Hello pizzaguy,
Why lump all women into one. You had a problem with one woman. She didn't
want to meet with you. Maybe.. just maybe she was just not that into you.
You know she was not interested in you enough to see if there was chemistry
between you and her. So just charge it to experience and move on.

Personally, I only entertain a man I would be interested in meeting to see
if there is chemistry between us. There is no sense wasting my time or the
other person's time if I don't see any future in it. If it is local and I am attracted to the guy, I would meet in person right away. If the guy
refuse for whatever reason, cut ties. Clean break. Guy is dead to me.

my two cents

Sit quietly Grasshopper and pay close attention.

Your first, and often fatal mistake, is trying to understand women.

What will be will be.

OMG! This is the internet. If you do not understand, that means 99% of all out here is BS. Think about it. Do you even know the person you where talking with is even a woman? Lots of ( how shall I say this)interesting people out here in the land of ODD! LOL
"It's just a jump to the left
And then a step to the right"

If it was "some" women,
the problem could be them.

BUT,
Since you see it as ALL women,
the problem is most likely you.


Introspection can be your friend.

Nice Rocky Horror add there.

Great explanation too..
That IS the internet handbook.

Where's the "dope slap" emoji when ya need it?

yes

That's a very sanguine view, well done young man.

lol I didn't know what a dope slap was so I googled it and here's what I found...

Dope Slap
This little smiley is getting a dope slap for being a moron.

On behalf of the membership;

We, the members of mingle2,
would straight up abuse the hell
out of the "dope slap" emoji.

95% of the women I've met on dating sites in the past 10 or so years want to go way faster than I do. I can't even begin to tell you how many I've had to tell to slow down and not be so pushy. It sounds to me like you need to meet the ones I have.

On dating sites, You're going to meet all kinds of flaky people. You will talk to women that will make you think that they are interested in you. But, as soon as you say, "Let's meet". Poof, they are gone. These are the ones that don't mind wasting your time.

They are not really there to meet anyone. These usually have husbands or boyfriends and are only looking for attention. When you ask them to meet, they have what they came for and they move on to the next.

You will see a lot of women fuss about how men are on dating sites. Many women are just as bad. Many that I've come across say they are wanting a relationship. When in reality they are really just wanting sex. For the most part, women are not like men when it comes to this. Men will come right out and say they want sex. Where many women will beat around the bush about it. They won't just come right out with it.


Many women try to hide. Where men don't.

Men do that a lot too!

I haven't found that in my experience on other sites which will remain nameless, I find that women in my experience they want to meet right away to see if there is any chemistry.

I haven't come across a lot of ghosters, mind you I dont talk to women in their 20's or 30's either.

I generally ignore them or block them.

Ive come across a few that will come out and ask if I would be interested in friends with benefits relationship and I usually laugh at them and block their azz.

I guess every guy experience is different.

I love to change photo s on free sites. You get dozens of views sometimes the same men!

All my photos are updated ones, but I only post one. Hoping some man will stop and Read my profile.

It's so funny many men don't read profiles.

I actually think it's the other way round: women tend to jump into a relationship -or alleged relationship- too soon. That's why so many end up getting hurt. They think there's something there, then turns out the guy wasn't meaning to get seriously involved.

Like someone mentioned "women have timelines"...
It is actually men who have timelines that they don't move away from, not even if the woman is right for him.
When a woman is focusing on something in her life and she meets the right guy, she will adapt and fit him into her life, adapt the schedule/timeline. Men typically don't. If he's in this place of "must focus on career now" that's what he will do, even if the woman he meets would be the perfect partner for him.
Some dating experts call that a man's blueprint.

Always peculiar to see how men can feel 'special' when they get rejected. It's not really a big deal, part of the game. Sounds like she didn't feel a click when she met you, that doesn't mean to say she doesn't want a relationship, just not with you.
Men BS their way out as well as opposed to simply saying "sorry, I'm not feeling it."
And it is difficult to do that as the other could get hurt, angry, start crying or whatever.
I do say that, in a polite way, but I don't do BS. In spite of being polite and bringing it gently, I've had guys close to tears, or feeling really nervous and awkward. So kind of logical that many people don't know how to convey the message -or deal with how the other reacts-, and prefer to come up with BS.
Maybe they also went online afterwards to rant about it, but at least I was honest and told them that I didn't feel it.
I think men should learn to deal with feelings & emotions.
Thank goodness there are men who can, but a great many take it so personally, yet they do the very same thing to a woman when they don't like her.

It basically depends on how a man presents himself (goes for women too of course). Sounds like you're pretty straight forward and not into game-playing, so you attract like minded women and few ghosters etc.
I also prefer to meet fast to see if there's any chemistry. You cannot tell until you meet and I don't like 'wasting' my time nor the man's.

The internet is like a jar of jellybeans and one of the jellybeans is shocked and intimidated by all the colours of the other jellybeans they're stuck in jar with. He just wants all the jellybeans to be different shades of other blue jellybeans like him or maybe some red ones and green ones in defined groups, to be interesting but definitely not this crazy assortment of any insane colour all over the place and they're all dramatic deviations from each other.

What's crazy is outside the internet the majority of people believe everybody else is just a different shade of jellybean, with maybe one or two other colours in defined groups. Hence shocked when stranger helps carry shopping, then runs off with shopping. It's like the first thing people will joke about on an internet forum and yet the last thing anyone would think of at the supermarket, is one of the two an alien species interacting?

Point is half the crazies on the internet would seem remarkably like your regular neighbours in person, you just don't see them with an open door on their thoughts in person so often so can safely assume they think a different shade of your jellybean instead of a deviant incompatibility, which is far more objectively logical.

In other words the internet teaches us only to be more scared of your neighbours from now on