Hello again everyone
Well i think i am on the wrong dating site.
I am here to find a nice lady to start a relationship with.
I read profile after profile of ladies looking for the same thing.
When i email them most of the time they don't write back or they write once and never again. I don't know about some of you but i am not here to play games or waste my time.
I know what i am looking for and what i want.
My question to you ladies is what do you want ?

Some women know what they want and others do not.

When it comes to online dating, you have to be patient. You will write lots of people and never get a response. Or you may be emailing and think there is a connection and then that communication stops. It's just a part of online dating.

Be sure to vary your dating activities.... take up a new hobby... join a social group.... go to places that you enjoy (baseball game, museum, etc).

Be sure to join the forums, it's a good place to get to know people.

Best wishes on your search.

It's a lot like the old college trick of figuring out which socks to wash - throw 'em at the wall and wash the ones that stick. Okay ... that might be a bit of a stretch for dating sites, but the point is, y gotta be (1) selective and, (b) patient ... I figure that more communications are NOT responded to than are, so why get upset? Throw more socks ...

i've run out of socks...thank god it's flip flop season

Oh great. Another "I don't play games, I know what I want, I am leaving" thread. Sweet titanium dude. You are one of those people who thinks they go to a site and the next day, they should be making wedding plans aren't cha? This is not an exact science dude. Liven up. If this isn't the place, maybe you will meet a chick on another site. Or maybe while you are out and about in town. Who the hell knows? Then again, you go to another site, you might get the same results. Anyways...good luck.

Quite honestly,if you are relying totally on getting a date from an internet site then you have way to much time on your hands.

I think since you don't "play games" then in my opinion you might want to invest in more than one picture, work on your profile, if you aren't sure what to say with it then please go to profile reviews.

I also don't quite believe you want to leave the site or as most of the people in my experience have done. You would have just quietly leave.

In all honesty you have about 30 seconds to get someone's attention, didn't look as to what age you are, but in my age group 40's we mostly know what we want.

Also you state you send out all these emails, what type of emails. Do you say more than "Hi wanna chat?" if not what do you expect.

Now that you have gotten some emotions out sit down and really think about what you hope to achieve out here and how would your attention be gained and held.

Good luck either way.

Leave it to Sitka to break it down.

Online dating shouldn't be the only egg in your basket. Get out there and live your life, do the things you like to do, learn to enjoy them by yourself.....sometimes we find its not so much fun...and thats OK too. Live YOUR life and when that someone comes along you have something to share; hobbies, interests, adventures........

One yr ago I had one gal I was dating....but going nowhere, then nothing...a month or two later things were really picking up. But I didn't just rely on the online dating thing. I was meeting women from church and from other social activities too.

someone didnt read the welcome message youve only posted four times man not sure about you but when im messaged by total strangers on any site i tend to ignore them people like to get to know the person before they start anything with them relationships arent just something that happen online or in life you have to work for them and get to know many people im sure the women on here get alot of messages their more likely to reply to someone they've seen around have had conversations with and enjoy talking to so dont just sit around moping get involved show your interested and interesting coz lets face it people arent guna just drop in your lap you have to put in the effort too best of luck tho

Walk up to a chick who is in the frozen foods section of the Wal Mart grocery section and say the following.

You: "You know, you really shouldn't be next to the frozen food section."

Her: "Why's that?"

You: "Cause you can melt all this stuff."

Chick will sigh into your arms, five minutes later the panties fall....mission accomplished. Now go...be all you can be.

Thats a good one Goof

maybe they don't write back because they aren't attracted to you.

OR SHE'LL HIT HIM WITH A BOX OF FROZEN BRUSSEL SPROUTS



BUT HEY IT'S WORTH A CHANCE....NOTHING VENTURED, NOTHING GAINED...

There have been some good responses about both online and offline dating. I'm going to expound on the online dating since it seems that this is what you are steering your question toward (?).
This is simply a visual medium , so you need to put out as much info as you can, while staying ultra positive.
Sometimes we get burned out by humanity- and we need a break- then , ironically, it is humanity that pulls us back in when we are both mentally and emotionally refreshed.

Take a break from looking.

Take a break from dating.

Just have fun online and get to know people as friends.

You will see another side to people and hopefully meet some friends who will grow into relationships- who knows?

No worries :)

best wishes


btw- put your best foot forward- keep current, clear photos online
I add a new pic about every 6-8 weeks, or monthly

polish your resume to reflect who you are and what you are really looking for

Most women wants a man that wants her the same way that she wants them....

Most don't want the games or drama.......

Most want to be treated with respect and to be noticed...

They don't want men that whine when they don't get their way....

They want a man that has a mind of their own and know how to use it...

They want a man that can hold a conversation beyond how ya doing or how was your day........

They don't want to be ignored........

Last but least they don't want to feel as if they are just and item on a shelf that has a sign around their neck that says pick me pick me.......

What I mean by that too many take it to heart that a dating site is like going to the store you see what you want and you grab it and it is yours..........not so here you may find what you want but in reality it may not see the other person as whom they want.... So regardless online or in person........one must take one step at a time to see if two people will connect....

Most likely if they do not write back or the e-mails stop after only a few. Then either there is not enough within the e-mails to answer someone back or it's just plain and simple they are not interested in that person. Therefore they do not answer them back.......

Can I join the pity party?



SWEEEET! Thanks for the invitation!




I guess it depends on what constitutes a waste of time...I've met one person on here, really liked her, but it just didn't work out(because I wasn't ready for a relationship) she is still an awesome person and a good friend...so did I waste my time? no I wouldn't think so, I gained a friend out of it. And my life is honestly better for it.

I come on here and 'play games' as well...I don't post as often as I use to but it is fun, and I get to know some people better than others and have made a couple of friends...so in reality my 'playing games' didn't end up being a waste of time either.

Now that I have defended myself here is my advice...LIGHTEN UP....have fun, 'play' a few games on here and trust me you will catch someones attention, maybe that 'perfect' someone will read what you said and completely relate..but how can they relate to who you are when they don't know WHO you are. Online one of the best ways to 'get to know someone' is by reading there posts..or posting in topics that you are interested in...because guess what..if someone else is posting in that topic as well..you already have a conversation starter...even if your opinions don't agree it gives you something to talk about.

Well a dating site is a lot like fishing isn't it? Just because you drop you hook in the water; doesn't mean someone will bite. It takes a lot of patience to find someone. Also as the beautiful spring and soon to be summer weather approaches; more of us will be outdoors and less online anyways; so get out there. I have met some neat people just on the bicycle paths or walking clubs. Of course there are outdoor concerts, singles dinners,volunteer groups, etc. Hey; try your luck with some local groups; never know who you will meet. Good luck to you and cheers.