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Do you think men and women can just be friends? If they couldn't, I wouldn't have many friends left! |
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Edited by
MariahsFantasy
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Fri 03/30/12 11:41 PM
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Men and women can't be friends. Uhuh. I said it. They can never properly be friends. This is completely false I have many women friends. Actually ever since my best friend killed himself all of my friends are women. I have way to much respect for them to put the moves on any of them. Their friendship is to valuable to me to mess it up with sex! I don't think being friends would let any guy stand in the way of what they want. There's no way they can be actual friends with a woman. Gay men, yes yes. Nay straight men. Why not? I think its just easier for a gay man to relate to a woman in a platonic way. Straight men always figure out ways to get a woman interested in them. Most straight men dread being stuck in the "friend-zone." Just a reality. But the gay men don't mind it. I think gay men are less crazier than the straights, you really shouldn't point the finger at us of who's more mentally challenged. |
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Edited by
MariahsFantasy
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Fri 03/30/12 11:48 PM
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Men and women can't be friends. Uhuh. I said it. They can never properly be friends. I don't know...I have a couple of super close guy friends that I've had for years that has always strictly been platonic. We get along great. To them, I'm just a guy with boobs. Sometimes when we all get together I think they forget I even have boobs. Hahaha But I can talk to them about the same kind of stuff I talk to my girl friends about. And it's even better because they tell it to straight without worrying about hurting my feelings with their advice. And i do the same for them. We have a great time together. If your male friend IS secretly attracted to you, and you him, I'm sure y'all would not be "close girlfriends." All I'm saying is eventually something's gotta give. |
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Edited by
MariahsFantasy
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Fri 03/30/12 11:52 PM
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I'm still confused about how women and men can't properly be friends. Are there rules how to properly be friends? I dunno. I'd say there would be no rules at all if people were just honest with each other about what it is they want. |
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I'm still confused about how women and men can't properly be friends. Are there rules how to properly be friends? I dunno. I'd say there would be no rules at all if people were just honest with each other about what it is they want. |
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Of course. My best friend is a guy. He has a nice girlfriend and we have met, she doesn't feel threatened. I have always had male friends, good friends with no sexual attention.
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Edited by
singmesweet
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Sat 03/31/12 05:43 AM
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I'm still confused about how women and men can't properly be friends. Are there rules how to properly be friends? I dunno. I'd say there would be no rules at all if people were just honest with each other about what it is they want. I think people can be honest and be friends. It sounds like you're always assuming guys are going to try something, though. If that's the case, I can see why you may not be able to actually enjoy the friendship. |
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I'm still confused about how women and men can't properly be friends. I suppose it is. I'm probably a little off center on this question because my last husband had numerous female friends he was close with. The majority of which he slept with. So, that's what I think of when I hear "we're just friends". I think it's rare for a man and a woman to be "just friends". One of them (most commonly the man) will usually want to sleep with the other. That doesn't mean that anything happens, it just means that the desire is there. IDK, I don't consider myself a guy, but a man, and I'm not really like most men. I just know that I can be friends with a women, find her to be attractive, but separate that from any sexual feelings. the fact that you find her attractive means that you couldn't seperate the sexual feelings Of course sexual feelings just happen, for a reason or no reason. It doesn't mean that the friends act on it. It could be a fleeting thing. The thing is the focus isn't the sex. If you truly enjoy hanging out and chatting-that oversees the sex. If you are good friends you know each other well enough to know it wouldn't work out and you don't act on it. We can rise above our hormones. |
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Too much hype!!!!
The Ladies who are my closest friends and I, have never had to deal with sexual tension or any of that crap. We enjoy hanging out. we can talk about anything and learn from each others experiences. What difference does it make. Friends are........Friends!!!! |
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I'm simply saying I can find people attractive, yet not want to have sex with them. So no, it's not sexual. If you're unable to do that, no problem. If you're unable to be friends with women, no problem. Everyone is different. if you claim that you find your male friends sexually attractive is the exact reason why you can't properly be their friends... you might even be their friends because you are sexually attracted to them that's one step from ....Friends with Benefits Re-read what I wrote. or perhaps you should re-edit what you wrote because it's the same as you claiming that you find your boyfriend or husband attractive but yet you don't want to have sex with them |
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Edited by
MariahsFantasy
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Sat 03/31/12 11:08 AM
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I'm still confused about how women and men can't properly be friends. Are there rules how to properly be friends? I dunno. I'd say there would be no rules at all if people were just honest with each other about what it is they want. I think people can be honest and be friends. It sounds like you're always assuming guys are going to try something, though. If that's the case, I can see why you may not be able to actually enjoy the friendship. Sure. Are men really honest about what they want? Especially when it comes to an attractive woman? Most aren't, in my experience. Friends happens but its rare. Back to my original point, if a man is attracted to a woman and they never let it known, they'll be stuck in the "friends-zone." I don't assume, I know based on my experience with them. Men always will want what they can't have. Some will settle for friends just because they care for them. They're not jerks and are not after one thing always. Eh, its not for everyone to understand. |
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I'm still confused about how women and men can't properly be friends. Are there rules how to properly be friends? I dunno. I'd say there would be no rules at all if people were just honest with each other about what it is they want. I think people can be honest and be friends. It sounds like you're always assuming guys are going to try something, though. If that's the case, I can see why you may not be able to actually enjoy the friendship. Sure. Are men really honest about what they want? Especially when it comes to an attractive woman? Most aren't, in my experience. Friends happens but its rare. Back to my original point, if a man is attracted to a woman and they never let it known, they'll be stuck in the "friends-zone." I don't assume, I know based on my experience with them. Men always will want what they can't have. Some will settle for friends just because they care for them. They're not jerks and are not after one thing always. Eh, its not for everyone to understand. I understand what you are saying, but it isn't always this way. Some of my female friends are just....friends. we have never been attracted to each other. I never had any underlying agenda with them. They are just awesome people who's company I enjoy!!!! |
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Edited by
MariahsFantasy
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Sat 03/31/12 11:18 AM
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I'm still confused about how women and men can't properly be friends. Are there rules how to properly be friends? I dunno. I'd say there would be no rules at all if people were just honest with each other about what it is they want. I think people can be honest and be friends. It sounds like you're always assuming guys are going to try something, though. If that's the case, I can see why you may not be able to actually enjoy the friendship. Sure. Are men really honest about what they want? Especially when it comes to an attractive woman? Most aren't, in my experience. Friends happens but its rare. Back to my original point, if a man is attracted to a woman and they never let it known, they'll be stuck in the "friends-zone." I don't assume, I know based on my experience with them. Men always will want what they can't have. Some will settle for friends just because they care for them. They're not jerks and are not after one thing always. Eh, its not for everyone to understand. I understand what you are saying, but it isn't always this way. Some of my female friends are just....friends. we have never been attracted to each other. I never had any underlying agenda with them. They are just awesome people who's company I enjoy!!!! It is rare you'll meet a guy who just wants to be friends with an attractive woman. Its just harder is all. Lot of this confusion would clear up if men and women are honest about their intentions. Times have changed. I like your Starbucks idea. 
