What causes people to write hateful things to people they have no interest in??
(and weho certainly never messaged *them*)

Boredom?
They are just ****** people?

What's the point?
What do they hope to accomplish by ths?

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Wow! I've not had that happen, yet. That's so rude. Must be bigoted in some way. So far I'm just wondering why they lie about something as simple as their age and if that's a big deal?

I agree with Bluegrass

FWIW..I am on several sites, and this is a weekly thing I expereince on them..that's all.

Right?
They always state in their profile what a nice guy, and gentleman they are..
Dude..dont make me laugh..

I am on various sites....and I see a LOT of stuff on profiles that offends me, and I don't agree with..
But, you know?
I have never been moved to write one of them and tell them that, because, what's the point?
I am not interested in them, my opinion won't change their mind, so...
I just move on to the next one..

You should see some of the tragic stuff I get..it's sad, really..

Not sure but it seriously seems like something a rapist or serial killer would do. The internet gives people a false sense of anonomity and more people are inclined to act out in such a manner online but really that same mentality is why many rapists and serial killers act out as they do, at least from what I know of.

I've had that happen too. 1 minute prior the guy had been telling me how incredibly sensitive he was and kind and so on.
He showed his true colours shortly thereafter. I AM very sensitive so I don't appreciate such chit. I know I shouldn't take it personal but still.
These days when I am not interested I block the person which then gives me a popup window to leave with a goodbye message upon blocking. Then he cannot reply anymore and I'm not exposed to rude behaviour.

It is really weird as many men ask what you'd do if they tell you they don't like you. Clearly wanting you to be able to take it, yet they themselves cannot handle it. They leave just like that without saying goodbye or they start ranting.
I've even had some guys tell me that it's BS that I want a guy taller than me and start ranting. Excuse me?
As if I'd then say "Okay, let's give it a shot" and it working out after that? Idiots I say!

But... There are decent chaps out there too. Who CAN take it well and who do then leave in a normal fashion, saying goodbye etc.

The internet gives people an actual sense of anonymity.
Its that anonymity that makes them bold.

There is also the tendency for anonymity to enable narcissism.
Many men have really big egos. Its the nature of modern society to attempt to 'empower' the individual.

People are insane.
Some persons are normal.
The majority, yup - insane.

You have a box of apples.
Most of those apples are red.
Some have green, yellow and pink but when you consider the box of apples as a whole, they are red.
If you consider people as insane (red) when you do find a yellow or green one, they become the exception to the norm.

Hostility, narcissism and ego should be the expectation when dealing with the anonymous public. The why isn't important.
What is important is when you find the exception to that.

test

It's been a very, very rare occurrence,
that anyone has been less than kind to
me via email.

In the 10.5 years I've been here on M2,
I can recall only two, maybe three at most.

Topic: What causes people (guys) to write hateful things to people

As far as I can remember, I have never received hateful messages out of the blue.
But I had received a couple of insulting replies which I am not allowed to discuss
in the forums.

There are people who cannot handle rejection so they would say hateful things out of
spite. This could be due to low self esteem.... or they are just crazy and should be
avoided like the plague.

Yes, like rosie said.

Some people are just plain ***** don't take it personally

well the truth is its because people are socially inept anymore and they cannot function properly

In the cyber world, people have a ready made audience of THOUSANDS of people , when in the real world they would be lucky if they could find even 3 people to actively listen to them And they have conversation access to HUNDREDS of online dating prospects , when most of those most of those prospects wouldn't even make eye contact with them in the real world .

That kind of power messes with peoples' heads I think .. gives them a very inflated sense of importance and entitlement online ... a false sense of power that can not reconcile itself to realities like alternative points of view or unreciprocated attraction.

Fragile egos ...

Rejection can be difficult to take .. especially when it comes to the mating process . Some men lack the confidence and maturity to handle rejection from a woman ... and see it as a blow to their masculinity . Cultural identity and how they perceive their power status as a man can influence their behaviour .

Perhaps over time .. repeated rejection takes its toll and insulting becomes a dysfunctional defensive mechanism .

ehh its just printed words on a screen

nuthin to get butthurt over..

certainly isn't normal, I hope to see one day a online signature making you responsible for what you say online, this anonymity thing is bs, it's verbal abuse and wouldn't be tolerated anywhere else