Topic: Women should be paid to get married.
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Mon 04/27/15 08:41 AM

Women should be given a percentage of her husbands earnings each paycheck that comes in, and that percent is equal to the paycheck amount. She should be in charge of how it get's spent giving him an allowance to go to work, this way it's fair.


That's not being paid. That is handling the household budgeting. laugh

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Mon 04/27/15 08:43 AM
This is true, but it should be handled by the woman so it's fair. If she is not fair then he can divorce her anyway.

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Mon 04/27/15 08:45 AM

Women should be given a percentage of her husbands earnings each paycheck that comes in, and that percent is equal to the paycheck amount. She should be in charge of how it get's spent giving him an allowance to go to work, this way it's fair.


Hahaha! This is funny.

I have never met a Woman with her finances in complete order laugh

I'd have faith in Estelle though, she runs a tight ship on here :thumbsup: smokin

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Mon 04/27/15 08:48 AM
Edited by Rock on Mon 04/27/15 08:50 AM



For those who say women are not cattle


Granted, there are women out there,
who have all the manners and personality
of a large cud chewing farm animal...



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Mon 04/27/15 08:51 AM
*Some* men are swine.

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Mon 04/27/15 08:54 AM





Sometimes, as much as 3 - 6 times daily...


Why does this look familiar? Hmmmm...

Dora the Explorer



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Mon 04/27/15 08:57 AM
Anyone else play with this... toy for hours and hours? :angel:

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Mon 04/27/15 08:57 AM
ooh please,,woman pay me to hang out with my sexy azz,,and pay good money too,,,,
Iam so joking,,hold all hate mail please,,..
men pay one way or the other,,why not just start with a down payment right?

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Mon 04/27/15 09:05 AM

Anyone else play with this... toy for hours and hours? :angel:


Aren't you a little mature to still be "playing" with that toy?


:angel:

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Mon 04/27/15 09:57 AM

This is true, but it should be handled by the woman so it's fair. If she is not fair then he can divorce her anyway.



I don't mean to be rude, yet I have to ask.. Are you talking about a true marriage of partnership of working together for the common goal or are you talking about an arranged financial agreement between two companies...

Good grief.. We don't enter into Marriage with the idea of what we are going to get out of it montarialy

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Mon 04/27/15 10:00 AM


This is true, but it should be handled by the woman so it's fair. If she is not fair then he can divorce her anyway.



I don't mean to be rude, yet I have to ask.. Are you talking about a true marriage of partnership of working together for the common goal or are you talking about an arranged financial agreement between two companies...

Good grief.. We don't enter into Marriage with the idea of what we are going to get out of it montarialy
there are some...what are they called again ..

gold diggers who might


man we were a couple broke college students when I got hitched happy

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Mon 04/27/15 10:07 AM

Here is one source:

http://www.womenintheancientworld.com/dowry%20and%20bride%20price.htm




You realize your source says the women paid the dowry don't you? Thanks for proving my point.

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Mon 04/27/15 10:11 AM

I'm trying to say that women still do this work and men don't. Yet women work outside and are paid just like men. But at home there is no equality still.


If there is no equality then someone picked a bad husband or is a poor negotiator. Or has condition their partner to believe that what ever help is given is inadequate and or unappreciated. Young men today do it all just like women who moved into the work force in the fifty's . My son's do their share of the homemaking, parenting, and providing and have no heartburn about being equal partners.

If someone would suggest to my daughter-in-laws that they should be paid to do what is their responsibility to do they would smack you for insulting them for being prostitutes.

Come to think of it so would I because true enough I was rarely paid money for my work in our home or business but I sure had parity in many other areas and bonus perks because I made being a homemaker mother wife my first career and was good at it. And enjoyed it.

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Mon 04/27/15 10:12 AM

I think you got your facts all wrong...

It was woman who needed a dowry to bring to her husband on their marriage, not the other way round ....
That's why having many daughters was/is quite something... if you want to find them all a good husband, you need a good dowry for them.

Saw this docu on a Indian family few years back, reasonably poor family with I believe 3 or 4 daughters. The father's life was consumed by making enough money for his daughters' dowry. It was all he was doing, day in day out, year in year out. And he seemed to not mind, loved it, loved his daughters and working his butt of to give them what they needed in the end.
But what a way to live.
.
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Grrrrrr...
It pains me to do this, more than anyone will ever know
But, Estelle was at least partially correct.

