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Topic: Is it just me
Troublebug Joined Sat 09/11/10 Posts: 10912	Wed 06/22/11 09:00 PM
or does anyone else find it a bit off putting when people have to say (or write/type/whatever) they are attractive? Besides, isn't attractiveness and beauty subjective? I agree There's something about reading a profile that has pictures and they describe themselves as handsome, attractive. Isn't that my preference. I mean I'm all for self esteem, But perhaps in my eyes you aren't as handsome as you think. To each his own. EVERYONE has difference preferences.

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Wed 06/22/11 09:03 PM
or does anyone else find it a bit off putting when people have to say (or write/type/whatever) they are attractive? Besides, isn't attractiveness and beauty subjective? I know very modest ACTING women,,who REALLY are conceted,,in their real lives,,not on here.. And I kmow some who reflect,,to themselves a very plain face,,even though many have said THEY were beautiful.. But as to your question,,,anyone and EVERYONE who posts a pic,,,believe THEY are at least OK,,or they wouldn't post one.. But the ones who only show their BEST PICS,,and never just a candid one,,mostly are with a very high believing ego.. As for bragging or show-boating themselves on their looks,,in ANY real way,,,is for me,,a turn-off quickly...

noidea7 Joined Thu 06/16/11 Posts: 1	Wed 06/22/11 09:16 PM
or does anyone else find it a bit off putting when people have to say (or write/type/whatever) they are attractive? Besides, isn't attractiveness and beauty subjective? I agree There's something about reading a profile that has pictures and they describe themselves as handsome, attractive. Isn't that my preference. I mean I'm all for self esteem, But perhaps in my eyes you aren't as handsome as you think. To each his own. EVERYONE has difference preferences. I don't find this "a bit" off putting--I find it repulsive. There are two kinds of profiles that I immediately ignore: 1) the ones that have specific physical requirements for a match or discuss their own physical attractiveness and 2) the ones that think that their picture and vital stats are all you need to know about them. Frankly Scarlet, I don't give a damn what you look like, symmetrical or not. I can't see what you look like in the dark Wux, you comments on beauty and natural selection are brilliant, but we need to talk about your hamper fetish!

BettyB Joined Tue 01/29/08 Posts: 31912	Thu 06/23/11 08:43 AM
Then I'm sure you can explain it in a different way in order to make yourself more clear. If you're disagreeing with me when I say skinny doesn't mean extra weight, can you show me an example that proves that wrong? When is skinny used to describe someone who does have extra weight? I don't understand this either. I always thought skinny meant underweight. Thin or slender good weight. Maybe I am missing something too. Thin, skinny, fat are all subjective descriptor words. Each person has their own mental definition of what a fat, thin or skinny person looks like. If you asked me to think of an anorexic thin woman, I would think Courtney Cox. You might not agree with me, that's what makes the word "thin" subjective. One man's fat is another man's thin is another man's skinny. ok...now I understand what you are saying.Thanks for the explanation.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 06/23/11 11:55 AM
or does anyone else find it a bit off putting when people have to say (or write/type/whatever) they are attractive? Besides, isn't attractiveness and beauty subjective? I agree There's something about reading a profile that has pictures and they describe themselves as handsome, attractive. Isn't that my preference. I mean I'm all for self esteem, But perhaps in my eyes you aren't as handsome as you think. To each his own. EVERYONE has difference preferences. Yes, I agree. I just think these people that say they are attractive or handsome are just confident in themselves and I see nothing wrong with it. The alternative is someone who doesn't feel attractive and needs reassurance 24/7 as they have a low self esteem. I dated one and it takes a lot out of you and is very frustrating.

