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Topic: Just friends?
funches Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 12948	Sun 04/01/12 11:21 AM
If they were my boyfriend or husband, I would be sexually attracted to them. If that stopped happening, again, something would be wrong. so when you first met your husband or boyfriend ...did you at first find them sexually attractive or just attractive? .... did you have sex with them before you became friends ....or have sex with them after you became friends I've never had a husband. If it has been a boyfriend, we're not talking about friends. so you never been friends before becoming lovers? Not really. so you have sex with a guy that is your enemy first? ..

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 04/01/12 11:22 AM
Where did I mention enemy?

funches Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 12948	Sun 04/01/12 11:23 AM
Because I believe, and not everyone believes this way, that you should have different behaviors being single vs. in a relationship. And spending the night with another male while in a relationship is something I don't feel is acceptable. TammyA... first off I totally agree with your post...but the post presents a Quagmire if a woman is no longer single, is it still acceptable for her to spent the night over a female friend's home? ..... but not the home of a male...if they are friends? Exactly......in MY opinion so a Man and a Woman if they are not single can not "properly" be friends?

funches Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 12948	Sun 04/01/12 11:26 AM
Where did I mention enemy? well if they are not your friend..what's left?

TammyA Joined Sat 03/10/12 Posts: 300	Sun 04/01/12 11:28 AM
Because I believe, and not everyone believes this way, that you should have different behaviors being single vs. in a relationship. And spending the night with another male while in a relationship is something I don't feel is acceptable. TammyA... first off I totally agree with your post...but the post presents a Quagmire if a woman is no longer single, is it still acceptable for her to spent the night over a female friend's home? ..... but not the home of a male...if they are friends? You can be friends, just not sleepover friends......and what exactly is "properly" friends??? Exactly......in MY opinion so a Man and a Woman if they are not single can not "properly" be friends?

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 04/01/12 12:42 PM
Where did I mention enemy? well if they are not your friend..what's left? Didn't we already cover this? You've been asking about boyfriends and husbands. Not everyone does the friends first thing.

funches Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 12948	Sun 04/01/12 01:39 PM
Where did I mention enemy? well if they are not your friend..what's left? Didn't we already cover this? You've been asking about boyfriends and husbands. Not everyone does the friends first thing. so you will slept with those that are not your friends but not with those that are?

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 04/01/12 01:53 PM
Where did I mention enemy? well if they are not your friend..what's left? Didn't we already cover this? You've been asking about boyfriends and husbands. Not everyone does the friends first thing. so you will slept with those that are not your friends but not with those that are? What exactly is confusing you? If you cannot be friends with women because you are attracted to them, that's fine. What is the issue here?

funches Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 12948	Sun 04/01/12 02:30 PM
Where did I mention enemy? well if they are not your friend..what's left? Didn't we already cover this? You've been asking about boyfriends and husbands. Not everyone does the friends first thing. so you will slept with those that are not your friends but not with those that are? What exactly is confusing you? If you cannot be friends with women because you are attracted to them, that's fine. What is the issue here? isn't it about being Friends without finding the other attractive as in having a sexual thought about them do women wear makeup around their guy friends?...why?

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 04/01/12 02:32 PM Edited by singmesweet on Sun 04/01/12 02:33 PM
isn't it about being Friends without finding the other attractive as in having a sexual thought about them do women wear makeup around their guy friends?...why? So you're unable to be friends with women without having sexual thoughts about them. I think we got that by now.

funches Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 12948	Sun 04/01/12 02:45 PM
isn't it about being Friends without finding the other attractive as in having a sexual thought about them do women wear makeup around their guy friends?...why? So you're unable to be friends with women without having sexual thoughts about them. I think we got that by now. just as you have sex and sexually thoughts about those that are not your friends

vivian2981 Joined Thu 04/16/09 Posts: 37289	Sun 04/01/12 02:49 PM
I do not think being friends with the opposite sex comes naturally, too many hormones. But it can come about anyway, often. When the brain becomes more prominent than the glands. I have to disagree with this statement. I've had a lot of men friends through the years with no sex involved..and it wasn't because our glands weren't working..Men and women CAN be friends without the sex and some can still be friends with sex. And I'm not talking about friends with benefits..if you can't be friends with the man you are having sex with, why are you having sex with him to begin with?

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 04/01/12 02:55 PM
isn't it about being Friends without finding the other attractive as in having a sexual thought about them do women wear makeup around their guy friends?...why? So you're unable to be friends with women without having sexual thoughts about them. I think we got that by now. just as you have sex and sexually thoughts about those that are not your friends lol. If that's how you want to put it, sure.

Godiva Joined Tue 12/09/08 Posts: 5330	Sun 04/01/12 02:57 PM
If a man can look at women as something besides walking vaginas with breasts balancing on top of them, then it is more than possible. It's not rocket science, but for all intents and purposes, it might as well be.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 04/01/12 02:58 PM
If a man can look at women as something besides walking vaginas with breasts balancing on top of them, then it is more than possible. It's not rocket science, but for all intents and purposes, it might as well be. Eh, everyone is different. Some people are not able to look at the opposite sex without thinking of sex. Some are.

Godiva Joined Tue 12/09/08 Posts: 5330	Sun 04/01/12 03:02 PM
Eh, everyone is different. Some people are not able to look at the opposite sex without thinking of sex. Some are. You would have better luck traveling to Africa and convincing Lions livestock are not hamburgers without buns.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 04/01/12 03:08 PM
Eh, everyone is different. Some people are not able to look at the opposite sex without thinking of sex. Some are. You would have better luck traveling to Africa and convincing Lions livestock are not hamburgers without buns. Better luck doing that than what?

Chloe23Irish Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 717	Sun 04/01/12 04:31 PM
Do you think men and women can just be friends? Yes, well I think so any ways.

funches Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 12948	Sun 04/01/12 05:14 PM
lol. If that's how you want to put it, sure. I'm just saying that there are things about guys that most women probably don't know about....guys have external body parts that sometimes move on their own or may pop up like a jack-n-the box, in which the guy have to ponder whether to hoist up a flag on it or call an Exorcist

andrewzooms Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 2842	Sun 04/01/12 05:23 PM
Do you think men and women can just be friends? Friends yes. Close friends not a chance.