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also.. serious health / physical problems... got approached by a man who'd had 4 strokes age 40. Very sorry, but not going there... Another who'd had 2 replacement hips, needed it done again soon... Not looking for someone who's future is bleak and/or needs me to push him around in a wheelchair in 1-2 years. And this!!!!  |
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not certain if it could be labeled "Flaw/quirk"... but he has to still be fully functional below the belt! Just had this guy state in a quiz things below the belt were dusty. Wot?? Please PO! LOL. I ain't dead yet! I need someone who can still shake the snake, or rather, not shake it, as that means it's not... well... you know, hihi. But a man who cannot deliver the goods anymore --> next!!! Ok, this would be one of the reasons we got together-below the belt activities!! So,its non negotiable....  ️Has to be very healthy in response!!  |
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At this point in our lives,most men/women are comfortable and set in their ways...
So,many who are single in the later years can be single(can handle it) better than settle for deal breakers...seems! And some rather be on their own than settle for less,which is also understandable. To some,some things are very minor,yet the same thing may be quite a mountain to another!! |
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You guys cut the knees out from under just about everyone here. It's pretty safe to say that out of all the "Flaws" posted here, everybody has at least one of them. I think it's pretty safe to say that most everyone that posts here has some flaw that may be a deal breaker for others. I know I do. I personally pay no attention to the outer size of a person. It's more about the size of there heart. I pay no attention to what a person drives. What I notice is what they bring with them when meeting me. Who and what they are. Flaws are like buttholes, everybody has one. At least one. And I've met a lot of buttholes. I don't think I've seen any unreasonable deal-breakers from women so far? As for what a woman drives, you shouldn't be bothered by that, you're a man. You should be bothered by what YOU drive. --> for man's sense of self-esteem and well-being status is important. Primal instinct, the alpha male had status, and all men deep down have the instinct of wanting to be the alpha male. At least a masculine energy man does have that. That's the kind of man I am looking for. With that wisdom in mind, looking at what kind of car a man drives is very intriguing. Even when I was young, and didn't know this, I noticed that 'losers' tend to drive very expensive posh cars; a coping and compensating technique I guess, another means to try and make them feel like a man. Doesn't work btw, not on women. It don't impress me much - Shania Twain and CrystalFairy :) On the other hand side, men that drive a piece of chit car often don't have their life together. I've noticed they often aren't very masculine, more the kind of men that are needy, have not much of a back-bone and are looking for a woman that's stronger. I am strong, but I don't want such a man. Doesn't mean he has to drive a Corvette or the latest Audi or whatever. It DOES however tell a lot about how a man is doing concerning his masculinity. THis does not work the same way for women as our sense of femininity and self-worth does NOT hinge on status. We're not men, we're wired differently. So you not caring what a woman drives is perfectly fine. |
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Edited by
Toodygirl5
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Thu 09/27/18 04:31 AM
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Flaws are like buttholes, everybody has one. At least one. And I've met a lot of buttholes.  In real life most people do not know the real qualities in a partner to look for , and this is why so many relationships and marriages end. IMHO |
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You guys cut the knees out from under just about everyone here. It's pretty safe to say that out of all the "Flaws" posted here, everybody has at least one of them. I think it's pretty safe to say that most everyone that posts here has some flaw that may be a deal breaker for others. I know I do. I personally pay no attention to the outer size of a person. It's more about the size of there heart. I pay no attention to what a person drives. What I notice is what they bring with them when meeting me. Who and what they are. Flaws are like buttholes, everybody has one. At least one. And I've met a lot of buttholes. I don't think I've seen any unreasonable deal-breakers from women so far? As for what a woman drives, you shouldn't be bothered by that, you're a man. You should be bothered by what YOU drive. --> for man's sense of self-esteem and well-being status is important. Primal instinct, the alpha male had status, and all men deep down have the instinct of wanting to be the alpha male. At least a masculine energy man does have that. That's the kind of man I am looking for. With that wisdom in mind, looking at what kind of car a man drives is very intriguing. Even when I was young, and didn't know this, I noticed that 'losers' tend to drive very expensive posh cars; a coping and compensating technique I guess, another means to try and make them feel like a man. Doesn't work btw, not on women. It don't impress me much - Shania Twain and CrystalFairy :) On the other hand side, men that drive a piece of chit car often don't have their life together. I've noticed they often aren't very masculine, more the kind of men that are needy, have not much of a back-bone and are looking for a woman that's stronger. I am strong, but I don't want such a man. Doesn't mean he has to drive a Corvette or the latest Audi or whatever. It DOES however tell a lot about how a man is doing concerning his masculinity. THis does not work the same way for women as our sense of femininity and self-worth does NOT hinge on status. We're not men, we're wired differently. So you not caring what a woman drives is perfectly fine. You have got to be kidding!!! What a pile of drivel. |
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DEALBRAKERS; RUDENESS, ARROGANCE, EXTREMISM, MEANNESS, IGNORANCEPOOR HYGIENE, EATING WITH YOUR MOUTH OPEN, NOT TURNING OFF YOUR PHONE WHEN WE'RE TOGETHER, LYING, OBESITY AND OF COURSE THE BIGGEST DEALBREAKER OF ALL - INFIDELITY ! Screaming comes to mind as a dealbreaker. Not sure why    |
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Edited by
actionlynx
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Thu 09/27/18 07:38 AM
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While understanding what CrystalFairy is getting at, I don't entirely agree.
