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I'm grateful that we have cellphones these days. But sometimes they can be a "curse" too! I don't want to be "on-call" 24/7 or feel like I'm on a "leash!"...When my husband and I "ran errands" by ourselves we let each other "be" and "feel free" when we went out alone... We'd only call or text each other if a true emergency came up...I haven't been on any dates since my husband passed away. But if I do go out with someone who spends a lot of time on his phone I'd take it as a sign that he wasn't the right person for me...Basically I'm a private person and I love to "disappear" at times. Constant interruptions can be annoying... And if someone kept getting non-stop calls and texts I probably wouldn't consider him really "free."...I have to keep my phone "on" all the time right now because my son has been dealing with brain tumors...This is another reason why I don't feel ready to date yet. Have a lot on my "plate" right now.
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Edited by
navygirl
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Thu 08/02/12 12:00 PM
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Do you think/believe that it is appropriate to text others while on a date with someone new? Is there a number or kind of acceptable texts? Assuming no emergency situation, when another is texting throughout the evening is that a sign, one way or the other, that s/he is not that interested in the date itself?  Sounds rude to me. I turn off my cell phone when I am on a date and give that person my complete attention. |
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If I had a date that was constantly texting, I would text him with a short sweet message... "You're an idiot. Look up and you'll notice I'm leaving. Don't follow."
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Edited by
FearandLoathing
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Thu 08/02/12 01:14 PM
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Do you think/believe that it is appropriate to text others while on a date with someone new? Is there a number or kind of acceptable texts? Assuming no emergency situation, when another is texting throughout the evening is that a sign, one way or the other, that s/he is not that interested in the date itself? I guess it depends on if they continue talking to you, eh? |
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Do you think/believe that it is appropriate to text others while on a date with someone new? Is there a number or kind of acceptable texts? Assuming no emergency situation, when another is texting throughout the evening is that a sign, one way or the other, that s/he is not that interested in the date itself? It's a sign that he or she is not interested in exercising good manners because "constant" texting during a date is rudeness in the extreme....It's a sign of addiction....It's a sign of ADHD....It's a sign (to you) to look elsewhere unless you are looking for a person with these traits....Taking emergency calls from family is the only exception....Texting to socialize while on a date is BS... Well put. I couldnt've said it any better |
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To add to what Jeanniebean was talking about, where she mentioned that there can be two extremes with mother and daughter/son relationship situations, I've just thought of another one. The daughter/son may choose to leave their family behind for good, all because their family is way too clingy, or too protective. There's certain reasons why couple's move in together and need their own space, but if some parents can't handle that, then "Oh dear" is all I'm gonna say about that. You can't be all do as I say not as I do.
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If you have kids and they are young then explain that to the date before hand. Then instruct the kids that a text is to only be used in an emergency. If there are no kids involved then turn the thing completely off!
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It is incredibly rude and I would not be able to hide my disgust. No texts, no calls, forget the device completely.
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Well I think it clearly shows a lack of interest and is rude as well. Needless to say that was the last date with her... ah well.
There will be more where she came from. |
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I think sometimes the person wants you to believe they have such a busy social life but I agree it is just rude. I had a date that would actually go outside of the club we were at to take calls. Double rude.
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I think sometimes the person wants you to believe they have such a busy social life but I agree it is just rude. I had a date that would actually go outside of the club we were at to take calls. Double rude.   HI ANGEL!!!
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kiss...ohh sorry i thought we were all going off topic!
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kiss...ohh sorry i thought we were all going off topic!  KISS!! 
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I really haven't thought about this topic as cell phone addiction is deep within me. Plus I have not gone on dates much.
But, remembering my days when I did go on dates, no txt, no messenger, but did answer calls upon excusing myself to make sure it wasn't an emergency. So, I do agree that it is rude to frequently text while on conversation with a person you are interested in. Let me play a devil's advocate here: What if, I am on-call, due to work, but also would like to meet you since I cannot think of anything else but you since the first date. (Even possibly the first date after a few convo online.) Personally, I would ask if that is okay with you first, and would meet up. What do you think of this? Still rude? 
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I would only do that if they got up to go to the bathroom or something.
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I don't know about others, but to me... if I am thinking about a text or a call from another during a date - regardless of when - then that shows me that the person that I am on a date with has not captured my attention as much as the call or text.
 Time to look elsewhere. |
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I really haven't thought about this topic as cell phone addiction is deep within me. Plus I have not gone on dates much. But, remembering my days when I did go on dates, no txt, no messenger, but did answer calls upon excusing myself to make sure it wasn't an emergency. So, I do agree that it is rude to frequently text while on conversation with a person you are interested in. Let me play a devil's advocate here: What if, I am on-call, due to work, but also would like to meet you since I cannot think of anything else but you since the first date. (Even possibly the first date after a few convo online.) Personally, I would ask if that is okay with you first, and would meet up. What do you think of this? Still rude? Me, personally if you are on call; I would suggest having a date another time. Your focus will be on work and not me. I still say turn the phone off. People did quite well on dates without cell phones before they were invented; so why do we feel the need to keep them on now? |
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yes,
Im totally old school about technology, if it was done before without the device, it can and probably SHOULD still be done without the device people have found ways for centuries to make sure their families were ok without having to stay 'connected' at all hours,,they still can if they choose to,,, |
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yes, Im totally old school about technology, if it was done before without the device, it can and probably SHOULD still be done without the device people have found ways for centuries to make sure their families were ok without having to stay 'connected' at all hours,,they still can if they choose to,,, 
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