? I don't know about you but I think I would be mighty hurt if my fiance pushed me out of his life because life was hard. The thing is you went on one date with him, which you say he has changed (and he could have) but anyone can be who they want to be for a night.

I personally have a bit of an issue that he asked you over the phone if you wanted the ring back. It should have been done in person. If I were you I would think long and good about this. Nothing wrong with slowing things down. If he is the right one it will prove to be so.

I hope you don't get hurt in the process....

I have a bridge that I'll sell to ya real cheap!!!!

one of those wooden ones or a fancy multi-laner job?

Well, we are officially back together....he loves me. I spent the night, and WOW, we really ignited the flame...and jumpstarted our second "honeymoon phase"!! He said that he never wanted the ring back...and that it was my doing. Perhaps, I'll get it back on Valentine's Day.

Thank you to all who replied to this topic!

Cristina

Why do I get this feeling that your relationship is a "sex based love" relationship? Not trying to be BuzzKill McGee here, but from what I have read, it really points to that. Wish you the best though.

Our relationship is not just sex based. We have a well rounded relationship and our sex life is wonderful! I'm glad we're back together!

I went through a period last year where I regretted break ups, until I realized there was a reason I did it, and the regret went away. Most breakups don't just happen, there are reasons for them, and unless one or both people undergo a massive change, there's no need to expect anything more than what you used to get from each other. Everything happens for a reason.

Best to the OP though, I hope it works out for you both.

My man and I broke up because he went through a very rough spot in his life (mid-life crisis)....and he lost his house, his business, his vehichles, stock money, everything. Then hew went into a deep depression and I was on the back burner. Now that he's solved some issues, he has some direction. It was like he was the same man I met, but better, when we hookled back up recently. I'm happy!