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A famous old song insists ' I regret nothing'
Is it possible to live your life without any regret for things said or left unsaid or done or not done? |
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I think we all have some regrets somewhere, wishing we'd said or done something, or were given the opportunity to do so.
As for your topic question, regret for having dumped someone, nope. Never. I don't easily 'dump' someone. I'm a Taurus, I tend to stay with a person too long, even when the relationship has past its sell-by date. So if I do decide to cut someone out of my life, I am 100% certain about it. That doesn't mean, however, it doesn't hurt to do so. Usually people think that when you end a relationship you're fine and not hurting, but that is not necessarily the case. The fact you had to end a relationship, means that something you wanted, had hopes for and dreams, went down the tubes. And that is always painful, even when you were the one who decided it couldn't go on any longer. |
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A famous old song insists ' I regret nothing' Is it possible to live your life without any regret for things said or left unsaid or done or not done? Yes. No matter how hard we try, we can't change the past. I live in the moment, gaining wisdom from my past but never wishing to change it. Can't be done. I am who I am now because of my past. Good AND bad. I like me. When one gains control of themselves, emotions no longer dictate your words and actions, reason does. Existing in the now, with reason and respect for others allows you to not say what you shouldn't and do say what needs to be said. Its about being the person you want to be right now, deliberately. May you find clarity and contentment in the moment and in yourself as you truly are. |
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I might just still
Just a little bit Regret not waking up a bit sooner But that too shall pass Prolly when I'm pushin' up daisies.  
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I think we all have some regrets somewhere, wishing we'd said or done something, or were given the opportunity to do so. As for your topic question, regret for having dumped someone, nope. Never. I don't easily 'dump' someone. I'm a Taurus, I tend to stay with a person too long, even when the relationship has past its sell-by date. So if I do decide to cut someone out of my life, I am 100% certain about it. That doesn't mean, however, it doesn't hurt to do so. Usually people think that when you end a relationship you're fine and not hurting, but that is not necessarily the case. The fact you had to end a relationship, means that something you wanted, had hopes for and dreams, went down the tubes. And that is always painful, even when you were the one who decided it couldn't go on any longer. ditto from a another taurus  Smashed the rearview mirror some years ago...because it just showed one solid rope which was woven each day from the many strands (choices) of the future... |
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Tom, you sound wise and reflect many of my own personal beliefs. I don’t claim to not make mistakes, but they are learning tools...not regrets. As I experience life I collect those lessons and use them carefully thru the present and future.
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Tom, you sound wise and reflect many of my own personal beliefs. I don’t claim to not make mistakes, but they are learning tools...not regrets. As I experience life I collect those lessons and use them carefully thru the present and future. Nice.
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I usually wait as long as possible to see if a relationship will work, however, the older I get I tend to move on quickly! Life is to short to be miserable in a relationship , It's .not marriage ! No regets although I may be sad it had to end.
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Can't say that I do ~~~
When it gets to the point of telling someone it is time to move on... I have already tried all that I could in order to make it work... By the time I'm ready to open that door for them to leave I feel I have done all I could and there is no reason to hang on to what will never happen~~~ As they say if your always looking in the rear view mirror you will not only miss the moment your in, but what is coming towards you... Sure we all have things in the past we wish would have been different~~ but no regrets~~~ |
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There was a poem
About a dog Who found two bones He picked at one He licked the other He went in circles He dropped dead Use your freedom of choice |
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I find that in order for one to live without regret ..that in some if not most cases they have to learn the "art of forgiveness"..whether for the other party or themself..I find the latter to be the most difficult of them all... 
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To forgive oneself, one must first take care of everything that can be done. Once no further action can be done, let...it...go.
When you live in the moment (you can't do otherwise) you do what you can. If there is nothing that can be done, why worry about it? Concern yourself when something can be done. |
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Absolutely. I don't regret that I chose to move on, but I absolutely regret putting myself in a position to hurt someone. In every case, it has worked out for the best for both of us, but I did not intend to turn something on that I couldn't or wouldn't see through and at the time I didn't realize how selfish I was being.