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Do you think men and women can just be friends? Sure. The vast majority of my friends, since about age 15, have been female. |
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Men and women can't be friends. Uhuh. I said it. They can never properly be friends. I don't know...I have a couple of super close guy friends that I've had for years that has always strictly been platonic. We get along great. To them, I'm just a guy with boobs. Sometimes when we all get together I think they forget I even have boobs. Hahaha But I can talk to them about the same kind of stuff I talk to my girl friends about. And it's even better because they tell it to straight without worrying about hurting my feelings with their advice. And i do the same for them. We have a great time together. If your male friend IS secretly attracted to you, and you him, I'm sure y'all would not be "close girlfriends." All I'm saying is eventually something's gotta give. I've been friends with one since kindergarten, so 30 years, and the other since sophomore year, so 20 years. If they have been secretly attracted to me, then I guess not enough to make a difference and I've never known about the attraction. I've never been attracted to either of them. There's nothing really 'to give'. Lol |
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Men and women can't be friends. Uhuh. I said it. They can never properly be friends. I don't know...I have a couple of super close guy friends that I've had for years that has always strictly been platonic. We get along great. To them, I'm just a guy with boobs. Sometimes when we all get together I think they forget I even have boobs. Hahaha But I can talk to them about the same kind of stuff I talk to my girl friends about. And it's even better because they tell it to straight without worrying about hurting my feelings with their advice. And i do the same for them. We have a great time together. If your male friend IS secretly attracted to you, and you him, I'm sure y'all would not be "close girlfriends." All I'm saying is eventually something's gotta give. I've been friends with one since kindergarten, so 30 years, and the other since sophomore year, so 20 years. If they have been secretly attracted to me, then I guess not enough to make a difference and I've never known about the attraction. I've never been attracted to either of them.There's nothing really 'to give'. Lol That's the rule. You guys will be fine. I know I had a guy friend I considered my second brother since middle school. Its all good. |
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Be my friend......I'll behave myself
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I'm still confused about how women and men can't properly be friends. Are there rules how to properly be friends? I dunno. I'd say there would be no rules at all if people were just honest with each other about what it is they want. I think people can be honest and be friends. It sounds like you're always assuming guys are going to try something, though. If that's the case, I can see why you may not be able to actually enjoy the friendship. Sure. Are men really honest about what they want? Especially when it comes to an attractive woman? Most aren't, in my experience. Friends happens but its rare. Back to my original point, if a man is attracted to a woman and they never let it known, they'll be stuck in the "friends-zone." I don't assume, I know based on my experience with them. Men always will want what they can't have. Some will settle for friends just because they care for them. They're not jerks and are not after one thing always. Eh, its not for everyone to understand. I understand what you are saying, but it isn't always this way. Some of my female friends are just....friends. we have never been attracted to each other. I never had any underlying agenda with them. They are just awesome people who's company I enjoy!!!! It is rare you'll meet a guy who just wants to be friends with an attractive woman. Its just harder is all. Lot of this confusion would clear up if men and women are honest about their intentions. Times have changed. I like your Starbucks idea. When you are thousands of miles away from people....Ya gotta be.... Creative!!!!!
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I'm simply saying I can find people attractive, yet not want to have sex with them. So no, it's not sexual. If you're unable to do that, no problem. If you're unable to be friends with women, no problem. Everyone is different. if you claim that you find your male friends sexually attractive is the exact reason why you can't properly be their friends... you might even be their friends because you are sexually attracted to them that's one step from ....Friends with Benefits Re-read what I wrote. or perhaps you should re-edit what you wrote because it's the same as you claiming that you find your boyfriend or husband attractive but yet you don't want to have sex with them No it isn't. Plus, if I were married or had a boyfriend and didn't want to have sex with them, something would be horribly wrong. |
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I guess it would help to define the difference between attracted and 'sexually' attracted
I have not ever quite understood the term either,, to be honest,,, |
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