Topic: LDR - Still possible?
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Wed 10/19/11 08:05 PM



I'm not sure if this will still work ...
I've been in this whole online dating since I was 26, and have had 2 steady relationships - one 3 years, and one 4 years plus. Only thing that I haven't anticipated was the chance of meeting - both guys didn't make their ways to come and see me, though both have promised that they will. Both have financial problems, but I wonder why they haven't assessed their capabilities before committing on something - this what really makes my heart sink.

For now I am giving my last try, although there's this one guy whom I have met face to face already, who likes me, but I am not sure about my feelings for him.

Is it still possible to meet the One on here? what


Possible, but not that likely on the free sites. The subscription only sites seem to attract people who are really serious. The free ones tend to be full of flakey types and scammers.


Not true. I joined match.com and it's been a waste of money. Not a single wink, like, email, nothing... I know I'm not the best looking, most attractive, sweap you off your feet guy. BUT I do know i am funny careing and I'm not ugly. Average, so either I'm doing something wrong and i dont notice it, or its a fraud/waste.


Interesting! I learn something new everyday. Thanks. drinker

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Wed 10/19/11 08:21 PM




I'm not sure if this will still work ...
I've been in this whole online dating since I was 26, and have had 2 steady relationships - one 3 years, and one 4 years plus. Only thing that I haven't anticipated was the chance of meeting - both guys didn't make their ways to come and see me, though both have promised that they will. Both have financial problems, but I wonder why they haven't assessed their capabilities before committing on something - this what really makes my heart sink.

For now I am giving my last try, although there's this one guy whom I have met face to face already, who likes me, but I am not sure about my feelings for him.

Is it still possible to meet the One on here? what


Possible, but not that likely on the free sites. The subscription only sites seem to attract people who are really serious. The free ones tend to be full of flakey types and scammers.


Not true. I joined match.com and it's been a waste of money. Not a single wink, like, email, nothing... I know I'm not the best looking, most attractive, sweap you off your feet guy. BUT I do know i am funny careing and I'm not ugly. Average, so either I'm doing something wrong and i dont notice it, or its a fraud/waste.


Interesting! I learn something new everyday. Thanks. drinker


CHEERS!! Maybe i should turn gay HAHAHAH JKKK

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Wed 10/19/11 08:27 PM

I think you just need to find someone local. If it didnt work the first time, shame on them. It didnt work the second time, shame on you (not trying to be an a hole). You need someone not the thought of someone.


Yep you do at least need to see them sometimes,
Long distance is working for me, but we both have to travel.
He comes to my home for 10 weeks, I go to his for 10 weeks, thankfully since we are on different sides of the world our summer holidays are at opposite times so we can both travel with out children then..

If you didnt see each other I cant see how you could make it work. It is hard enough for us, but its our only option until our children are older.

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Wed 10/19/11 08:47 PM


OH MG you found a computer!!!! WOOHOO


howdy back


yeah we miss you!

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Thu 10/20/11 12:14 AM

I think you just need to find someone local. If it didnt work the first time, shame on them. It didnt work the second time, shame on you (not trying to be an a hole). You need someone not the thought of someone.


Dada, is it really a "SHAME ON ME"??? frustrated

No problem kid, I can handle this - good to know you are interested in my thread, I can sense you are for real and just trying to vent. Like I said, "I'M JUST SOO GOOD" & FYI: "I AM NOT ATTRACTED TO LOCALS", so sorry - this is a personal preference. shades

You should be thankful that you don't look very handsome LOL or you will be enlisted for background check to be initiated by my Dada(MG) rofl

Cheers people, we are family!!!!drinker

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Thu 10/20/11 12:19 AM

LOL. Just being real and honest. 7 years of online dating and no results, no offense, but that should be a sign.


Yeah, sign that they can't really afford me :banana:

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Thu 10/20/11 05:09 AM
Now Babygirl, be nice. They don't know you well enough to know how dedicated to your heart and man you really are. I should also mention that newg has a very playful sense of humor and is a strong woman. Those of us who have known and loved her from a few years back know her wit and sincerity. On one hand if you are interested in newg as a great friend and person that's what you will get, but let me warn you guys, if you are going toe to toe with playful jabs you will have your hands full.

she takes after her dada

and then some lol

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Thu 10/20/11 06:29 AM


I think you just need to find someone local. If it didnt work the first time, shame on them. It didnt work the second time, shame on you (not trying to be an a hole). You need someone not the thought of someone.


Dada, is it really a "SHAME ON ME"??? frustrated

No problem kid, I can handle this - good to know you are interested in my thread, I can sense you are for real and just trying to vent. Like I said, "I'M JUST SOO GOOD" & FYI: "I AM NOT ATTRACTED TO LOCALS", so sorry - this is a personal preference. shades

You should be thankful that you don't look very handsome LOL or you will be enlisted for background check to be initiated by my Dada(MG) rofl

Cheers people, we are family!!!!drinker


Well good luck then. I've given my advice, and thats all i can do. Hafe fun on the "net".Why would i be thankful that i dont look very handsome? Wierd. And MG, right back ya.