There were native american cultures,
where it was customary for a man
to barter with a woman's parents,
in exchange for the woman.


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Mon 04/27/15 10:27 AM
Edited by SitkaRains on Mon 04/27/15 10:30 AM


I think you got your facts all wrong...

It was woman who needed a dowry to bring to her husband on their marriage, not the other way round ....
That's why having many daughters was/is quite something... if you want to find them all a good husband, you need a good dowry for them.

Saw this docu on a Indian family few years back, reasonably poor family with I believe 3 or 4 daughters. The father's life was consumed by making enough money for his daughters' dowry. It was all he was doing, day in day out, year in year out. And he seemed to not mind, loved it, loved his daughters and working his butt of to give them what they needed in the end.
But what a way to live.
.
.




Grrrrrr...
It pains me to do this, more than anyone will ever know
But, Estelle was at least partially correct.

There were native american cultures,
where it was customary for a man
to barter with a woman's parents,
in exchange for the woman.





Yes once upon a time.. In most cultures there was some type of monetary goods crossing hands. Depended on which culture on which said party paid. woman's or man's.

In today's time..
I could just see the look across my parents face
if some man offered X amount of ponies, and wolf pelts.
If I am really good I might be worth a buffalo or bear hide..bigsmile

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Mon 04/27/15 10:48 AM


I think you got your facts all wrong...

It was woman who needed a dowry to bring to her husband on their marriage, not the other way round ....
That's why having many daughters was/is quite something... if you want to find them all a good husband, you need a good dowry for them.

Saw this docu on a Indian family few years back, reasonably poor family with I believe 3 or 4 daughters. The father's life was consumed by making enough money for his daughters' dowry. It was all he was doing, day in day out, year in year out. And he seemed to not mind, loved it, loved his daughters and working his butt of to give them what they needed in the end.
But what a way to live.
.
.




Grrrrrr...
It pains me to do this, more than anyone will ever know
But, Estelle was at least partially correct.

There were native american cultures,
where it was customary for a man
to barter with a woman's parents,
in exchange for the woman.



While you may find instances of that they are the minority. It was much more often that the women's family paid the men. Which is what we originally told her and she is trying to claim it isn't the case. The true title of the thread should be if women should pay men to get married.

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Mon 04/27/15 11:02 AM

In many cultures a woman's parents were paid to seal the marriage deal, shouldn't women be paid today for this marriage deal?


you sure seem to want want money for someone to try to love you...

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Mon 04/27/15 11:17 AM



I think you got your facts all wrong...

It was woman who needed a dowry to bring to her husband on their marriage, not the other way round ....
That's why having many daughters was/is quite something... if you want to find them all a good husband, you need a good dowry for them.

Saw this docu on a Indian family few years back, reasonably poor family with I believe 3 or 4 daughters. The father's life was consumed by making enough money for his daughters' dowry. It was all he was doing, day in day out, year in year out. And he seemed to not mind, loved it, loved his daughters and working his butt of to give them what they needed in the end.
But what a way to live.
.
.




Grrrrrr...
It pains me to do this, more than anyone will ever know
But, Estelle was at least partially correct.

There were native american cultures,
where it was customary for a man
to barter with a woman's parents,
in exchange for the woman.



While you may find instances of that they are the minority. It was much more often that the women's family paid the men. Which is what we originally told her and she is trying to claim it isn't the case. The true title of the thread should be if women should pay men to get married.


You did notice the lack of the word "all", in my post?
Correct?

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Mon 04/27/15 01:22 PM

Women should be given a percentage of her husbands earnings each paycheck that comes in, and that percent is equal to the paycheck amount. She should be in charge of how it get's spent giving him an allowance to go to work, this way it's fair.


Meanwhile, back in this universe ...

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Mon 04/27/15 02:21 PM

Women should be given a percentage of her husbands earnings each paycheck that comes in, and that percent is equal to the paycheck amount. She should be in charge of how it get's spent giving him an allowance to go to work, this way it's fair.


Hello? Texas is community property. Even if she doesn't do anything, she gets half