I understand that some unhappily married men feel,the need to cheat on their spouse for whatever reasons they have not to just be honest and end the relationship.
I have a hard time understanding why happily married men can cheat and feel no guilt. Not only should they feel guilty about cheating on their wives and lying but they should also feel guilty about lying to the new women and leading her on, making her believe that he is available. I the end he will just break her heart. Shameful!

I have been divorced for 2years and have dated several men during that time. I would like to find a good hon st man but it seems to be very hard. So far I have dated 3 different men you claimed to be available and in the end Imfound out that was not the case. It becomes hard to trust anyone.

Sorry for your bad experience with unfaithful men.

Fortunately there are many men that do not cheat on their spouses!

I ve met several single men, not in any committed relationship and had. Good dates. These were online men. Not on mingle2.

I take time to really find them out before any meet ups!

Best wishes to your future searches!

I’ve had my share of that offline too, Tanika. It does suck!

It’s also sad that faithful men have to suffer our suspicion because of it.

just like to point out cheating is not confined to men, I have experienced the female side of this

My above statement applies to women as well.

soooooo true

Women are also just as bad at cheating. If you find out your partner has been cheating on you, then be thankful you have found out what they are really like, and walk away. If you are constantly being cheated on, then maybe you need to think long and hard about why that is? Are you maybe too nice or accommodating of your partner, to the point that they think they can walk all over you, and just take advantage of your good nature. It's a well known and proven fact, that give somebody an inch and they will take a mile, if there is the slightest chance of them getting away with it, and that unfortunately is just human nature. You need to be more confident and assertive, and be the type of person that people respect, instead of use.

I did not tolerate my ex husbands cheating. I gave him a chance to change but I was losing my own self respect. Getting annulled gave me back my self esteem but the marriage made me put up walls that are just so tough that I don’t know if I have and will ever be with the right man someday. I’m still hopeful though I know how it feels to be cheated on and I believe in karma thus I won’t

i think that trying to lay all the blame on JUST men [happily married,or not] is unfair,because WOMEN [happily,AND unhappily married] also cheat.

it sounds like you have personally experienced something ,and you have rationalized it as a 'MEN'S' problem,instead of 'just a problem with people',and until you can move PAST your own roadblocks,then you are not going to be capable of understanding what the true nature of this problem is,and learn to trust people again.

so,you can either live in a perpetual state of mistrust,or open up and learn to REALISTICALLY accept that people are just people,and that you might have to deal with a few people who are not the ideal ones for you before you find THE RIGHT ONE that IS.

but,if you CONSTANTLY experience the SAME class/type of people that you are complaining about picking,EVENTUALLY,you might have to start considering that MAYBE the problem isnt with OTHER people,and start trying to look at your own choices that you are making!
[just saying!!]

Some people are sociopaths and don't have feelings. They cheat because they don't feel love or guilt.

If they cheat on purpose, they have a feeling ... boosting their own ego, by enjoying to hurt others

This is why it is actually among the MOST important aspects of a human's education, to be taught about PHILOSOPHY, and the ACTUAL role that it plays in human behavior and activities.

I know this will sound esoteric and off the wall to many people, but it's vitally important and pertinent to this exact problem.

The reason why some people can cheat without guilt, or steal, or lie in any other venue and so on, is always to be found in their personal PHILOSOPHY. It's one of the things that we should be taught to use dating, in order to investigate.

When you meet someone, watch for signs that they do, or do not, believe in some kind of "relative philosophy" or not. If someone thinks it's okay to treat some people one way, and other people another way, you should be very wary. Most liars and cheaters lie and cheat about EVERYTHING in their lives, not just about sexual fidelity.

If you go to dinner with someone, and they lie to the wait staff, or try to cheat the restaurant out of full payment in some way, they are revealing a duplicitous philosophy to you. If they are RUDE to some people, based on their class or race or gender or political distinctions, they will do the same thing to you, sooner or later.

If someone makes a big show out of performing official rituals, but is clearly doing so only because they support the idea of rituals, you should have the same suspicions.

This is how I came to the realization that the reason WHY people do things, is the main thing to try to learn about them, rather than focusing on only WHAT they do.

People who say political things, or perform religious rituals because they want to benefit from the acceptance that doing so publicly gets them, instead of because they personally hold those beliefs to be important to their inner lives, they will do the same thing to you. That is, they will say to you, what YOU want to hear, before you give them something they want; not because they believe it, but just because of what they are greedy about.

I am in line with this Igor.

What I try to do is, play a game with the person.
A board game works best but it can be cards, golf, anything where
sportsmanship is involved.

I have NEVER discerned someone's character so fast as in a game!
The truth will out!

If they are a cheater they will try and cheat.
If they are a blamer, out it comes.
If they have no patience it soon shows.
If they are dishonest they will work it in.
Monopoly is great, you can see greed and revenge rear their ugly heads.

I's telling you...play a game with a prospective partner.
First.

what can I say "that's just the way it is" somethings will never change..there are no fix it answers... unless of course you warn all dates that they will be subjected to a lie detector test..and in doing so if they don't show up ..well ya just saved yourself a world of heartache..

Sounds like the hardest person to trust is your own judgement when it comes to picking who to date. This can happen to anyone, don't stress or take it as some sort of judgement, any of us easily fall into that trap. The trick is to notice it before it causes you really difficult problems and take stock on how to improve your selection of suitors. We all have to do this to try to wind up in healthy relationships, it's way too easy not to.
Best of luck to you in any case, try not to take the impression that there's some kind of conspiracy of men against women out there, it really comes down to you picking the wheat from the chaff. You're the one with the power over who you date.

Many women see only the sexual aspect of cheating, if a man has sex with someone else, they are cheating. The emotional cheating is much more damaging. Anytime you become emotionally closer with someone other than your spouse you are cheating. You are giving yourself to that other person instead of your spouse and denying your spouse yourself!!

what does it say to you if they don't enjoy playing games?

Well women cheat on men more often than men do it. Just go and watch Jeremy Kyle show or just check tinder where you'll find tonnes of happily married women desperately looking to cheat on their partners.

If Jeremy Kyle is for real, I am a Chinaman

Sounds like a bit of anti-social there..I am also
suspicious of anyone who does not like pets. Both pets and
games are usually done for someone other than yourself,
projecting I believe tis called, I would worry if someone
could not project.