I've driven some POS cars, but that was only because I couldn't afford what I wanted yet. For instance, I had just bough a brand new car when a month later I lost my job. I had to get rid of the new car, and replace it with a clunker. When I did start working again, my weekly income wasn't as stable as before. But did that mean I couldn't handle a relationship or treat a lady right? Nope. It was just a temporary setback. Two years later, I was making much more money but driving the same car. In fact, I was taking night classes. So at that point, maybe I didn't have time for a relationship. I would be gone from 8 am until 10 pm. Not much extra time. Meanwhile, when I had time, I would split wood, stack wood, mow grass, cut down trees, go camping, hike, etc. A lot of outdoor activities that would be considered "manly", plus I was working in the electrical trade. Last I checked all of the construction trades were generally considered "manly" as well. But I'm also the type of guy who doesn't go searching for dates when I'm broke or financially unstable. I like to be able to buy stuff for a woman, to take her places, and to be able to drive rather than having her always be the one who has to do so. For instance, I like to try out different restaurants as a form of social recreation. I like to have company with me when I want to do that. Therefore I would want my lady to be a part of that. But I can't do it if I don't have the spare cash. As far as status and ego, I'm not sure what to say there. Some of it I disagree with, but on the other hand, I have to admit that I like being the alpha dog! I've actually had a few friends and acquaintances comment on that before. Had to tone it down a bit as I got older. Differences aside, I still assert that CrystalFairy is still a cutie. 
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Edited by
I_love_bluegrass
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Thu 09/27/18 09:48 AM
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You guys cut the knees out from under just about everyone here. It's pretty safe to say that out of all the "Flaws" posted here, everybody has at least one of them. I think it's pretty safe to say that most everyone that posts here has some flaw that may be a deal breaker for others. I know I do. I personally pay no attention to the outer size of a person. It's more about the size of there heart. I pay no attention to what a person drives. What I notice is what they bring with them when meeting me. Who and what they are. Flaws are like buttholes, everybody has one. At least one. And I've met a lot of buttholes. If someone has an entirely different worldview than I do..or we are at opposite ends on certain core, important issues..then, what's the point? I'm not talking about different tasts in music, or films.. I daily see profiles where guys specify certain age range, body size, this, that, or the other... I don't feel offended, I'm glad they put that there, because I know not to waste my time messaging them. Why does this bother YOU, Charles1962150 ? So..someone should put up with something they know they can't live with? (drugs, alcohol, bigotry, racism, abusive/ domineering behavior?..etc...) Why? Further..I truly do not care what kind of car a guy drives...as long as he has reliable trandportation. The two best guys I knew ...one drove a Festiva when I met him (in the early 90's)...the other drove an old Saturn...a "beater" they call them... I dated a guy (late 70's) who drove a Dodge Omni.. One had a a Ford Ranchero. I purposely avoided, and still do, guys who feel they need a flashy car to attract women.. If they need a showy, flashy car...or motorcycle, or wear a lot of jewelery...to show off how "successful" they are...they are not for me.. I want a guy who is self-assured enough in himself that he could drive a 12 year old beater car and not care what preople think..because it is practical.. And save that money for us to do fun things with...  Also, I have zero interest in Alpha guys....NOPE. Been there, done that, with those cocky, arrogant, domineering, pushy dudes.. Don't need your definition of alpha...don't care if you disgaree...YOU do YOU..and I'll do me... |
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Edited by
I_love_bluegrass
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Thu 09/27/18 09:50 AM
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Accidently posted twice, don't know how to delete, so I did this.
