In deffence of the general man, we dont allways blame the women... Though all my x's did **** up. Ahhh never mined.

Everyone has a hard time admitting they are wrong. Eventually all the small things build up and the truth finally comes out. Over all the small trivial things. But everything happens for a reason and that means there is a better man waiting for you around the corner. Sorry things ended the way they did.

because it's always the woman's fault

Its the other guy's fault. Gee. that was an easy answer.

The last thing you want to admit is that it is your fault because when you do that then everything becomes your fault. That is one lesson I learned from being married in the past.

The most wonderful thing about divorce is that you can find out what is really your fault. Then you can accept when your ex said that you have nobody to blame but yourself. But until the divorce is just theory.

where r they?

oh go away u silly man

The more feminine one, because one always is, O' No You Didn'T

You can always blame the dog or cat, too.
Teacher: Why didn't you bring your homework in, today?
Student: Because the dog chewed it up.

Maybe because the female even though may be right has no right to rub it in that they are right and should admit their own culpability in said argument leading to said split.........after all it takes two to cause a split even if it seems trivial to one person certain things aren't so trivial to another.....

Yup, she just went 'legal' on ya'. (lol)

Now that is just madness!

I definately thank you all for your responses...some very good advice. :)

To Dodo David,

I cook, I clean, I take good care of him. I don't nitpick or even nag this man, and he refuses to help with anything or even take a shower, he puts smelly sweat socks on the kitchen table while dinner is being served, he watches football all day long saturday=college football, sunday=NFL sunday, monday= monday night football and a little NCIS...the list goes on and on, which = no time for us and when we do spend time together all HE does is nag about how I didn't iron his shirt correctly or fold his t-shirts into the draw properly...now whats your synopsis sir?

Yeah, sorry, my name isn't David but I've got some questions...if you don't mind.

You "take good care of him." Does he feel that you take good care of him?

He "refuses to help with anything or even take a shower." What do you mean by 'anything'? And, you have been involved with him for how long? Surely you knew long ago about his bathroom habits, right? So, why is it such a big deal now..after all this time?

He is apparently big on the football thing. Well, you could toss the TV's out but I would imagine he would find another locale to watch the games in. Or, you could be grateful that he's home...not in some other woman's bed...but, home with you.

If his nagging is getting to be too much for you, explain it to him. Or, (my own personal method) give him a taste of what nagging feels like. I am not saying go full tilt on the nagging, just spend a few days griping about every little thing you think he's doing wrong. Then ask him, "How does that feel?" I've had a lot of success with this method.

It seems to me that you feel you are not being given credit for everything you do for this gentleman. That's great but, silly question here, have you tried sitting him down and talking about this at all?

Now I have a question for DivineStrength.

If you were not married to the man, then . . .

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. . . what the hell were you doing living with him?


If you permitted him to get between your legs without him being married to you, then you sent him the signal that you did not have high standards.

If you agreed to live with him without the two of you being married, then you gave him the message that you could be taken advantage of.

You blame the guy for a bad relationship, and yet you set yourself up for the bad relationship because of your own low standards.

Back before I met my late wife, I was in a bad relationship with a another women as a result of me lowering my moral standards. I made the mistake of living with her without being married to her. Wow did I ever get hurt as a result of what I did.

I learned my lesson and moved on. Later, when I met my late wife, she and I built a relationship on something other than sex. I did not get between her thighs until after our wedding.

Divine, no matter what your guy did or didn't do, you would never had been in that situation if you had maintained high moral standards for yourself.

Yes, you are aching inside. I did, too. Yet, you can have a fresh start like I did, but in order to do so, you have to admit to your own weaknesses just like I admitted to mine.

True love is still somewhere out there waiting for you. Somewhere there is a man who will give you love and physical affection without insisting on getting between your legs before marriage.

Until you meet true love, keep reminding yourself about the truth:

You are precious. You are priceless. You are lovable. You are beautiful.

Any time that you want to see beauty, just look in a mirror.

Clearly the boyfriend you just broke up with did not deserve you.

By the way, your now-ex-boyfriend did not suddenly change after the two of you began living together. He is the same way that he was when you first met him. Why did you choose him in the first place?

I hate to say it but dump that guy he is only using you. You can find much better then that and one that would appreciate you. Not all men are like that you just got hold of the bad egg in the bunch..............

Why are you taking good care of a guy who acts like that? Sounds like he needs to learn to take care of himself.

When we blame others, we don't want to look at ourselves.

Every relationship takes two to make and two to break it.