Last week I and some others mentioned that what's in the bookcase is indicative of someone's personality.

Maybe a bit of an odd thing...

I often come across men that seem okay till I read their film & book preferences...
Men that are into the filmhouse genre. Which is an alternative, so called 'intellectual' genre, like literature and books.

Now I suppose I shouldn't let their choice of movies and books bother me, but yeah ... If I go to the movies, I wanna see something like John Wick, 300 Rise of an Empire, not some so called intellectual BS.

Now books, okay, you read a book on your own, for yourself. But you usually watch a movie together. Plus.. it says something about someone's personality and interests.

Do you look past such things if the guy himself seems okay, appeals to you, apart from the choice of films & books?
If it really is an indication of who he is... should you look past it?

well way I see it is we are all different and like different things so yeh I would look past it.you have to accommodate each others interests.

yes, i'd look past it and delve deeper
people can have various tastes in the arts that may not necessarily reflect their entirety as a person.
if in case it does... it seems like a small thing to look over if he is indeed ok, and appealing and have other common interests and compatibilities to bond over...
same goes with how he ought to treat me...

Let me ask you this: What if he's a "see the movie first" type of guy?

If I know a movie of a book is coming out, I'll want to see it first, because I know if I read the book first, I won't enjoy the movie. (I can only come up with maybe two times when the movie was better).

looking at his movie collection or at least the one he has on display in the living room can be a peek into part of his personality

does he like a good comedy? are they documentaries? thriller or scary movies?

I would hope to see a mix of a little this and that.
now if he had a whole shelf filled with bass fishing, hunting and golf

uhhh

I don't care if she ever watches a movie or TV show - nutz, I don't even own a TV. As far as what's on the bookshelf? I'd be pleased to know that she read, at all, regardless of the subject matter. So many folks don't.

It's an indication of imagination. Imaginative folks rock. Passive, 'I want to be entertained' folks? Not so much, for me.

I always read the books before I see the movies. Sometimes the movies just can't really explain everything they should *cough* Hunger games *cough*. As for me, I have a wide variety of movies from comedies to horror to even animation. Just depends on my mood

It's yet another one of those pluses and minuses things. There's no simple way to conclude anything VALID about someone, just by looking on their video shelf.

I KNOW no one would be able to tell much about me from my videos, save that I like to own a lot of them. At least half of what I have, is there so that I can entertain my handicapped son, who despite being officially mentally a child (among other things), has a very wide and fluctuating interest in films, which varies from action films, to weird cartoons that I can't stand, to long subtle videos of sea life, and more.

I would go with that pretty much anything that you find in your prospective mates' life, can be an indicator of something. But you really need to find out why they have whatever it is, if you want to make more than a snap judgement about them, which very well may be false.

As long as you realize that figuring out where the other person's head is at is more of an art than a hard science, you'll probably be fine.

Honestly, I thought the one for me would be a big movie buff like me.
But nope, she doesn't nearly watch movies like I do.
And people would never be able to tell what kind of a person I am from the films I own as I own all types from all decades and genres, from super low budget shot on video 80's horror schlock, to films like Four Seasons with Alan Alda.
Same with books, I have a wide variety, and again she doesn't read as often as I do, but like movies it doesn't matter to me. Though when she does read she reads books I find daunting. So you can't even judge what type of person they are from the amount of books they do or don't read.

And I like 'my space'; I enjoy having my GAL PAL time and if there's a movie that I know my husband wasn't going to enjoy...then we gals would plan a night out! And the guys went bowling or sat at the sports bar or did what guys do - but it made for better times to have some things that were apart! I like my reading space to be 'MINE'---not cluttered up with another body that is going to be a distraction...unless he can just nap or read and BE QUIET!

I love movies.....any kind really. But some of the so called intellectual movies that the Academy goes gaga over suck balls. Sometimes I wanna watch Shawshank Redemption. Sometimes I wanna watch a mindless comedy. Sometimes I wanna watch chit getting blown up. And sometimes I wanna watch a romantic comedy. I call that diverse. I don't need to watch some highly intellectual film, then afterwards be sipping wine with Buffy and Biff discussing the ethos of the movie.

Depends on the situation.
I mean all things about someone is interrelated to everything else about them and it becomes ever more important the longer you are around them.
People aren't modular.
I can't just remove their taste in movies or books and stick that on a shelf somewhere and ignore it pretending like it's not both a symptom and cause of something else in them.

I may "look past" if it seems like that is minor to something else I need to pay attention to.


You can ultimately choose anything they do as an indication of who they are if you want to. Especially if you want to hurry up and label them so you can put them in a box and pretend they are modular.
Books, movies, food, work, past relationships, shoes, their closet, etc. ad nauseum.

It's no different, one isn't better than the other, no matter which one thing you decide you want to use to tell yourself it represents them.

You keep misspelling ad nauseous, urmmm, ad nauseam.

Ad nauseam is a Latin term for a discussion that has continued so long that it has continued "to the point of nausea..


or were you being facetious?

I couldn't seriously date someone who is totally into slashers or Jack Black

Suck balls, hahahahaha Thank you for making me LOL

And yes, exactly what I meant, I'm not looking for that chit either. Discussing it over wine, I don't even like wine

Well there's a good one... what if she is a tv show nut? That kind of person that wants to sit/slouch on the settee each night to watch series, shows and so on. Would you be happy with someone like that?

Ahhhhhh.....so seeing an action film with Crystal would be hella good.

I was referring to his posts in my clever, irreverent fashion. Let's see if he gets it.