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A famous old song insists ' I regret nothing' Is it possible to live your life without any regret for things said or left unsaid or done or not done? For me, No. If I let go of a woman I had a good reason for it. So, I have no regrets there. The only regret I have as far as women go is the one I should have given a chance to. And didn't. When I look back on it, that I regret. You know It's funny how things work out sometimes. Sometimes you don't realize what you had until it's gone. Sometimes you don't realize what you could have had until you've had the wrong thing. And when you've had the wrong thing, then by the time you realize what you could have had, what you could have had is gone. In other words, if you are lucky enough to find a good thing, GRAB IT! and hold on. Because you may never get it again. |
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Edited by
Robxbox73
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Sun 03/04/18 01:25 AM
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I think we all have some regrets somewhere, wishing we'd said or done something, or were given the opportunity to do so. As for your topic question, regret for having dumped someone, nope. Never. I don't easily 'dump' someone. I'm a Taurus, I tend to stay with a person too long, even when the relationship has past its sell-by date. So if I do decide to cut someone out of my life, I am 100% certain about it. That doesn't mean, however, it doesn't hurt to do so. Usually people think that when you end a relationship you're fine and not hurting, but that is not necessarily the case. The fact you had to end a relationship, means that something you wanted, had hopes for and dreams, went down the tubes. And that is always painful, even when you were the one who decided it couldn't go on any longer. Wow, Crystal...I'm the same way. Too long, then when i break up, I NEVER go back to an Ex, not even once. To me its like, well we tried our best, lets move on. I live happier this way. Fellow Minotaur! |
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Very interesting replies........for myself, I can't say I have no regrets, indeed I believe regretting that I acted like a jerk at some point in my life, and hurt someone as a result , must surely be a positive thing, if it means I've learnt that being a jerk makes me uphappy....so, instead of justifying my actions I take responsibility for them, I cannot act the same way again...if ever a similar situation should arise ..........
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I think we all have some regrets somewhere, wishing we'd said or done something, or were given the opportunity to do so. As for your topic question, regret for having dumped someone, nope. Never. I don't easily 'dump' someone. I'm a Taurus, I tend to stay with a person too long, even when the relationship has past its sell-by date. So if I do decide to cut someone out of my life, I am 100% certain about it. That doesn't mean, however, it doesn't hurt to do so. Usually people think that when you end a relationship you're fine and not hurting, but that is not necessarily the case. The fact you had to end a relationship, means that something you wanted, had hopes for and dreams, went down the tubes. And that is always painful, even when you were the one who decided it couldn't go on any longer. Wow, Crystal...I'm the same way. Too long, then when i break up, I NEVER go back to an Ex, not even once. To me its like, well we tried our best, lets move on. I live happier this way. Fellow Minotaur! Exactly. And when I come to the point of breaking up -whether with a partner or a friend- I truly have exhausted every possible remedy. It's a big learning theme for me to not overstay my welcome. It still is to date unfortunately. I really have to learn to give up on people or relationships much sooner than I currently do. Would save me a lot of trouble and heartache. And time. |
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@CrystalFairy
I can totally relate. But I think there is a redeemer quality in us, that might make leaving someone in trouble or a bad relation...so hard. The problem now is when I date, its once and thats it. Lately I've gotten replies of why? I don't want to explaing that I might carry the date beyond the freshness date...if ya know what i mean. This could lead to a cold blooded cutoff or a dull dinner only doldrum of boring conversations.... its a kicker... |
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Nope.Never.
Normally,it'll take me a long while contemplating ,weighing on things out and tons of considerations before i could come up with a solid final decision. I don't give up easily,so to speak.But,when the relationship has no longer have the element of respect(in any form}.I don't see any reasons to stay.I won't tolerate such abuse/s...not any more... So.once i have already said goodbye.I never look back.No matter how painful it can be in the beginning.  |
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I'm a bit towards the other end of this.
I do have regrets, which are that I didn't end certain things earlier than I did. And some of what I "learned," I wish I never knew, because in realizing that some not very nice things are true, I lost the ability to believe that some very nice things, are possible or likely. |
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