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Thu 10/20/11 07:24 AM

Now Babygirl, be nice. They don't know you well enough to know how dedicated to your heart and man you really are. I should also mention that newg has a very playful sense of humor and is a strong woman. Those of us who have known and loved her from a few years back know her wit and sincerity. On one hand if you are interested in newg as a great friend and person that's what you will get, but let me warn you guys, if you are going toe to toe with playful jabs you will have your hands full.

she takes after her dada

and then some lol


Love you Dada flowers

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Thu 11/24/11 07:07 PM

Why are there so many asain woman on here trying to date american men? Don't get me wrong i love asain women but why should i spend thousands trying to bring them here, or travel half way around the world to see them, when there are plenty of asian women already here? You complain that these two men have not come to see you, have you made any effort to travel to them? What do you have to offer these men if anything or are you just looking for a free ride?


Now you are proving that it's still possible tongue2

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Thu 11/24/11 07:10 PM



I'm wondering myself. I've been on several sites for many years and only one relationship. Guy was nice but we just weren't a match. I think I'll go for the meeting them in person, old fashion way before there was internet dating. Hope you have better success than I have.


I agree, and thanks flowerforyou
:thumbsup:

well so far neither one has worked particularly well for me

the few I've met online - something always seems to happen or they weren't who they seemed to be - I haven't met anyone recently in person IRL - but I think the chances are better

but I try to stay open

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Thu 11/24/11 07:14 PM
Today, at the Thanksgiving I made some long distance relationships. My mom was explaining to the younger generation who I was and was explaining to me who they were. It was wonderful finding out who the new people were. And I got reacquainted with some kinfolk who look a lot different now.laugh

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Thu 11/24/11 07:26 PM

Today, at the Thanksgiving I made some long distance relationships. My mom was explaining to the younger generation who I was and was explaining to me who they were. It was wonderful finding out who the new people were. And I got reacquainted with some kinfolk who look a lot different now.laugh


That's LDR@Thanksgiving tongue2

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Thu 11/24/11 07:47 PM


Today, at the Thanksgiving I made some long distance relationships. My mom was explaining to the younger generation who I was and was explaining to me who they were. It was wonderful finding out who the new people were. And I got reacquainted with some kinfolk who look a lot different now.laugh


That's LDR@Thanksgiving tongue2


Yeah. I got to get out more often. I felt like one of those guys in that GIECO commercial where he comes out from the rock when I saw that little one.laugh Mom was explaining to me that my niece had a little girl. It was nah. You are kidding, right?laugh

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Thu 11/24/11 07:48 PM
If you have a 100% relationship online but you seem to pull 90% of it and your other half 10% .... there is a problem.

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Fri 11/25/11 06:28 AM
As someone in a working LDR, here is my take......

No relationship is easy. I don't care if they are 2 miles away or 2,000 miles. It takes patience and alot of communication. (we talk at least 5 times a day) I have flown halfway across the country to spend time with my woman. (twice) and I am gonna go again as soon as I can.

LDR's involve alot of lonely nights and really wanting to be held again. LDR's also give me something to really look foward to and give me a goal to work my @ss off for.

LDR's are for long term, goal oriented people who are willing to be patient and rational in pursuit of what they desire.

LDR's ain't or people who can't see past "right now". Those are the people who scream at thier microwave to "HURRY UP!!!!"


:)

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Fri 11/25/11 07:05 AM




LDR's ain't or people who can't see past "right now". Those are the people who scream at thier microwave to "HURRY UP!!!!"


:)
dayum, you nO my so well ohwell

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Fri 11/25/11 07:45 AM

As someone in a working LDR, here is my take......

No relationship is easy. I don't care if they are 2 miles away or 2,000 miles. It takes patience and alot of communication. (we talk at least 5 times a day) I have flown halfway across the country to spend time with my woman. (twice) and I am gonna go again as soon as I can.

LDR's involve alot of lonely nights and really wanting to be held again. LDR's also give me something to really look foward to and give me a goal to work my @ss off for.

LDR's are for long term, goal oriented people who are willing to be patient and rational in pursuit of what they desire.

LDR's ain't or people who can't see past "right now". Those are the people who scream at thier microwave to "HURRY UP!!!!"


:)


What he said....

But, bottom line......YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THEY ARE POSSIBLE !!!!!!!! And sometimes they slow down the "thrill" of the first few weeks and months just enough to allow the couple to reach that level of clarity needed to make the final and the right decision...In other words, LDR give a couple time and opportunity to really know each other!!
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Fri 11/25/11 07:57 AM


LDR's ain't or people who can't see past "right now". Those are the people who scream at thier microwave to "HURRY UP!!!!"
:)

dayum, you nO my so well ohwell

(Have we established it does NOT work?)

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Fri 11/25/11 08:27 AM

In short, LDR is what we are here for. drinks