Sounds like it would be
wise to figure out how to
recognize these qualities
in people... those things
that people do that demonstrate
loyalty and a certain ability
to navigate through tough times...

the love "feelings" are cool
and all... but I look for deeper
chit as well. To me, that's the more
important stuff... so that's what
I look for now.

when you look at the divorce rate..
I`m gonna have to agree with you..
but since I`m not married or have never been married...
maybe I best keep my mouth shut....

Several of my couple friends have "fallen in love" over the last short period of time and are planning cohabition and/or marriage. The issue is, although I wish them the best, it seems that as I grow older, I have seen and experienced that even if you love that person, doesn't mean they're the right one for you.

After an initial period goes by -- then the arguments start up over this, that and then eventually -- everything.

This tells me that they didn't take the time to compromise or discuss how they planned to live their lives after reality sets in. BEFORE THE BIG SHINDIG. It's all fine and dandy to have a big ol' wedding party planned, but what about the mundane day to day things that have to be taken care of too after THE BIG DAY. How much time is spent deciding these things? The minutae of daily life does sometimes hit you hard after the wedding planning and party have wound down.

The wedding is better discussed and planned than the marriage. I believe ppl do not openly address most of the reality situations that can come up. Finances, trash, laundry, bills and spending (again the financial thing), social life, cooking, in some case, raising kids, shopping etc., etc.

Then, they're surprised that after a while, it's not quite as romantic and then the fights and arguments start.

All I'm saying is that there's nothing wrong with marriage -- it's that we end up marrying the wrong person or for the wrong reasons. Which means, eventually it's doomed.

No, not keep quiet with your opinions, maybe you've seen some of this as well, through the years and decided it wasn't for you. Maybe you're wiser that you give yourself credit for. May this bouquet walk up the aisle with you one day (if that's what you want). Beware my words and thoughts

I believe that the major problem with marriage isn't that people marry the "wrong one". I mean, sure, that does happen. But the major thing is that people just do not want to work on a marriage. When it gets hard, or depressing, or seems to just not be what they thought it was going to be, people want to abandon ship.

My Grandparents have been married over 50 years. In that time frame, they were divorced one time (a year), seperated, and have faced many challenges that most couples face. And why did they go through all of that and still end up being together? Because they fought hard for it. Yeah. Both of them made mistakes. But at the end of the day, they loved each other so much that they would go through Hell for one another.

People these days don't want to do it. It is so easy to just toss the old relationship aside and move on to another one. This feeling mostly steems from the initial "high" that you get when you first fall for someone. You all know the feeling I am talking about. And that is basically what is happening today. Toss the old one away and get a new one. Keep them for a couple of years, or until they become a nag, toss and repeat process. Sad.....but true.

I know love isnt enough. I was young when I first married, shhh I still am, but eventually as we grew up we realised what we ultamitly wanted out of life dindnt coinside. We wanted the same things as youth but as my x continued colege she grew to want a knew lifestyle one that I didnt wnt to live. So the women I loved for two years of my life no longer existed and WE LITTERALY GREW APART.

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No, not keep quiet with your opinions, maybe you've seen some of this as well, through the years and decided it wasn't for you. Maybe you're wiser that you give yourself credit for. May this bouquet walk up the aisle with you one day (if that's what you want). Beware my words and thoughts

I believe that the major problem with marriage isn't that people marry the "wrong one". I mean, sure, that does happen. But the major thing is that people just do not want to work on a marriage. When it gets hard, or depressing, or seems to just not be what they thought it was going to be, people want to abandon ship.

My Grandparents have been married over 50 years. In that time frame, they were divorced one time (a year), seperated, and have faced many challenges that most couples face. And why did they go through all of that and still end up being together? Because they fought hard for it. Yeah. Both of them made mistakes. But at the end of the day, they loved each other so much that they would go through Hell for one another.

People these days don't want to do it. It is so easy to just toss the old relationship aside and move on to another one. This feeling mostly steems from the initial "high" that you get when you first fall for someone. You all know the feeling I am talking about. And that is basically what is happening today. Toss the old one away and get a new one. Keep them for a couple of years, or until they become a nag, toss and repeat process. Sad.....but true.

I believe that the major problem with marriage isn't that people marry the "wrong one". I mean, sure, that does happen. But the major thing is that people just do not want to work on a marriage. When it gets hard, or depressing, or seems to just not be what they thought it was going to be, people want to abandon ship.

My Grandparents have been married over 50 years. In that time frame, they were divorced one time (a year), seperated, and have faced many challenges that most couples face. And why did they go through all of that and still end up being together? Because they fought hard for it. Yeah. Both of them made mistakes. But at the end of the day, they loved each other so much that they would go through Hell for one another.

People these days don't want to do it. It is so easy to just toss the old relationship aside and move on to another one. This feeling mostly steems from the initial "high" that you get when you first fall for someone. You all know the feeling I am talking about. And that is basically what is happening today. Toss the old one away and get a new one. Keep them for a couple of years, or until they become a nag, toss and repeat process. Sad.....but true.

LMAO @ Atlantis

..then that lead me to watch Lady Gaga videos.

Thanks to you for Britney Spears..then that lead me to watch Lady Gaga videos.