I feel I have what it takes to be a player but I am no good at courting women because I get nervous and very self-conscious around them. And this puts them off because it gives them the impression that I am boring or a bit strange.

I notice that women like confident men and men that are cheerful and witty. But this is where I luck out. So I was hoping that maybe you could give me some tips on how to overcome this handicap of mine.

Find something that builds your confidence up. If you better yourself, your self image will change and "being a player" won't matter anymore. You might just become a normal person with flaws who accepts who they are and doesn't try to be one of our media driven stereotypes.

Stop being logical

I wanna know what he got? So far he is not tall dark and handsome...has not wit and is insecure...I wanna know what he thinks pre qualifies him

Stop being logical

I wanna know what he got? So far he is not tall dark and handsome...has not wit and is insecure...I wanna know what he thinks pre qualifies him

Yeah me too. Bit strange to first state you got what it takes and then point out why you aren't and can't be. Quite a contradiction ...
So let's hear it: what have you got that would make you a good player?

Maybe he is holding his breath?

am i becoming that predictable?

He already said women make him nervous and he doesn't know what to do around 'em. So you put him on the spot? Geez, you scared the poor fella half to death probably.

I feel I have what it takes to be a player but I am no good at courting women because I get nervous and very self-conscious around them. And this puts them off because it gives them the impression that I am boring or a bit strange.

I notice that women like confident men and men that are cheerful and witty. But this is where I luck out. So I was hoping that maybe you could give me some tips on how to overcome this handicap of mine.

Or a player. How can you tell?

So I have been challenged to come up with three things that make me a potential player. Well here they are: obviously the first requirement is good looks... and I can tell you now I already have that and then some. For instance, there have been many occasions where my striking good looks have compelled women (and men) to comment on how good looking I am. This is probably why I feel so self-conscious. I suppose it is the price one must pay...

On to number two. The second requirement should be an inability to love. Because men that fall in love are like putty in the hand. A woman soon moulds him into how she wants him. Well I have never been in love in all my thirty something years. So I think I pass on this one as well.

The third requirement is good conversational skills like being able to tell lies and making a woman laugh. But admittedly I am woeful at this but I know I can get better. So I am very close to becoming a player.

i have written a few How To books on it.i'll send you a copy

The publishers of all the 'Idiot ' and 'Dummy' guides are going to be setting up a Dating and Mating website and perhaps their own 'reality show'.
Part of their premise is that IF no one regards themselves as either idiots or dummies, new members will be voted on from other sites where members think themselves as idiots and/or dummies. They are currently signing up members in the US Congress and other politicians from all over..

I have written a few books on predictable men

The publishers of all the 'Idiot ' and 'Dummy' guides are going to be setting up a Dating and Mating website and perhaps their own 'reality show'.
Part of their premise is that IF no one regards themselves as either idiots or dummies, new members will be voted on from other sites where members think themselves as idiots and/or dummies. They are currently signing up members in the US Congress and other politicians from all over..