winterblue56 Joined Sun 12/12/10 Posts: 2465	Thu 06/23/11 02:37 PM
or does anyone else find it a bit off putting when people have to say (or write/type/whatever) they are attractive? Besides, isn't attractiveness and beauty subjective? I get a giggle out of it because if they stand in the mirror and say to themselves "Aren't I pretty/handsome", they may also be the one's that do not see the flaws in themselves. They may also not be humbled enough to say a "thank you" that they are blessed...because in the blink of an eye, it could be taken away. They may also be the ones that are not able to look beyond the sterotype of their own "perfect" world. I will always believe that Beauty is in the Eyes of the Beholder.

spegeln Joined Tue 04/05/11 Posts: 113	Sat 07/02/11 10:38 AM
or does anyone else find it a bit off putting when people have to say (or write/type/whatever) they are attractive? Besides, isn't attractiveness and beauty subjective? I agree There's something about reading a profile that has pictures and they describe themselves as handsome, attractive. Isn't that my preference. I mean I'm all for self esteem, But perhaps in my eyes you aren't as handsome as you think. To each his own. EVERYONE has difference preferences. Yes, I agree. I just think these people that say they are attractive or handsome are just confident in themselves and I see nothing wrong with it. The alternative is someone who doesn't feel attractive and needs reassurance 24/7 as they have a low self esteem. I dated one and it takes a lot out of you and is very frustrating. When you have low selfesteem and dont like yourself It´s hard to believe that others find you attractive. I mean I rarely go out clubbing or to a bar thinking "whats the point I never meet anyone cause all the others are better looking than me" So I stay home and curse the world for being shallow...

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45342	Sat 07/02/11 12:08 PM
Is it just me or does anyone else find it a bit off putting when people have to say (or write/type/whatever) they are attractive? Besides, isn't attractiveness and beauty subjective? COMPLETELY off-putting. I always suspect deep insecurities when someone has to tell you they are attractive. I think sometimes they see it as confidence. It does not come across that way at all. They trigger my sympathies.

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Sat 07/02/11 12:19 PM
or does anyone else find it a bit off putting when people have to say (or write/type/whatever) they are attractive? Besides, isn't attractiveness and beauty subjective? I agree. don't tell me how good looking you are...I'll tell you how good looking you are...

dconexion Joined Tue 06/08/10 Posts: 168	Sat 07/02/11 02:24 PM
I'm smart, good looking, fun to be with... translation I have difficulty communicating with others, I'm conceited, I take up more space than I deserve

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Sat 07/02/11 02:36 PM
or does anyone else find it a bit off putting when people have to say (or write/type/whatever) they are attractive? Besides, isn't attractiveness and beauty subjective? I agree There's something about reading a profile that has pictures and they describe themselves as handsome, attractive. Isn't that my preference. I mean I'm all for self esteem, But perhaps in my eyes you aren't as handsome as you think. To each his own. EVERYONE has difference preferences. Yes, I agree. I just think these people that say they are attractive or handsome are just confident in themselves and I see nothing wrong with it. The alternative is someone who doesn't feel attractive and needs reassurance 24/7 as they have a low self esteem. I dated one and it takes a lot out of you and is very frustrating. When you have low selfesteem and dont like yourself It´s hard to believe that others find you attractive. I mean I rarely go out clubbing or to a bar thinking "whats the point I never meet anyone cause all the others are better looking than me" So I stay home and curse the world for being shallow... The world has and always will be shallow. I have had lots of guys tell me I am too fat and not pretty enough and I hear this just about every other day. Why should my self esteem go down because men don't find me attractive? Who cares what anyone else thinks. No matter how good looking one person is; there will always be someone better looking; that is life. Personally, I don't see anything wrong with your looks and you should feel good about the way you look. I say you should go out and walk with your head held high. Don't let society tell you otherwise.

