Is a relationship break up by text message acceptable or is the in person break up still valid???

Texting is rather obsolete, I can barely remember how to do it, lol.

Breaking up by text(ing) is disrespectful and rude. If you want to break up, at least do them the courtesy of doing it in person.
I think most people want to avoid that, because they fear the reaction, fear the woman crying, getting upset or whatever. Tough chit. Deal with it. Grow some baws ...

Break up in person huh!!! What about the men who could go ballistic and start crying etc etc..???

Definitely cheaper than a singing telegram.

of course it's still valid.

it also goes a long way to prove you were dating a child.

If a person can't handle a break-up via text, then tough chit. Deal with it. Grow some baws ...

In my eyes, trying to break up with someone via text message is bull$#it/chicken$#it/etc, etc, etc...

Have the bare minimum of cojones that it takes to treat the other person like an adult.

If it is acceptable to break up via a telephone call, then why would it be unacceptable to use a more-modern form of communication?

No.. They are still a couple


Wtf !?

Ehhh, I'm (personally) not especially impressed by an over-the-phone breakup either, but I recognize that everyone has to make their own decision on that.

Myself, I feel that if you cared for someone, you should have enough respect for them to look them in the eye, answer any reasonable questions they may have, & just show a basic level of respect for them. Kind of like THIS:



(Of course the above is just a general guideline, if the situation involves something like domestic violence, instability or the like, ALL bets are off!)

I hate in person drama just about as bad as a person could but I think breaking up by text is only justified if you think there is some kind of physical threat.

It is not that difficult to find a semi private place, meet there, and just say "This relationship is not working so it is over." Then excuse yourself and leave. Adults are responsible for their own emotions. Be and adult and keep them in check.

If you are in a complicated situation like sometimes sharing housing then you make other arrangements and pack what you can when it is going to create the least drama and move out. Sometimes it is better to just cut your losses and leave stuff behind. Losing a day's pay or a day off is certainly better than living longer in misery.

Or if you are living together in your place then; move them out. If someone can't make their own arrangements immediately then the classy thing is to pay a week at and extended stay or at least make sure they have enough to not have to sleep in a car or a shelter and put their stuff in storage for a couple months. If you can't afford a break up you better think about weather you want to get into a live in relationship in the first place.

Very few live in relationships are equal but it should not leave one person destitute. Or for that matter come as a shock if you have made any kind of effort to communicate the problems.

in cases of violence get hell out no need for a good bye



but in other cases..I think people tend to use the phone to avoid the confrontation and because they can hang up or just delete the texts instead of having to look someone in the eye

If there is violence, or any dangerous situation and you need to get out no need for good byes. Get out fast and secretly.

Besides that I think if a person can't say it to the other person's face they want out of the relationship shows me they don't have any balls and need to grow some.

It's not that hard to say I'm sorry we finished.
What happened to honesty?
If it's not working respect yourself and the other person.

Well that's how I roll.

Sorry double posting

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Well considering that phone call breakups are about obsolete and breaking up face to face is pretty much non existent.....And given that people simply would rather avoid a confrontation.....texting a break up is all the rage. Hell, if you could purchase stock in texting you'd be one rich biatch! Not only is it acceptable, it has become the standard.

I think it is smart to consider any break up to have the potential for drama or even violence and hard feelings so at least use common sense about things.

No booze, no drugs, and you don't do it when you know someone is already exhausted or emotional. You didn't decide it wasn't working in the blink of the eye the solution doesn't have to be that fast either.

No financial cheap shots. What is yours is yours but what is there's is not yours just because you wish you had not wasted your time.

Don't act like a brat. Be kind you don't have to hurt someone being petty returning gifts but you should return family items or any engagement rings.

If you have any joint accounts, close them and change passwords on all your accounts. Block there number from your phone. Over should be over.

No audience; unless you want to have a professional around; not always a bad idea; especially if kids are involved; but they should be elsewhere.

Tell your friends/family after you have broken the news but keep the details out of the announcement.

Take a respectable vacation from communal haunts. Distance may not make the heart grow fond but it does take some of the sting out of things if you give each other time to move on.