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Topic: Dating in the day and age
Blowing off steam's photo
Sun 07/01/18 10:54 PM
Why does it seem so hard to go on a date nowadays? Every woman i ask out for coffee or to a date acts like i just want sex. Ive even stated i just want good conversation and and good friendship. Whats up ladies what am i doing wrong even when stared i still cant get a simple date with conversation no sex. Its hard being a gentleman today.

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Sun 07/01/18 11:18 PM
Are you talking about women that you meet in person, or women on line? it's a big difference.

JasonKM's photo
Mon 07/02/18 12:55 AM
You know how with someone who treats others like idiots it's projection and they're really the idiot...same deal. When the women you're talking to are treating you like you're only after one thing, guess what they're actually there for? And the big no they're giving you is based on the fact they had a more Adonis like feller in mind when they decided to get laid and actually allow us mere males to have a shot at convincing them it should be this particular example of manness right here.

If you did have gym pics with the body of Ryan Reynolds and the face of Ryan Gosling they'd still assume you're just after one thing...but they're flirty about it and ooh and ahh at you, instead of angry about it and threaten you with a restraining order.

See how that works?
Pick a different type of chick to talk to. They're not all like that, some aren't morons and in fact, they're the cooler ones and some of those are just as hot as the morons, who generally don't age well anyway. Cool chicks age even hotter, so are just better in every way mate.

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Mon 07/02/18 04:09 PM

Why does it seem so hard to go on a date nowadays? Every woman i ask out for coffee or to a date acts like i just want sex. Ive even stated i just want good conversation and and good friendship. Whats up ladies what am i doing wrong even when stared i still cant get a simple date with conversation no sex. Its hard being a gentleman today.


unfortunately my friend you are the victim of the sins of previous douche bags and you're paying the price.

I just read you profile and guess what?
now I see why they think that .

Women have trigger words that are red flags,these are things in your profile that triggers those thoughts

"nice good guy"

"maybe some casual dating"

"not in a romantic way"

This is why women dont take you seriously my friend


Easttowest72's photo
Tue 07/03/18 06:26 PM
Casual dating/never been married. Women run from that.

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Tue 07/03/18 07:03 PM
For me all kinds of bells start to ring when a guy just wants to chill with me and when he doesn’t take life too serious in general.
When his attitude overall isn’t serious, I will not see him as someone who can be serious when it comes to dating either.

Toodygirl5's photo
Tue 07/03/18 07:13 PM
It's hard to meet a gentleman online, I am really. Attracted too.

I have to have attraction and chemistry for a Date.

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Wed 07/04/18 05:30 AM
I absolutely agree. I have had 2 dates in the past 6 months. Ladies don't even care to talk on the phone any more. I am a gentleman, and I can tell you, I have found a great deal of ladies that are looking for nothing but money. None care for a nice dinner, movie, and conversation. I had easy dates for a few years, but just dinner, movie, and conversations. Now I have found none interested to meet. I don't think men are the problem.

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Wed 07/04/18 06:08 AM
It think it is the comic book and sure hero stuff that is making them bolt.

Women don't want to see Spider-Man and Batman action figures in a guys house.


oldkid46's photo
Wed 07/04/18 07:26 AM
It's not just finding a date that is almost impossible, just meeting a new, single woman is impossible too. I guess they are looking for more than just a normal, everyday guy and expect to find their super guy while staying home on their computer.

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Sat 07/07/18 01:57 AM
aap Singale ho

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Sat 07/07/18 01:58 AM
detting krogi

newsworthy's photo
Sat 07/07/18 03:20 AM

Casual dating/never been married. Women run from that.


Whatever?

newsworthy's photo
Sat 07/07/18 03:20 AM

For me all kinds of bells start to ring when a guy just wants to chill with me and when he doesn’t take life too serious in general.
When his attitude overall isn’t serious, I will not see him as someone who can be serious when it comes to dating either.



Whatever?

newsworthy's photo
Sat 07/07/18 03:23 AM

Why does it seem so hard to go on a date nowadays? Every woman i ask out for coffee or to a date acts like i just want sex. Ive even stated i just want good conversation and and good friendship. Whats up ladies what am i doing wrong even when stared i still cant get a simple date with conversation no sex. Its hard being a gentleman today.


It's just another way of them saying they are not interested, I would not take it to heart. Keep trying with different women and surely one will accept a date.

Tom4Uhere's photo
Sat 07/07/18 07:03 AM
What a different experience y'all have concerning dating.
I've had quite a few dates compared to some of you.

My problem isn't that I can't get laid, my problem is when I do date, that's all they want.
I've actually had to put one woman out of my apartment because she wouldn't keep her hands to herself.
I love having sex but not with any woman and not till I have feelings for her.
Certainly not on the first or second date.

My issue is the lies.
I've yet to meet a woman that is what she says and depicts she is.
One that isn't playing a part or acting to how she interprets my expectations.
I want a woman to be herself not who she thinks I want her to be.

My rule of selection is pretty simple.

If I love you being you
and
You love me being me.
We have a chance to make something beautiful for both of us.

Dodo_David's photo
Sat 07/07/18 07:29 AM
Women reject men who act as if it is all women's fault that the men can't get dates.

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Sat 07/07/18 07:42 AM


Why does it seem so hard to go on a date nowadays? Every woman i ask out for coffee or to a date acts like i just want sex. Ive even stated i just want good conversation and and good friendship. Whats up ladies what am i doing wrong even when stared i still cant get a simple date with conversation no sex. Its hard being a gentleman today.


unfortunately my friend you are the victim of the sins of previous douche bags and you're paying the price.

I just read you profile and guess what?
now I see why they think that .

Women have trigger words that are red flags,these are things in your profile that triggers those thoughts

"nice good guy"

"maybe some casual dating"

"not in a romantic way"

This is why women dont take you seriously my friend



Yes, but not just that, all of it breathes negativity...
"Tired of doing/being alone..."
If I see that AND feel that sense of negativity I'm doing a runner, screaming bloody murder at that, hihi.
It also tells me when I read this the man doesn't know what he wants "MAYBE some casual dating"

It all screams "Please make me feel a bit better!" which is far from attractive.

Also try having some different, more positive looking photos, I do suppose you can smile?

Good luck!
flowerforyou

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Sat 07/07/18 07:45 AM

It think it is the comic book and sure hero stuff that is making them bolt.

Women don't want to see Spider-Man and Batman action figures in a guys house.



Hell yes, I forgot to mention that. TOTALLY off-putting!

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Sat 07/07/18 07:50 AM

Women reject men who act as if it is all women's fault that the men can't get dates.

Yep, that too! We want an empowered man who understands these things.
Usually "I'm a nice and good man" equals "I have nothing going for myself". That's not what a woman is looking for...

Works the other way round too... men don't fancy a woman who has nothing going for herself either. It's just not attractive.
Unfortunately ppl's general understanding of what being a "good & nice partner" means is horribly distorted from what it actually means/should mean.

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