dconexion Joined Tue 06/08/10 Posts: 168	Sat 07/02/11 02:54 PM
stuffed AND hollow

spegeln Joined Tue 04/05/11 Posts: 113	Sat 07/02/11 03:41 PM
or does anyone else find it a bit off putting when people have to say (or write/type/whatever) they are attractive? Besides, isn't attractiveness and beauty subjective? I agree There's something about reading a profile that has pictures and they describe themselves as handsome, attractive. Isn't that my preference. I mean I'm all for self esteem, But perhaps in my eyes you aren't as handsome as you think. To each his own. EVERYONE has difference preferences. Yes, I agree. I just think these people that say they are attractive or handsome are just confident in themselves and I see nothing wrong with it. The alternative is someone who doesn't feel attractive and needs reassurance 24/7 as they have a low self esteem. I dated one and it takes a lot out of you and is very frustrating. When you have low selfesteem and dont like yourself It´s hard to believe that others find you attractive. I mean I rarely go out clubbing or to a bar thinking "whats the point I never meet anyone cause all the others are better looking than me" So I stay home and curse the world for being shallow... The world has and always will be shallow. I have had lots of guys tell me I am too fat and not pretty enough and I hear this just about every other day. Why should my self esteem go down because men don't find me attractive? Who cares what anyone else thinks. No matter how good looking one person is; there will always be someone better looking; that is life. Personally, I don't see anything wrong with your looks and you should feel good about the way you look. I say you should go out and walk with your head held high. Don't let society tell you otherwise. thanks!

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Sat 07/02/11 05:24 PM
or does anyone else find it a bit off putting when people have to say (or write/type/whatever) they are attractive? Besides, isn't attractiveness and beauty subjective? I agree There's something about reading a profile that has pictures and they describe themselves as handsome, attractive. Isn't that my preference. I mean I'm all for self esteem, But perhaps in my eyes you aren't as handsome as you think. To each his own. EVERYONE has difference preferences. Yes, I agree. I just think these people that say they are attractive or handsome are just confident in themselves and I see nothing wrong with it. The alternative is someone who doesn't feel attractive and needs reassurance 24/7 as they have a low self esteem. I dated one and it takes a lot out of you and is very frustrating. When you have low selfesteem and dont like yourself It´s hard to believe that others find you attractive. I mean I rarely go out clubbing or to a bar thinking "whats the point I never meet anyone cause all the others are better looking than me" So I stay home and curse the world for being shallow... The world has and always will be shallow. I have had lots of guys tell me I am too fat and not pretty enough and I hear this just about every other day. Why should my self esteem go down because men don't find me attractive? Who cares what anyone else thinks. No matter how good looking one person is; there will always be someone better looking; that is life. Personally, I don't see anything wrong with your looks and you should feel good about the way you look. I say you should go out and walk with your head held high. Don't let society tell you otherwise. thanks! You are very welcome.

Rawrr_Girl Joined Sun 10/04/09 Posts: 4431	Sat 07/02/11 08:19 PM
or does anyone else find it a bit off putting when people have to say (or write/type/whatever) they are attractive? Besides, isn't attractiveness and beauty subjective? Yes it puts me off for life, lol. It's quite vomit-inducing. Especially when there is no intelligence there.

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Sat 07/02/11 08:25 PM Edited by RKISIT on Sat 07/02/11 08:28 PM
or does anyone else find it a bit off putting when people have to say (or write/type/whatever) they are attractive? Besides, isn't attractiveness and beauty subjective? maybe it's a confidence build?

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Sat 07/02/11 08:29 PM
Perhaps, it's still a bit off putting though.

eileena9 Joined Fri 04/13/07 Posts: 28211	Sun 07/03/11 07:34 PM
Gee, I guess you don't like my profile.....

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Sun 07/03/11 07:45 PM
That's not what I'm talking about silly.

Jess642 Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 22732	Mon 07/04/11 02:47 AM
Hmmmm...beauty...is that generic attractiveness within the average concensus? Or is it the heart, spirit, soul that shines through, that is felt like an aura of incredible perfume surrounding someone? I have some of the most amazingly beautiful people in my life....they take my breath away being near them...and yet....if I lined up their photos and asked someone else...they would not be generically attractive.