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Jump84
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Hi all. I wanted to ask this question to people who know more about this stuff than me. I've never had a gf or dated, and am a virgin. I'm 27. I'll spare you a long, boring word salad about my life and problems and cut right to the chase. I've concluded that dating/sex/love/relationships aren't for me, and I pretty much know it won't ever happen for me (for many reasons I won't get into). Instead of continuing along this disillusioned path thinking one day it'll happen, or trying to "improve myself" to make girls like me, I'd rather just accept it for what it is and just move on. The problem Is, like all biological beings, the desire is still there. I want to purge the desire for it so I can live peacefully. I'd like to discuss the possibilities of doing so here. Thanks.
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Just be yourself man. Women prefer honesty over trying to be something you're not. The right one will find you.
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Purged the desire?? okay.
well you've come to the wrong place, no one on here can help purge desire. The fact that no one knows what the problem is because you wont or want to share is impossible to answer. The best advice is to seek out professional advice, those trained to deal with what ever is ailing you. |
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^ that too... you have to be happy with yourself first. Seek help, no shame in it..
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I don't want help. I don't wish to pursue the world of dating/sex/relationships. I've made a decision to detach and forget it. I'm trying to find out how one can eliminate the desire for sex or companionship etc... I know it might sound bizarre, but that's honestly what I wish to do.
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I'm pretty sure there are a few religions that have monks and priests.
Perhaps you are looking for personal enlightenment? |
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It is bizarre, most people on M2 are either looking for love or some type of connection or they are just enjoying the forums.
Most on the forums are not looking for love but wont dismiss it if it comes their way. You so far are the only person that is looking for a solution on how to detached oneself of dating and wants to quash desires of intimate connection. No one can answer that Bud. no one except for the professionals who are trained to deal with it. As far as I can see no one in the forums is trained to do that. sure we can make suggestions like join a monastery, but that is a temporary solution not a long term solution. Perhaps stay on the forums and you might find someone who is going through the same thing as you ( as we dont know what is troubling you) and you can form an alliance or maybe join a support group that is the good things about the forums, you never know what you will find on here. I know that probably didnt help. |
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I don't want help. I don't wish to pursue the world of dating/sex/relationships. I've made a decision to detach and forget it. I'm trying to find out how one can eliminate the desire for sex or companionship etc... I know it might sound bizarre, but that's honestly what I wish to do. Go ask your doctor for some pills that chemically 'castrates' you. As for the rest, I think what you are trying to do is denying your humanity. Nr 1) Everyone needs love. It comes with being human and being alive. Nr 2) Everyone has sexual desires. The thing is, if you'd be able to ' kill' sexual desire you will also kill the drive to create, to be spontaneous, to take action and so on and so forth. Sex-drive is not just about sex-drive, it's also about the drive and passion to do others things (everything basically) in life. And to be honest, I doubt you could separate these, as in get rid of sex-drive and keep the rest. What I don't get... if you truly don't want a relationship, what's wrong with sexual feelings? You can still enjoy that by yourself. Sexuality is not about shagging someone, first and foremost it's about being able to enjoy the pleasure it brings you, enjoying your physical body. That isn't tied to a relationship or another person. Plenty of people don't have a relationship nor sex with another, but still enjoy their sexuality. There's no one in the world who knows how to please you other than you. I'm not in a relationship, nor sharing myself with someone else. I still wholeheartedly enjoy my sexuality. So this is more than just not wanting a relationship... And as such I agree with diserli: Get help |
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I don't want help. I don't wish to pursue the world of dating/sex/relationships. I've made a decision to detach and forget it. I'm trying to find out how one can eliminate the desire for sex or companionship etc... I know it might sound bizarre, but that's honestly what I wish to do. Go ask your doctor for some pills that chemically 'castrates' you. As for the rest, I think what you are trying to do is denying your humanity. Nr 1) Everyone needs love. It comes with being human and being alive. Nr 2) Everyone has sexual desires. The thing is, if you'd be able to ' kill' sexual desire you will also kill the drive to create, to be spontaneous, to take action and so on and so forth. Sex-drive is not just about sex-drive, it's also about the drive and passion to do others things (everything basically) in life. And to be honest, I doubt you could separate these, as in get rid of sex-drive and keep the rest. What I don't get... if you truly don't want a relationship, what's wrong with sexual feelings? You can still enjoy that by yourself. Sexuality is not about shagging someone, first and foremost it's about being able to enjoy the pleasure it brings you, enjoying your physical body. That isn't tied to a relationship or another person. Plenty of people don't have a relationship nor sex with another, but still enjoy their sexuality. There's no one in the world who knows how to please you other than you. I'm not in a relationship, nor sharing myself with someone else. I still wholeheartedly enjoy my sexuality. So this is more than just not wanting a relationship... And as such I agree with diserli: Get help Well said 
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I just don't want to partake in human life anymore. I just want to withdraw from it completely. I don't want help from a professional, as I don't wish to improve my life or relations with others. My goal is detach from everything indefinitely, which is why I must eliminate this biological need for sex/companionship. I also want to end the hard feelings and resentment that have come with being undesirable and disliked by women/people. I just want to let go.
