Topic: If you were in a serious relationship, would you mind if ..
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Sat 07/19/14 10:15 AM
If you were in a serious relationship, would you mind if your
significant other maintained an active profile on Mingle?

kc0003's photo
Sat 07/19/14 10:16 AM
not at all....

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Sat 07/19/14 10:22 AM
The old me would say yes, the new me would say no i dont mind, especially if I met him here its mostly harmless chatting, and I would know him well enough to trust him and be secure in our relationship.

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Sat 07/19/14 10:47 AM
I wouldnt care where the profile was as long as it stated they were looking for friendship only.

Add what Low said as well... Harmless chatting, etc.

soufiehere's photo
Sat 07/19/14 10:49 AM
No.
We both see it as a communication tool for keeping
in touch with friends :-)

ziona's photo
Sat 07/19/14 10:59 AM
Been there. Hated it. It's like you're not totally sold out. So your still advertising yourself. I would think you don't need an active profile if you love someone heart and soul

sagnik9999's photo
Sat 07/19/14 11:21 AM
Totally agree with Ziona!! If u love someone and are into an active relationship, whats exactly the purpose of a profile here!! I'm pretty sure you already have a FB account for "Friendship"!! :)

Shy_Emo_chick's photo
Sat 07/19/14 06:12 PM
I'd be okay with it, as long as he put in his profile headline that he is now taken, and doesn't care who knows. I want to be the kind of woman that makes him feel on top of the world.

fallen_wolf's photo
Sat 07/19/14 08:07 PM
I wouldn't mind at all.

bantjr1's photo
Sat 07/19/14 09:44 PM
No i wouldn't minds as long as its the same on both sides

dreamerana's photo
Sat 07/19/14 10:13 PM

If you were in a serious relationship, would you mind if your
significant other maintained an active profile on Mingle?


if I was in a serious relationship it means he knows me and I know him beyond everything we see online. it means we've established friendship and trust. so we know what is said online doesn't take away from what we have.
at this time I have a friend who I met because I admire what he posts. we have messaged a couple of times but only as friends and he makes it clear that he is in a happy relationship.
all of you know zippy and I have met and become great friends. I asked him once if he cared what I post. he said it's all in good fun. so if I was in a serious relationship, I wouldn't care if he keeps an active profile because at the end of the day the one in his life is me.

sanjay0522's photo
Tue 07/22/14 01:36 PM
Yes.....well said keep it up

TBRich's photo
Tue 07/22/14 01:43 PM

I enjoy the conversation in here, in a friendly way, so even if Im in a relationship, I do continue on here. The anonymity that mingle provides allows for that freedom to share the deepest thoughts that we may not feel comfortable sharing on fb, where our full names and family are connected to.

Sometimes Im bit@hing about family in here, and even tho I dont name names, they will see it is clearly them I speak of, if on fb.
for example, 'Speaking of bipolar disorder, I have a family member who used prozac for years, so I know it makes a person blah blah blah...'


wait, sometimes.... ?

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Tue 07/22/14 01:47 PM
I let those. who I might be interested in dating..know that I'm on a social media site.. and I have no plans of leaving anytime soon.. but out of respect.. I do stop communicating..
with other women.. off of this site..
(ie).. phone or texting or whatsapp..
when I'm in a relationship with that person.. over the past several months.
I've had to say goodbye. to some very fantastic women.. just so the lady I'm dating.. knows that I'm committed to her.. but I let her know..
that I still talk to ladies on the forum.. because I care for each one of them.. and that I will not stop doing for anyone....flowerforyou

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Tue 07/22/14 01:56 PM
Nope. And she doesn't care that I'm on here.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Tue 07/22/14 02:01 PM
I don't know. I know from experience that when you're in a relationship, you usually spend much less time online. I think many singles spend a lot on sites like Mingle because they have no partner and/or no one around to talk to. As I don't work either, there are days that I don't speak to anyone, other days only the person behind the cash register in the local supermarket.
Now I don't feel lonely, I can be on my own really well, lots of stuff to do, AND because I do a lot of socializing on the net. That would change quite a bit if I'd find myself a partner again. I know this for fact, because I've been there before.
I'd sure still be online quite a lot, but not as much as I am now, simply because you invest time in a relationship when you got one.

As for my partner, I don't know if I'd like it. Depends how much time he spends online, what he's doing, whether he makes it clear he's in a relationship etc etc.
In the beginning of my relationship with my ex, he was still on certain dating-sites with a profile saying he was single. I will not put up with that again, ever. There's an awful lot of married/involved men out there looking for an 'extra' woman. Sure it all comes down to trust, but the percentage of married/involved man looking for a harem, is quite scary to be honest. And then that's only the ones that do own up about it, so go figure ...

Mingle is different, but any regular dating-site, nope. Not acceptable.

TBRich's photo
Tue 07/22/14 02:02 PM



I enjoy the conversation in here, in a friendly way, so even if Im in a relationship, I do continue on here. The anonymity that mingle provides allows for that freedom to share the deepest thoughts that we may not feel comfortable sharing on fb, where our full names and family are connected to.

Sometimes Im bit@hing about family in here, and even tho I dont name names, they will see it is clearly them I speak of, if on fb.
for example, 'Speaking of bipolar disorder, I have a family member who used prozac for years, so I know it makes a person blah blah blah...'


wait, sometimes.... ?
er, yes? haha


Always nice to find a sense of humour, much more attractive than the insecurity one usually sees on these forums.

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Tue 07/22/14 02:03 PM
It all comes down to trust and being honest and open, the things a relationship should have....if you are honest with your partner about your intentions and you have earned trust, talking on here should not be an issue.

Tryztan's photo
Tue 07/22/14 10:27 PM
Nah.

Pickygirl70's photo
Tue 07/22/14 11:14 PM
If I am in a relationship I give it my all. I would want to be with that person and would see no need to still be here. And I hope my new mate would feel the same. If he feels the need to stay it wouldn't work for me.

FB friends and family is fine. But not a adult chatline or dating site.