Good question I am tired of working hard.

Realized 8 years ago I needed to work on my well being and been working on it ever since till the end.

Most valuable attribute is integrity it all starts there for me.

Hahaha keep guessing.
Hint. Both of you guys are wrong

I worked hard for my money....so ya better treat me right and have my beer and sandwich ready at 5:38PM sharp.

a hard working man? yes ma'm please

Hard work is for suckers. Work smart, not hard. Do as little as possible for maximum return. And it only took me until I was 29 to figure that out and I've been self employed since. 90% of my time is free time. I do what I want and go where I want. Never again will I be stuck in a cubicle at the whim of some jerk in a slightly bigger cubicle.

I think for me it isn't in to the top 3 qualities but it is in the top 10. I work hard for what I have and I want a partner that understands that.

So a job that pays his bills is pretty important to me.

In my career there are times I am flat not available and if my partner doesn't have a strong work ethic he may not understand that. And if he isn't available at times I will understand it.

I don't believe a career or job is a defining point in a persons life and yet let's be honest.. A paycheck is kind of important when you have a mortgage, car payment, credit card bills, health insurance... the list is kind of long.

So yeah I want a man that isn't afraid of hard work. Whether it is in a career or helping me do home repairs I am pretty good by myself, yet if we co habitate I want a helper not do it alone.

Interesting question, Peggy.

I think when I was younger, a man's work ethic and commitment to his career mattered a lot more to me. Probably because I saw it as an indicator of what sort of life we might build together and his overall character.

But now, in a different phase myself, 'hardworking' is not as important. In fact, if a person has to announce or advertise that they are hardworking, I'm a little wary. Additionally I haven't found a direct correlation with how a person approaches work and how he approaches a relationship.

So, self-sufficiency? Absolutely. Hard working? Not necessarily. Besides, as they say, it's more important to work smarter than it is to work harder.

I have never had a problem with it being "Hard" or "Working" but I can understand why this would be important to women. However they do make drugs to fix that problem.

Funny question Peggy. I am a hard worker as I have been told by many. I don't stop until something is solved. I have done much manual work and when I hurt myself I continue on any way. Having a "hard working" attitude has enabled me to complete many very difficult projects both physically and mentally demanding. So, am I proud of being a hard worker? Hell to the yes!

I've watch non-hard workers at various jobs and considered them worthless as others have too. A "smart worker" may solve a problem quicker and then sit on their azz longer then it takes a hard worker to solve the original problem and then several others after that.

It is possible to be a "smart worker" AND a "hard worker" at the same time, as I am. This has enabled me to get 20 years ahead of my life schedule. I'm planning on retiring next year. I will continue with other projects but they won't be jobs or considered normal work. So, will I be viewed as a lazy bum? Probably, many believe you should work until your in your late 60's and beyond. I have a feeling if I put retired on my profile, at my age, women will just think I'm unemployed, broke, and just trying to cover it up.

Funny, I thought for sure I put hard working on my profile because I do consider it a valuable quality, so I had to check it out. Apparently at the time, I didn't consider it valuable enough to list it. So there you go. No reason to update my profile. Hell, I have no intention to update my photo either. No reason to fix something that isn't broke.

It would be nice to be a kept woman but to be honest I would be bored and get frustrated.
These only so many hours you can do for cleaning, cooking and washing.

I like to contribute to the household keep and savings. I don't think he should be the one to pay for everything. Why wear the dude out before his time.

I wouldn't mind being the main earner if he is sick. That's a different story.
I won't put up with a lazy bum who expects everything on a silver platter.

I liked how you looked at it from the perspectice of needs sparkae. Many women inately yearn to feel protected by a man, but there is a need for physical protection and emotional protection and so often the physical protection is focused on in the form of hard work and the emotional protection that comes from.the msle being emotionally present is downplayed

I'm pretty sure I had a comment here...now it's gone.

I agree, balance is very important!

Yes balance is also very important especially on a high wire. Hard work a good craft beer might help.

good point, Integrity

Well many people share your belief of the man being the breadwinner of the home.

Its interesting though how many women now resist the idea of a man financially caring for them without them being able to earn their keep. I think some women are genuuinely concerned that no financial contribution on their part ultimately translates into them having no say in houseold decision making . This ofcourse is a wrong presumption for a person to make but i think its still a concern that some women have

When my grandmother received an excessively high water bill, it became clear she had a plumbing leak. It took me several hours digging, cutting open her porch floor, more digging, and some pipe replacement to fix the problem. Was my ability and willingness to do that work for her, of any less value than the services of a professional plumber? Was it the difficulty of the task, the amount of time it took, or my availability and ability that determines the value of my effort?

I don't gauge my self worth or my value to society or a romantic partner, on how many hours I work, or how much money my efforts generate.

This is a sensitive subject for me right now. I was recently rejected by a woman who found me attractive, and liked many of my qualities... but couldn't accept my employment status.

I agree with lu_rosemary. I want some semblance of equal effort and equal contribution from a romantic partner. If I don't have the funds for something, I do without. I think the gal who rejected me isn't willing to do without things she can't afford, and is looking for a man to be her financier.

In and of itself, not very.
But I tend to conceptualize or value a "job" in its entirety.
Cost vs. time vs. quality vs. ethics vs. benefit vs. satisfaction, rather than just "hard work."

IMO anyone can work hard. It doesn't mean much if it's not really accomplishing much or ultimately leads to a deficit somewhere.

I prefer the idea "work smarter, not harder."


Only in job interviews if that's what the interviewer seems to want to hear.