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so no professional help okay
well if you really want a solution. Find a desert Island unoccupied by any humans and move there. problem solved. |
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So you want to do this because someone found you undesirable or didn't like you?
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I don't think you can find your answer in a dating site.
Try Psychology and Mental Health Forums. |
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I just don't want to partake in human life anymore. I just want to withdraw from it completely. I don't want help from a professional, as I don't wish to improve my life or relations with others. My goal is detach from everything indefinitely, which is why I must eliminate this biological need for sex/companionship. I also want to end the hard feelings and resentment that have come with being undesirable and disliked by women/people. I just want to let go. That's what I thought from what you said. Basically it means you don't want to live. That's way beyond asking online, way beyond asking on a dating forum, it's even way beyond a psychologist's level... TBH, I'm not a mod, but I think it's way beyond leaving this on these forums even. Serious medical/mental problem. There's some info on help in the forum rules section for this. |
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Hi all. I wanted to ask this question to people who know more about this stuff than me. I've never had a gf or dated, and am a virgin. I'm 27. I'll spare you a long, boring word salad about my life and problems and cut right to the chase. I've concluded that dating/sex/love/relationships aren't for me, and I pretty much know it won't ever happen for me (for many reasons I won't get into). Instead of continuing along this disillusioned path thinking one day it'll happen, or trying to "improve myself" to make girls like me, I'd rather just accept it for what it is and just move on. The problem Is, like all biological beings, the desire is still there. I want to purge the desire for it so I can live peacefully. I'd like to discuss the possibilities of doing so here. Thanks. Yeah well good luck with purging the desire. Soon you will be ripping door knobs off in frustration. Listen, sooner or later you are going to have to get laid.. you are a animal.. same as us... animals do that.. and think about that.. a lot. don't try to fight it or suppress it. You don't want a girl friend.. fine.. you don't need one. get one of the apps and find a girl ( or girls) who feel the same.. they are out there. but don't try to suppress it because the next step is taking a job with the post office... and we all know how those people turn out. |
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Jump84 ..I am sorry you are feeling so lost ... life should not be such a torture ... If you want someone to listen and talk to .. send me a private message
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maybe get some sleep, go for a walk in nature with the trees and birds, see the horizon, spend a short amount of time in the sun each day, stay hydrated, read the Bible, whatever works for you.
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Well, all I'll say, If you are a lonely guy in Nashville Tenn. You don't have to be. It's a big city. Bigger than Atlanta. You walk down the streets of Nashville, especially on a Friday or Saturday night, and "it's" everywhere. And it doesn't seem to matter how good looking you are. At least that's what I've seen when I've been there.
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Edited by
Toodygirl5
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Mon 06/25/18 05:01 PM
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Don't limit yourself to the internet. Get out meet in person.
Make women friends. People play games online. |
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Marjoram (herb) calms sexual desire, in a way.
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