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Topic: Friendship before Love? yes or Not?
jazzinc Joined Tue 02/25/14 Posts: 553	Tue 03/03/15 01:17 PM
Some people say to find a deep and sincere love; we have to find friendship first with a person. It's a good recipe;but not the only one existing. For me; a potential love requires honesty,sincerity and interest and all these aspects are basic ingredients of friendship too. So; we can manage our love intentions and a real friendship at the same time What do you think about this?? Thanks in advance for your comments

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Tue 03/03/15 01:30 PM
Some people say to find a deep and sincere love; we have to find friendship first with a person. It's a good recipe;but not the only one existing. For me; a potential love requires honesty,sincerity and interest and all these aspects are basic ingredients of friendship too. So; we can manage our love intentions and a real friendship at the same time What do you think about this?? Thanks in advance for your comments Friendship before love is awesome, but not a necessary ingredient for falling in love...:-)

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Tue 03/03/15 01:36 PM
Nah. If she gives you hellacious orgasms then she is a keeper. Ain't that love?

joethebricky Joined Sat 08/04/12 Posts: 12740	Tue 03/03/15 01:39 PM
Some people say to find a deep and sincere love; we have to find friendship first with a person. It's a good recipe;but not the only one existing. For me; a potential love requires honesty,sincerity and interest and all these aspects are basic ingredients of friendship too. So; we can manage our love intentions and a real friendship at the same time What do you think about this?? Thanks in advance for your comments Friendship before love is awesome, but not a necessary ingredient for falling in love...:-) Yeah, but there is love at first sight too, right Leigh

eric22t Joined Wed 08/13/14 Posts: 27928	Tue 03/03/15 01:40 PM
she's got to be my bestest friend

Mdarlene Joined Fri 06/06/14 Posts: 313	Tue 03/03/15 01:43 PM
You don't have to find friendship first. Honesty & integrity are extremely important. But if you want this to last you will need friendship. Most women want a man that is already established A strong woman will be a part of his struggle, survive it, succeed together and build a lasting relationship

joethebricky Joined Sat 08/04/12 Posts: 12740	Tue 03/03/15 01:43 PM
she's got to be my bestest friend I agree Eric, and if you have that you have the lot.

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Tue 03/03/15 01:52 PM
Some people say to find a deep and sincere love; we have to find friendship first with a person. It's a good recipe;but not the only one existing. For me; a potential love requires honesty,sincerity and interest and all these aspects are basic ingredients of friendship too. So; we can manage our love intentions and a real friendship at the same time What do you think about this?? Thanks in advance for your comments Friendship before love is awesome, but not a necessary ingredient for falling in love...:-) Yeah, but there is love at first sight too, right Leigh Yes indeedy Mr. Bricky!...

Outinsearchofyou Joined Sat 08/04/12 Posts: 7	Tue 03/03/15 01:59 PM
Your Question seems to be like the Proverbial Puzzle About "which comes FIRST' the EGG or the HEN? " Can there be True love without Sincere Friendship being at the Core? True Love MUST be built upon True Companionship, Friendship, Sincerity, and Respect:-) Physical attraction is just one of the ingredients:-) But After the First Spark, there are many other considerations:-) Whether it comes first or later, Friendship is a must if a relationship is to last:-) Maybe I should say WHEN LOVE SAGS, FRIENDSHIP KEEPS THE RELATIONSHIP GOING:-)

tealbreeze Joined Sun 02/08/15 Posts: 2279	Tue 03/03/15 02:11 PM
Don't you love your friends also? Yes. It's all the same, except there are more boundaries with your friends. I'd want my love to share everything that my friendships have and more. Deeply and intensely with respect, honestly.....blah blah blah...please don't forget mind blowing sex. yup.

m3k4y Joined Tue 07/08/14 Posts: 13122	Tue 03/03/15 03:18 PM
My lover is my best friend. .doesn't matter wich comes first. ..

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Tue 03/03/15 03:20 PM
Ohhh.. we're supposed to love them.. Hmmm.. can't I just like them a lot.. like really really like them..

Maxisu Joined Wed 07/16/14 Posts: 1212	Tue 03/03/15 03:35 PM
hmm I don't know... I find it kind of difficult to be just friends with a potential lover....and totally impossible to be lovers with just friends and it is so much easier to say I love you to friends than to a lover... pretty reverse, isn't it ? I'm sure I'm not the only one reverse though...

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45325	Tue 03/03/15 03:39 PM
I think friendship can prove to be a bridge when love ebbs and flows, as it can do. If you really really like the person it can get you through a lot. To love alone, I think, is only part of the circle.

stan_147 Joined Thu 05/15/14 Posts: 3439	Tue 03/03/15 03:49 PM
Wise words^^^^ so, ditto!

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Tue 03/03/15 10:30 PM
Some people say to find a deep and sincere love; we have to find friendship first with a person. It's a good recipe;but not the only one existing. For me; a potential love requires honesty,sincerity and interest and all these aspects are basic ingredients of friendship too. So; we can manage our love intentions and a real friendship at the same time What do you think about this?? Thanks in advance for your comments Friendship before love is awesome, but not a necessary ingredient for falling in love...:-) I totally agree with this,but just want to add, from my experiences and observation,you have to be careful not to get stuck in the "friend zone",that could be quite a mess!

Ralphlee123 Joined Fri 02/27/15 Posts: 3	Wed 03/04/15 05:25 AM
Friends can be lovers , for me it's better to have relationship with your friend because you already know each other.

Ralphlee123 Joined Fri 02/27/15 Posts: 3	Wed 03/04/15 05:27 AM
A lot of couple starts being friend until they develop and fall in love with each other. :-)

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Wed 03/04/15 06:07 AM
Some people say to find a deep and sincere love; we have to find friendship first with a person. It's a good recipe;but not the only one existing. For me; a potential love requires honesty,sincerity and interest and all these aspects are basic ingredients of friendship too. So; we can manage our love intentions and a real friendship at the same time What do you think about this?? Thanks in advance for your comments Friendship before love is awesome, but not a necessary ingredient for falling in love...:-) I totally agree with this,but just want to add, from my experiences and observation,you have to be careful not to get stuck in the "friend zone",that could be quite a mess! That's my experience also Watersign :-)...And as someone else said, friendship enhances or strengthens the circle...Without it love relationships can crash and burn when they might have pulled out of a nosedive if true friendship was involved...So even though I don't believe it's a necessary ingredient for falling in love, I do believe it's necessary for maintaing love long term...

sageoforion Joined Tue 03/03/15 Posts: 2	Wed 03/04/15 06:30 AM Edited by sageoforion on Wed 03/04/15 06:32 AM
idkkkk. i've had the dubious honor of falling in love with a woman that as a person i absolutely detested once i got to know her. Love is a fickled emotion and sometimes Cupid's arrows are totally bent.