Ok.. here it goes. I'm trying to post this without coming off like a B@tch here goes

I've always had the mind set that it's the person you date not his wallet. Well, I'm changing my view point.
It is ALSO his wallet you are dating. I make a fairly decent living.
Not Oprah's money of course, but that of her driver I'm sure.. lol

When dating, is it wrong to want a man to match what you earn, if not more?
guys feel free to answer, do you want your lady to match your earning maybe less

I've asked about dating someone who doesn't work at all a while back.. and got mixed view points... however, dating someone who didn't work at all was NOT a good experience and I wouldn't recommend it.

Depends on if he realy wants to work, or if he just cant find work.

Personally, if I met someone who wanted to work but couldnt find any work, not for want of trying, then I wouldnt have a problem with it.

If I was seeing someone that made more or less than me, it wouldnt make a difference

You are not sounding like a biotch at all TeeBee...Money is and always has been a primary relationship problem...And guess what, it does not get easier as we get older and can often become more difficult... Especially when one is substantially better off than the other....It's usually more of an issue when the woman has greater resources and there are lots of reasons for this...Traditionally, it was the man who supported the family, paid for dates and recreation, courted the woman...As gender roles become more blended, money issues become more pronounced...Women had to fight long and hard for equality and we still don't have it in the work place...Not in position or pay...Because of this, we tend to expect the same or equal achievement levels in the men we date or marry...Before the ladies start jumping my azz, let me say this is not true of all women, but the majority of us older gals feel this way...We don't always admit it because of the stigma attached to equating love and money ...Most "quickly" deny it matters, but the truth is it does...Eventually, it will come up, even with those couples who start out young with no assets...Eventually every relationship will, at the very least, argue about money and many will bite the dust over money problems and issues ..You are just being smart and practical TeeBee....

I date up.
As if I had a choice!

Smart azz

Teebee; if I were dating; yes I think he should make as much money as me. Most men are damn insecure so making more money than him makes the situation even worse.

It shouldn't really matter who earns more.

And let's not all paint unemployed men
with the same brush. Yes, it's an unenviable
position to be in. Not all are lazy or druggies
sitting home, getting high and playing video
games.

I do not find $$ to be a good measurer of anything.

Me neither. If it's that high a priority for
all women to have, when looking for a mate,
I'm in an extremely hopeless situation.

I only have an interest in Older men with good incomes, and they are generous. I like to spend money on my own, so I do not want any man that is cheap or has no extra funds. So far, it has worked out to be good dates for Me.

Whatever works for You.

Hell, I can always come up with enough cash for a Mickey D dollar meal and a vintage jug of Red Port.

Nuthin but first class when it comes to courtin my broad.

Yeah, money is a difficult one. My first relationship was fine, he worked, I stayed home with the kids, no one ever b*tched about money and me not working. My second relationship was different. At first I had a good job being a teach, made more than he did. Then I got unemployed and things got stroppy. He put the guilt-trip on me whenever he could, if I only spent 1 Euro on me, he reminded me HE was paying for this that and the other and I didn't do a thing.

Now my financial situation isn't to write home about. Dating costs money and you can't expect a guy to pick up every bill.
But if I was to find a nice man, he would have to accept that I don't have a lot to spend.
I never cared much myself for who earned the most. As far as I'm concerned, when you love each other and are in a relationship, you just share what there is.
If a guy has more and feels the same way, cool. But I don't ever want to be manipulated with money issues again! Been there, done that. So even if a guy was to pay the bills, he still doesn't own me.

Difficult issue nonetheless ...

In Texas you own half of each other's earnings. I do not care if she makes more, good for her.

With my income, it's a good bet she's going to make more. I'm not egotistical enough to allow for that to bother me....problem is, does she mind being with a pauper? It is what it is.

If that is what a single woman is wanting, then she isn't seeking love. Instead, she is seeking a lifestyle.

Right now, my only source of income are the monthly SSDI payments that I receive from the U.S. government. Does my low level of income make me incapable of giving love and support to a woman? I think not.

I'm a little behind.
I hear, there's more than one type of dating.

What type is the OP referring to?

The, let's go out once in a while?

The, we're going out steadily,knockin boots and pretty serious?

Or, we're living together sharing expenses?

Number one. No matter,as long as she can afford the tab.

Number two. Okay, as long as the sex is steady.

Number three. We split the bills as long as she pays the cable and doesn't have a need to touch the remote.

OP, Are you being serious? lol. The guy I'm with now, has no job, and lives with his father. However, he does his fathers shopping and housework for him. He also helps me out with stuff. Saying that, he was always practical. Practical Chris. lol. He has epileptic fits, yet still gets on with it. While I constantly worry when he will next have one. We just seem to gel.

You just made my 'Beautiful Woman' list.

Word.

I would not be put off by what a woman did or did not do for a living,within reason, or what her income was in relation to mine, when looking for a serious relationship. My only reservations would be if they appeared to be "married" to their work, in which case it would probably not work for me in a long term relationship. When you marry, you both need to feel that together you are in a financial position to do so in my opinion, you cannot live on love alone. If you and your future partner have your own financial assets, you must consider a prenuptial agreement incase the marriage fails so you would both leave the relationship with at least what you started with.