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Pretty easy to come up with a bunch of negative things to list.
To me, the deal breaker is liars. Everything else is pretty much fixable if they have an honest positive mentality. Most people don't think like me, I'm pretty happy about that. I know how shallow some people can be. Its the main reason my health has put me out of the dating pool. There's just no point in looking for acceptance from people that exist in our type of society. A shallow self-absorbed society. On dating sites, it runs much deeper. Except for lying and negativity, I believe everything else can be dealt with. It only depends on how important the good stuff is that offsets the negative stuff. Too many people will tell you they don't judge a book by its cover but their lying. Every negative trait can be recitified with the right circumstances as long as there is a will to change it and they are aware of it. Most people want to be loved. Most people want to be accepted. |
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You guys cut the knees out from under just about everyone here. It's pretty safe to say that out of all the "Flaws" posted here, everybody has at least one of them. I think it's pretty safe to say that most everyone that posts here has some flaw that may be a deal breaker for others. I know I do. I personally pay no attention to the outer size of a person. It's more about the size of there heart. I pay no attention to what a person drives. What I notice is what they bring with them when meeting me. Who and what they are. Flaws are like buttholes, everybody has one. At least one. And I've met a lot of buttholes. I don't think I've seen any unreasonable deal-breakers from women so far? As for what a woman drives, you shouldn't be bothered by that, you're a man. You should be bothered by what YOU drive. --> for man's sense of self-esteem and well-being status is important. Primal instinct, the alpha male had status, and all men deep down have the instinct of wanting to be the alpha male. At least a masculine energy man does have that. That's the kind of man I am looking for. With that wisdom in mind, looking at what kind of car a man drives is very intriguing. Even when I was young, and didn't know this, I noticed that 'losers' tend to drive very expensive posh cars; a coping and compensating technique I guess, another means to try and make them feel like a man. Doesn't work btw, not on women. It don't impress me much - Shania Twain and CrystalFairy :) On the other hand side, men that drive a piece of chit car often don't have their life together. I've noticed they often aren't very masculine, more the kind of men that are needy, have not much of a back-bone and are looking for a woman that's stronger. I am strong, but I don't want such a man. Doesn't mean he has to drive a Corvette or the latest Audi or whatever. It DOES however tell a lot about how a man is doing concerning his masculinity. THis does not work the same way for women as our sense of femininity and self-worth does NOT hinge on status. We're not men, we're wired differently. So you not caring what a woman drives is perfectly fine. You have got to be kidding!!! What a pile of drivel.
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Lack of empathy or compassion for others, a bad relationship with family, or deadbeat parenting.
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Stops chasing me around the house and doesn't absolutely love kissing who is bothering you River ? I see I'm the only one mention kissing ? |
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Stops chasing me around the house and doesn't absolutely love kissing who is bothering you River ? I see I'm the only one mention kissing ? No one is bothering me mankum... I meant it would be a dealbreaker if he stopped chasing me around the house... in a playful way  And if he stopped loving to kiss, or when I first meet him if he doesn't like kissing... I'm not interested!  Dealbreakers to me are things one or the other does after you're already in a relationship that would cause you to want to end that relationship. In all seriousness, the real dealbreaker would be if he stopped loving himself, which would cause him to stop loving me as well. 
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Stops chasing me around the house and doesn't absolutely love kissing who is bothering you River ? I see I'm the only one mention kissing ? Dealbreakers to me are things one or the other does after you're already in a relationship that would cause you to want to end that relationship. In all seriousness, the real dealbreaker would be if he stopped loving himself, which would cause him to stop loving me as well.
