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I noticed in the dating section that people assume their profile is passed up for one reason or another that is about them personally not being attractive, or interesting or appealing
But, I know when I do pass the time going through 'matches', I often will find someone attractive and/or interesting but they are far away and/or looking for something different than I am. I cant tell you how many favorites I have because they seem very appealing, but I click no on match because what they state they are looking for does not describe me. Just a thought not to take the profile pass ups so personally (for those that don't care, it doesnt matter obviously)... |
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Edited by
Nofearinlove
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Sun 02/11/18 02:15 PM
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I noticed in the dating section that people assume their profile is passed up for one reason or another that is about them personally not being attractive, or interesting or appealing But, I know when I do pass the time going through 'matches', I often will find someone attractive and/or interesting but they are far away and/or looking for something different than I am. I cant tell you how many favorites I have because they seem very appealing, but I click no on match because what they state they are looking for does not describe me. Just a thought not to take the profile pass ups so personally (for those that don't care, it doesnt matter obviously)... You are right. I can relate to that. |
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I agree with msharmony. I know exactly what you mean.
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Edited by
quiterightlyso
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Sun 02/11/18 04:00 PM
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I look at it like this: everybody's looking for something specific in a person. What one might find appealing in someone, another might not. At the end of the day, there is someone for everybody out there. As for profile views, how would someone know if a person is the right one without looking?
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Honestly I don't even think about others looking at my profile or me looking at theirs...Just cause I look don't mean I'm interested or not interested just means something caught my attention. Either their picture or something they posted... nothing more..
People look at profiles for different reasons.. and they don't contact them for different reasons... it could be distance or something they stated in their profile or they are a bit shy about first contacts.... it is not something that one should take personally.. The way I look at it if they look and don't contact me, then you have a choice make the first move or move on..  |
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If most of the people read and not just view my profile they would not say hello
 that is if they are interested in a response. And by this time I personally skip profiles when I see complicated, separated , widowed, in the military and married for obvious reasons no matter how handsome they look. Well this is just me no offence meant. I learn from my mistakes 
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when I see profiles contacted or viewed me in her 20th/ 30th with J.LO pictures & I know,I'm in my mid 50th with trucker's gut... definitely... I'm not interested
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I noticed in the dating section that people assume their profile is passed up for one reason or another that is about them personally not being attractive, or interesting or appealing But, I know when I do pass the time going through 'matches', I often will find someone attractive and/or interesting but they are far away and/or looking for something different than I am. I cant tell you how many favorites I have because they seem very appealing, but I click no on match because what they state they are looking for does not describe me. Just a thought not to take the profile pass ups so personally (for those that don't care, it doesnt matter obviously)... I think how someone views rejection on sites like this is related to their own insecurities. They see the pass as something wrong with them. I call it a negative reinforcing mindset. It can lead to a self-supporting, self-sustaining depression. Dating sites are probably not the only time they feel that way. Any rejection for any reason can do it. The only thing they need to do is change their negative mindset to a positive one and things immediately start to seem better. For some reason, a lot of people just can't or won't do that? |
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I really don’t worry about who view my profile o who are interested in contact me.
What really matters is what comes after that, if a receive a message and starting with give your email or your phone I just not take any attention, I have been chatting with some girls matching my preferences but after a few days of the amount of messages decreases I just simply assume there are not enough interest and just move forward to the next I’m very pragmatic about that And I saw scepticalsoul profile, but she’s to far from me to star something LOL |
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I really don’t worry about who view my profile o who are interested in contact me. What really matters is what comes after that, if a receive a message and starting with give your email or your phone I just not take any attention, I have been chatting with some girls matching my preferences but after a few days of the amount of messages decreases I just simply assume there are not enough interest and just move forward to the next I’m very pragmatic about that And I saw scepticalsoul profile, but she’s to far from me to star something LOL LOL I guess that was a compliment thanks sir 
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Honestly I don't even think about others looking at my profile or me looking at theirs...Just cause I look don't mean I'm interested or not interested just means something caught my attention. Either their picture or something they posted... nothing more.. People look at profiles for different reasons.. and they don't contact them for different reasons... it could be distance or something they stated in their profile or they are a bit shy about first contacts.... it is not something that one should take personally.. The way I look at it if they look and don't contact me, then you have a choice make the first move or move on.. This is pretty much my thoughts as well. I pretty much stick to the forums. I'm not actively searching at the moment, so don't use search or look at profiles for potential matches. When I check a profile, it's usually someone from the forums that I would like to know a little more about, or where they're from. It helps me to identify a little more with them too after reading something they've posted. And I haven't checked in quite a while who's viewed me, so I'm clueless as to who's looked but hasn't contacted me. Guess when I'm back to active search mode, lol, I will be a little more proactive.   |
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If most of the people read and not just view my profile they would not say hello that is if they are interested in a response. And by this time I personally skip profiles when I see complicated, separated , widowed, in the military and married for obvious reasons no matter how handsome they look. Well this is just me no offence meant. I learn from my mistakes true enough sis |
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Sometimes those that view me like for several months already without saying anything gives me the shudders
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I think the biggest problem is the assumptions we make based on past negative experiences. It is a form of discrimination based on our past. We assume all people who fit a certain group are the same type people. That might work if there were many available prospects in the dating world; with a limited supply, we need to at least get some actual information on our prospects before we write them off.
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I never give it a second thought, I believe if someone wants to contact me after viewing my profile they will, but I am not searching for anyone right now. However, I am sure a few photos and a few words in your profile is much better than, 'I will tell you later' or no photos at all. |
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People keep track of profile pass ups? Can you even do that?
I think I get a lot of 'pass ups' because I'm far away, but that's okay cos I'm not here looking for anyone because they are too far away  
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I delete views every time I come on. Mingle2. If I don't, then there will be pages and that takes too much time to delete all.
I wish just 5 would be some man I am really interested in. Views mean little to me, and I have a couple of Stalkers. Who views often. 
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You sound picky. As long as they don't live far away, give it a shot. You never know how a person truly is face to face. Words we may use to describe ourselves here is such an insignificant fraction of who we are as people. It really isn't anything to go off of.
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profile passes are no big deal. I probably get 6-10 a day. I assume they aren't looking for who I am or have to offer.
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I'm just happy that someone somewhere is viewing my profile.
To everyone who had viewed, is viewing, will be viewing my profile... 
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