ok so this guy i met at work over a year ago and i were hitting it off but before we made things offical he had to move to wisconsin, we tried to work things out but the distance thing just didnt work, so we stayed friends writing back and forth, then later on he found someone new and they dated, moved in together...then they started fighting and now they have called it quits and he is now moving back to cali, what i want to know is it wrong of me to feel happy about this, and also what should i expect when he comes back, should i go for it?

I would feel happy too :P

how long ago did they call it quits? He might still be hurting from the relationship. I think you should make an effort to meet up and everything since you guys are still friends. Just take it slowly, but definitely go for it :)

Thanx!!! they were fighting for a couple of months, and just recently broke up. i just didn't know if it was ok to be happy about it, even though i would never admit it to him because i know hes probably upset... my plan is to comfort him when he gets here!

I say go for it, but be considerate of his feelings at the moment too. Good luck!

sometimes people cant help their circumstances. if he had to move, I wouldnt hold that against him and I wouldnt expect him to be holding out for a casual relationship instead of moving on,,,,,,

I say, if there was chemistry,, go for it

IM gonna edit this to add that you should be careful and very AWARE IF he is only recently broken up,, it could suck if you end up as just a rebound (but perhaps she was the rebound from you),,,,,take it extra slow, be honest about your concerns and try friendship as the goal,,,see where that takes ya,,,good luck

i think you would be crazy if you "went for it"...he may not have been telling you the truth to begin with...but then again, i've been wrong b4.

why would he be not telling the truth??

Shag and make him realize that he should have never left Cali. Word!

I think it is ok to be happy about it. I mean it's not like you did anything to break it up right? But do approach this without having any preset expectations and possibly take it slow. Enjoy.

Let the past sleep.....

Because some people lie and manipulate with an agenda...

You all have very good points...

Take it slow and keep in mind you don`t deserve to be the rebound or second best to any guy.

Everyone deserves to someone`s number 1.

Good point.

Go slow...just go on a few dates without getting involved too deep and see how he acts.

To be honest I have never knew a guy who was actually hurt from a break up. I know all kinds that pretend to be hurt to get a sympathy lay. Maybe it's just the guys I know.. I dunno

Feel happy about it. Just don't tell him. no harm/ no foul. Go for it, but go for it like a leopard. slowly and stealthily stalk your prey so as not to spook them. than before they know it you already have your fangs in them and it too late for escape.

Go slow...be patient...blah, blah, blah. Look, you already said you two were into one another and then he moved away. Distance thing didn't work out, so now he is coming back. Go out, and if it feels good, shag him hard! Goof out!

goof i love your advice!!!

Let me elaborate more on your situation. See, you two already have chemistry, attraction and it is obvious that both of you are into one another. You both tried an LDR, and it didn't work. That still does not mean that the feelings you have just went away. Obviously he got with this other chick because he was lonely. Can't fault someone for that. If you can't handle being alone, then it will make you look for someone. But what he really wanted was you. The way I see it, he dated this other chick as his "rebound", and it went just like all rebound relationships normally do. Anyways, when you see him (and he sees you) those feelings you both had will either come back to you. Or, you will look at one another and figure out that things have changed. You said you were happy that his relationship failed, and there is nothing wrong with being happy about it because you want the guy. And I feel that he wants you too. So, as I said, see him and if all those feelings are there, rape him. Ahhhhhhhh. Love.

It's not wrong to feel your own emotions

what to expect?

Don't have to many expectations either way

let things flow the way they will. Good or bad

handle accordingly

I think you need to step out of the situation and look at it from a different perspective.

Did he tell you up front while writing with you that he got involved in another relationship?

Are you his go to person when things don't work out? (Will this be a pattern?)

Was he emotionally involved with you when in the other relationship?

What was the true reason for moving to WI? Why is he moving back?

Look at everything as unemotional as possible before you decide to take anything further.

Best wishes.