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Stops chasing me around the house and doesn't absolutely love kissing who is bothering you River ? I see I'm the only one mention kissing ? No one is bothering me mankum... I meant it would be a dealbreaker if he stopped chasing me around the house... in a playful way And if he stopped loving to kiss, or when I first meet him if he doesn't like kissing... I'm not interested! Dealbreakers to me are things one or the other does after you're already in a relationship that would cause you to want to end that relationship. In all seriousness, the real dealbreaker would be if he stopped loving himself, which would cause him to stop loving me as well. oops LOL forgive my ignoranc 
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You're forgiven
 No worries mankum
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While understanding what CrystalFairy is getting at, I don't entirely agree. I've driven some POS cars, but that was only because I couldn't afford what I wanted yet. For instance, I had just bough a brand new car when a month later I lost my job. I had to get rid of the new car, and replace it with a clunker. When I did start working again, my weekly income wasn't as stable as before. But did that mean I couldn't handle a relationship or treat a lady right? Nope. It was just a temporary setback. Two years later, I was making much more money but driving the same car. In fact, I was taking night classes. So at that point, maybe I didn't have time for a relationship. I would be gone from 8 am until 10 pm. Not much extra time. Meanwhile, when I had time, I would split wood, stack wood, mow grass, cut down trees, go camping, hike, etc. A lot of outdoor activities that would be considered "manly", plus I was working in the electrical trade. Last I checked all of the construction trades were generally considered "manly" as well. But I'm also the type of guy who doesn't go searching for dates when I'm broke or financially unstable. I like to be able to buy stuff for a woman, to take her places, and to be able to drive rather than having her always be the one who has to do so. For instance, I like to try out different restaurants as a form of social recreation. I like to have company with me when I want to do that. Therefore I would want my lady to be a part of that. But I can't do it if I don't have the spare cash. As far as status and ego, I'm not sure what to say there. Some of it I disagree with, but on the other hand, I have to admit that I like being the alpha dog! I've actually had a few friends and acquaintances comment on that before. Had to tone it down a bit as I got older. Differences aside, I still assert that CrystalFairy is still a cutie. Thank you :) It's not stuff I made up. It's well-known and researched stuff. I happen to be someone who also studies and reads and dives into these things as understanding how all this works is what my work is based upon. People may call it 'drivel', whatever the hell that is, but it says something about them and their lack of understanding/education, not about me. And what you say and explain basically confirms it too. It's nothing to be upset about, it's just facts, about how ppl are wired. And yes, there will be variances as not everyone is the same. Basic principles will remain, we are all still driven by primal instincts from way back when and I think it's pretty safe to say that all these instincts are based on survival. 1 part is personal survival and/or someone's family & offspring, part 2 is survival of the species: creating babies. Some don't understand this, say "But I don't want children anymore!" Again lack of education/understanding as this doesn't matter when it comes to primal instincts of survival. There are general primal instincts that go with being a man -the masculine principle, and others with being a woman -the feminine principle. What you say, that you like to be able to buy things for a girl is one too: provide & protect. One of the strongest drives of a man. But many aren't empowered and/or hurt by someone and never gotten over it, so they suppressed or lost that drive. Fact you have it is great, it is a typical male thing. Anywho, can talk about this for hours, hihi. Like I said, it's what I do for work, my own business that is, so it's my passion in life. But I'm going to bed :) It's gone 1. thanks for the exchange, and thank you for still finding me a cutie. Me likes that  I think you're pretty cool too
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You guys cut the knees out from under just about everyone here. It's pretty safe to say that out of all the "Flaws" posted here, everybody has at least one of them. I think it's pretty safe to say that most everyone that posts here has some flaw that may be a deal breaker for others. I know I do. I personally pay no attention to the outer size of a person. It's more about the size of there heart. I pay no attention to what a person drives. What I notice is what they bring with them when meeting me. Who and what they are. Flaws are like buttholes, everybody has one. At least one. And I've met a lot of buttholes. I don't think I've seen any unreasonable deal-breakers from women so far? As for what a woman drives, you shouldn't be bothered by that, you're a man. You should be bothered by what YOU drive. --> for man's sense of self-esteem and well-being status is important. Primal instinct, the alpha male had status, and all men deep down have the instinct of wanting to be the alpha male. At least a masculine energy man does have that. That's the kind of man I am looking for. With that wisdom in mind, looking at what kind of car a man drives is very intriguing. Even when I was young, and didn't know this, I noticed that 'losers' tend to drive very expensive posh cars; a coping and compensating technique I guess, another means to try and make them feel like a man. Doesn't work btw, not on women. It don't impress me much - Shania Twain and CrystalFairy :) On the other hand side, men that drive a piece of chit car often don't have their life together. I've noticed they often aren't very masculine, more the kind of men that are needy, have not much of a back-bone and are looking for a woman that's stronger. I am strong, but I don't want such a man. Doesn't mean he has to drive a Corvette or the latest Audi or whatever. It DOES however tell a lot about how a man is doing concerning his masculinity. THis does not work the same way for women as our sense of femininity and self-worth does NOT hinge on status. We're not men, we're wired differently. So you not caring what a woman drives is perfectly fine. You have got to be kidding!!! What a pile of drivel. OOwwww... Motown... now you're in my bad books, and I really liked you  
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