Why do men ignore a singl lady just because she has children,,is she not supposed to love and to be loved

It all boils down to maturity. When i got older, i welcomed it. Some men just aren't ready for it and other men don't want to take care of someone elses kids. That's where love comes into play.

for me i tried it twice , both major fails
momma knows best and will not let me help even though i would have gladly and did take them as my own

but momma no let me help teach , and then wants to blame me for things that happen cause of there lack of teaching

and it all ways went back to this is my child not yours
<shrug>

best wishes on your hunt

Hum at times there is more drama then they are willing to deal with... Same with women dating men with young kids...

Many need to get their life together before they start dating again...

This.

You are (somehow) attracting the wrong boys. In 2 of 3 of my serious relationships, she had a child. For me it's never been an issue, I have always wanted a big-huge family. I can only say adjust the way you are looking for a significant partner/lover...he's out there!

Men don't ignore single women.
Men ignore women who are still married to someone but separated.
By the way, being separated isn't the same as being single.

Men ignore women who are still married to someone but separated.
By the way, being separated isn't the same as being single.



I agree. !!

They don't want the responsibility of helping them grow.
They can't love the woman enough to accept her as she is.
Their confidence is lacking and will be jealous of the children and the time they take to care for, teach, instill values, etc.
They are mediocre people not wanting to put effort into acceptance and nurturing.

The only difference between being divorced, and being separated is only the lack of divorce papers. JMO

OT: What's wrong with dating a single mum? If you love her, you should be able to love the whole package ... and vice versa.

I ignore pretty much all women anymore.

I've dated single moms. I'm a single dad now. When I dated single moms, I had no kids, but I was always careful not to get too close too fast. Now that I'm a single parent, I'm much more selective about who I let in my life romantic or otherwise.

I think its an over generalization.

people have their pre judgment of what an experience will be or pre conceived ideas of attractiveness, and its hard to stray from them to take a more person by person approach.

some people may ignore a cop, for instance, because they have the pre conceived idea of the danger it may bring in their life or the risk of losing that person sooner, even if that individual cop may not be on a dangerous route or may be a peaceful person, there are too many options to find out about THAT individual or their circumstance.

the same thing with single parents, some people have the pre conceived notion of what will or wont be expected of them and what they can or cannot expect from a single parent, and there are too many options for them to stop and find out what that Individuals actual circumstance or expectations are.

we weed out people for the sake of simplicity, I think, and we probably all miss out on some great matches because of this. but priorities will remain priorities and people will continue to make those quick and subjective judgments, against our ideal of what we want in a relationship.


I pretty much 'ignore' single men because of my preconceptions about their preconceptions ...lol. My 'preference' is someone who is a parent. But I remain aware that it is possible I could meet and fall for someone who is not, because they are the TYPE of individual I can fall for.

Single mother are somewhat busy for kids, another problem single mother always get in touch with ex- but she lied

moreover single mom also has fault to be a mom without knowing man properly and have sex or random sex and blame men.

So better search a single dad and accept man kid as your kid and plan to marry and build family instead of casual sex life

A man friend told me he was in love with a woman that was going to have full custody of her grandson, who was. 5 yrs old. He told the woman they could be friends but nothing more, he couldn't marry her or live in the same home.
He knew he couldn't take living with a Active little ,5yr old he was 49.

I told him, you didn't really love the woman then.


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Let's call it the way it is, most men are mankids at best, they (including myself at times) want to be the COA. And most have an ego that is not made for having another dude/guy (father/baby daddy) in the picture. The role of a 'stepparent' isn't an easy role to play, combined with knowing you will never be first on her list is a tough thing / reality to face.

I don't mind dating a single mom.

As long as the little bastages are grown
and moved out.


Separated moms?
Oh Hell nah!
Too much not-yet-ex drama.

We agree. !

I feel the same way about a Man .

How are you doing please can I know you more than this

Not everyone wants children.

I dated men and the two relationships i got into had no issues with me being a mom. Infact there was lots of love and understanding and no issues!
Not all men are like that.