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Topic: Cheating
ChangeofHeart Joined Sun 10/26/08 Posts: 1280	Fri 07/09/10 01:55 AM
in the end of the topic a cheater is not always be a cheater Always. We just get better at it.

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Fri 07/09/10 01:56 AM
Well sometimes you have that dessert you are not suppose to. You just dont tell anyone, you just enjoy it while it last. Ahhhhhhhh my friend....BUT it is dishonest, correct? Usually the other person finds out eventually If you a are a dumb cheater, you will get caught. True. But a true cheater knows how not to let cheating become thier life. Just a part of thier life. well I did say usually. Either way....I have no use for someone like that in my life.

ChangeofHeart Joined Sun 10/26/08 Posts: 1280	Fri 07/09/10 01:58 AM
Well sometimes you have that dessert you are not suppose to. You just dont tell anyone, you just enjoy it while it last. Ahhhhhhhh my friend....BUT it is dishonest, correct? Usually the other person finds out eventually If you a are a dumb cheater, you will get caught. True. But a true cheater knows how not to let cheating become thier life. Just a part of thier life. well I did say usually. Either way....I have no use for someone like that in my life. Well hoprfully they tell you up front that they may cheat on you. NOT!

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Fri 07/09/10 02:00 AM
the honest ones will tell you that they don't want an exclusive relationship. I can respect that. I can't respect liars or cheaters. I don't believe once a cheat always a cheat. some learn the lesson about how much they hurt others....some don't. I am not willing to give 2nd chances in a relationship when someone cheated on me. That is a HUGE disrespect for me.

ChangeofHeart Joined Sun 10/26/08 Posts: 1280	Fri 07/09/10 02:05 AM
the honest ones will tell you that they don't want an exclusive relationship. I can respect that. I can't respect liars or cheaters. I don't believe once a cheat always a cheat. some learn the lesson about how much they hurt others....some don't. I am not willing to give 2nd chances in a relationship when someone cheated on me. That is a HUGE disrespect for me. kaysarasara

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Fri 07/09/10 02:07 AM
the honest ones will tell you that they don't want an exclusive relationship. I can respect that. I can't respect liars or cheaters. I don't believe once a cheat always a cheat. some learn the lesson about how much they hurt others....some don't. I am not willing to give 2nd chances in a relationship when someone cheated on me. That is a HUGE disrespect for me. kaysarasara yeppers

tombraider Joined Wed 09/12/07 Posts: 5042	Fri 07/09/10 02:38 AM
...QUE SERA SERA...

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Fri 07/09/10 04:21 AM
The unfortunate part is cheating is extremely common these days. I don't approve of it & I don't give second chances!

AGoodGuy1026 Joined Wed 04/22/09 Posts: 1333	Fri 07/09/10 06:19 AM Edited by AGoodGuy1026 on Fri 07/09/10 06:20 AM
anyone that wants more than one shouldn't be in a monogamous relationship. If someone wants more than one then either leave the relationship or let the others know you don't want to be exclusive. If someone wants to "play the field"...I don't care...just be honest about it. IMO cheating is cowardly. It implies tricks, lies, etc. Something I have no use for myself Now if someone is honest with me, then I have a choice to be ok with it or move on, but I could at least respect their honesty yes, it's that simple... sadly, cheaters have poor character and are selfish and immature... so they cannot realize the simple things mentioned above.... $.02

OKCUTIE67 Joined Fri 04/02/10 Posts: 2118	Fri 07/09/10 08:03 AM
the honest ones will tell you that they don't want an exclusive relationship. I can respect that. I can't respect liars or cheaters. I don't believe once a cheat always a cheat. some learn the lesson about how much they hurt others....some don't. I am not willing to give 2nd chances in a relationship when someone cheated on me. That is a HUGE disrespect for me.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Fri 07/09/10 08:20 AM
Just a curious question for people out there in Mingle land. Say you are dating someone and you find out they cheated on you, do you give another chance? If so, how many? Personally, I don't give second chances. Once you mess up, that's it. What about you guys? Been there, done that. In the future there will be no more chances. If you cheat, you're gone.

silly Joined Wed 04/25/07 Posts: 2789	Fri 07/09/10 08:27 AM
cheating (IMO) is one of the most hurtful things you can do to someone. I don't give second chances on it. That is a bridge burned immediately. I would just move on. Isnt it really just a fantasy that we can only have or want one person? Just asking, I think about it myself. anyone that wants more than one shouldn't be in a monogamous relationship. If someone wants more than one then either leave the relationship or let the others know you don't want to be exclusive. If someone wants to "play the field"...I don't care...just be honest about it. IMO cheating is cowardly. It implies tricks, lies, etc. Something I have no use for myself Now if someone is honest with me, then I have a choice to be ok with it or move on, but I could at least respect their honesty

silly Joined Wed 04/25/07 Posts: 2789	Fri 07/09/10 08:29 AM
u cheat on me I'm out so fast.bye bye

red_lace Joined Sat 04/17/10 Posts: 7247	Fri 07/09/10 09:01 AM
Just a curious question for people out there in Mingle land. Say you are dating someone and you find out they cheated on you, do you give another chance? If so, how many? Personally, I don't give second chances. Once you mess up, that's it. What about you guys? I feel the same as almost everyone about this subject, in that I want a partner I can absolutely trust in anything. On a slightly different note, yes, there are habitual cheaters out there who cheats for reasons most would consider sickening. But I also know that there are those who are not as bad as we paint them to be. When our partners cheat, we may want to ask ourselves "Why?". There are underlying reasons as to why a person chooses to sabotage a relationship. And there are times when the reasons has something to do with you as a partner. Just my two cents.

Kings_Knight Joined Sat 01/31/09 Posts: 3718	Fri 07/09/10 10:36 AM
No. It really IS that simple ...

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Fri 07/09/10 10:55 AM
Love when she tries to defend her cheating ways by saying, "You see honey. I was just laying on the bed....with my clothes off....and the other guy (he was naked too) just tripped, slipped....and OOOPPPSSSSS......his pecker fell inside me. That really is how it happened and I am totally innocent. I was just a victim of circumstance".

Seakolony Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 11968	Fri 07/09/10 11:02 AM
awwwwww, c'mon guys nothin' wrong wit a 'lil strange now and again, right?? LMAO BTW, can anyone spare a square??

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Fri 07/09/10 11:13 AM
awwwwww, c'mon guys nothin' wrong wit a 'lil strange now and again, right?? LMAO BTW, can anyone spare a square?? OMG.....you said "strange"!

Seakolony Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 11968	Fri 07/09/10 12:13 PM
awwwwww, c'mon guys nothin' wrong wit a 'lil strange now and again, right?? LMAO BTW, can anyone spare a square?? OMG.....you said "strange"! What's wrong wit da word strange?

Suzanne20 Joined Thu 11/15/07 Posts: 9261	Fri 07/09/10 10:40 PM
Totally agree with the general consensus here. Once you cheat, you're gone. As far as LDRs, I totally believe that both people have needs but they should talk about that before embarking on that journey. If you can't be exclusive, there are people out there willing to accept that so just talk. Communication is key.