So what happens when somebody moves in with you and then after some time you decide it's not working... you don't hate the other person they are quite nice.. but they make you a little crazy and you are no longer feeling it..... how do you go about getting them out without causing a lot of problems....?.

Tell them the truth, if they were nice, they will understand. You can still go out for a pint after.

Pretty much just say it, but be gentle, yet clear. Important to be very clear and to stick with that, however unpleasant it may be, as some women can try to latch on and think "It's just now, we're going to be okay, it's not that bad."
And be a big boy, love is for adults, so pull up your big girl panties. I know men hate hurting a woman, and often also lack the baws to end it, but if you don't it's only going to become worse for both.
So be clear, not rude, stick to your guns no matter what, and prepare for some crap, yes, especially if she doesn't see it coming, and depending on her personality. Part of the territory to sometimes do unpleasant things.

And next time don't move in with someone you know isn't "it" for you. Makes life loads easier.

Just tell them.

How would you like to be told?
Do it that way.

Depends on the severity of the situation.

Whilst, 'GTFO! Now!', is my favorite "go to" line.

It could be as simple, as mentioning that things
aren't working out. And, suggesting the other person
expedite their departure.

It also depends on how long she has been living there. Has it become home to her for years? All you can do is sit her down and say your piece and offer to help in any way you can. Whatever you do, don't wait until you are in a blazing row about the tooth paste lid, or something. Or also when drunk.
It does seem to be harder for men to end relationships..
You've just got to harden your heart for a while, and do what you think is right... She would..

in modern times?

i may consider helping her find a new boyfriend or roommate.

it is not like you are in a rush.

ideally,she would find someone who is more "convergent" with her current goals.

Tell them the truth then problem solved without causing anymore problem

1. While she is at work, move all her stuff out of your house.
2. Change the locks.
3. Wait for her to get off work and take her to a public place like a restaurant
where she cannot kill you without witnesses.
4. Then tell her, "Surprise! You're moving out!"
5. Then while she is in shock, yell "FIRE!" and run the heck out of there.

Good luck

That's a hard ?

I am with others ...just be truthful ... going to hurt her ...
so better not to wait ...

I’ve been there, and he moved across the country to move in with me. Same deal, nice person, but I just wasn’t feeling it and I realized how much I valued my independence. We just had that “we need to talk” convo and I offered to help with relocation expenses. It ended amicably, I felt like a schmuck for awhile, but it was the right thing to do.

Calm, nice and honest

Like Paul Simon says: There must be 50 ways to leave your lover.....
just slip out the back Jack,
make a new plan Stan
Don't need to be coy Roy jut set yourself free ....

Are they on the lease and bills? Do they have mail being delivered to that address? A nice honest discussion about the situation would be the best way to initiate the process. It may simply take a discussion for them to surrender their residency, if that doesn't work you may need to evict them, if they are legally a residence. You may need to speak with a lawyer depending on what your lease and local laws say about the situation. You might be screwed and have to leave yourself. It really depends on what kind of living situation and where you're at.

Why did they move in with me?
Were we dating before we moved in?
Did they answer a roommate wanted ad, moved in, then we started dating?
Were we dating and then we got an apartment together?
Were we dating and then they moved into my house? I into theirs?


How much of that do they know?
In your scenario am I the type to internalize everything and have been trying to maintain a facade to keep the peace, avoid arguments, and "go with the flow," I just can't maintain the facade anymore?

What type of person are they in your scenario? Do they realize they are making me a little crazy, and there are "feeling it" problems, they just don't know how severe? Don't know what to do about it? Don't care?


There's no guarantee of a lack of "a lot of problems."

If a primary goal is "without causing a lot of problems" then any answer anyone can give is going to depend a lot on who (what type) is the person being asked to leave.

It'd be great to say "just tell them the truth" but depending on the relationship and the person, they may see that as you "closing down" and so try harder to stay in order to get you to open up to try and "fix" things, whereas if you tried to manipulate and lie to them they could see that as manipulation and lies and be smart enough to see you won't change, are a manipulator and liar, and "close down" themselves and want to GTFO ASAP with as little drama as possible.


If you're asking what I personally would do, the answer would be meaningless to you, as I doubt we date the same type of women or approach dating/moving in the same way.