I find the question of whether one smokes to be rather arbitrary at best. I respect the honest answer of 'often' way more than the mitigated 'occasionally' which in most cases turns out to be untrue, and the person finds ways to incorporate their 'habit' no matter what. Smoking is one of the personal traits that can be a deal maker or breaker (both pro and con), and to under-play it, or worse, not answer the question at all in hopes someone will like us so well that they will just deal with our 'habit' is not being up front and honest. I assume a 'no answer' on that question as they do smoke, but just do not want to admit it.

So I assume you are against smoking of any frequency.

And if it's a deal breaker for you, well, ask her before ya take her out for dinner.

I find that if they don't answer the question, they do.

I smoke like a brushlands fire.

Some, only smoke, when they're involved
in other activities, such as drinking at parties.
.So, as wimpy as it seems, "occasionally" , does
have it's place.

So, Rock, you'd say you smoke a lot?

Yes!
That's one way to put it.

I'm not against anyone's choice to smoke or not; however, it is not fair to smokers and non-smokers alike to not know upfront so they can choose to approach someone based on their own likes and dislikes. Smoking can be a deal maker, or a deal breaker.

And, the question about smoking, appears on
each and every profile.

It's up to the individual, to be honest.


Be the answer, "often", or "occasionally",
they're still a smoker.

But I am finding a great many putting 'no answer' to the question. Why not just be honest? If it says 'no answer' I have to assume they smoke, why else would they not answer that question when they answer all the others.

I used to be a very heavy smoker but stopped 15 yrs ago ,I do appreciate the question as it strongly influences my interest in anyone , same thing with drinking

I like the way Morticia Adams smokes.

And don't forget E cigarettes, and Vaping. - Smoker ~ yes or no ?

This is not per say about the person being dishonest, but about dating sites not giving correct options.
They give 2 extremes: Occassionaly vs. Often.
What if it's regularly. This is not the same as often. That option is always missing.

Then there's someone's own perception of a habit.
It'll be the same with drinking. Many will consider having one or a few beers -or worse- each day is normal. I do not.

I get that. When I'd quite for a few years I couldn't stand cigarette smoke, bleeh!

And the drinking... I don't get why there's such a witchhunt on smokers. It's gotten to this place where non-smokers feel all-mighty and that they have the right to get rid of smokers.
I do not like that. If people smoke where they don't bother others, like outside of a pub, why do they still have to whinge?

I don't see a witchhunt concerning drinking? There are no gross pictures on bottles of alcohol to show the effects of drinking on the body...
No one objects when someone drinks in a pub, if I'd light a cigarette however...
"Yes, but smoking affects others" they say.
Someone's drinking affects others too! Tipsy/drunken people often harass other people, often men bothering women, they smell, they're irritating, behave like lunatics and affect the entire vibe in a pub or party where others also want to have a good time, without (that much) alcohol, like me.
As a single woman going out alone you always have to be on some level of alert because of drinking men.

When you drive home late at night during the weekend you must be extra careful as many will have been drinking and are on their way home as well, not fully capable of driving anymore as their brain is affected by alcohol.
It still happens that someone gets killed by a drunk driver, in spite of the strict laws.

So I'm wondering when the witch hunt on drinking will start? Including grueling pictures on bottles of booze and a ban in pubs.

I had quit for a year, pretty much the whole year of 2018. I started smoking again last December but forgot to change it on my profile... this post just reminded me, so I updated it.

@ Crystal... I see that too with the witch hunt on smokers, especially those who used to smoke and quit. You'd think they'd be more tolerant but many aren't. It didn't really bother me to be around smokers when I quit, unless we were in a closed in room. But even when I'm smoking that tends to bother me.

Some people like one in the morning to get things going, and others chain smoke all day, or race outside at breaks for a few.

I used to smoke, now it makes me sick, actually very nauseous if I have a tiny puff. Most second hand smoke stinks these days. When I was a lad, older pipe users smoked aromatic tobaccos that smelled good, and you didn't mind.

I'd say a morning and midnight smoker isn't a real smoker, but smoking during the day and evening is definitely being a smoker.

That includes cigars, clove cigarettes, beadies, and all other herb type cigarettes.

Yes, the quitters tend to be the worst. Many non-smokers don't care about it at all but there always has to be a handful of anti-whatever people who think they know best who have to force such things upon the masses.
We call such people 'goat-wool stocking people' hihi, cos it's usually those hippie-like do-gooders who want to save the world from everything they don't like, even if it's beneficial for most.

When asked I'm quite easy about it: I smoke.
If that's a deal-breaker, so be it.
When I was a new single, and learnt that many don't like it, I wanted to change myself to find a man.
I have grown some since, hihi. I smoke and if I want to quit it's cos I want to quit. It'll not be because of a partner.
If I have to change myself in order to be good enough he simply isn't the right one.

oh river, you did very well for a whole year. Why start again? Rhetorical question because as a non-smoker I will never understand.

Take care my friend

I find most questions asked on the profile arbitrary at best.
It doesn't really matter until you meet.
Profiles are meaningless and I think they only really exist in order to make women feel comfortable enough to talk to strangers and potentially meet.

You can read a profile and come up with an idea of the person, then meet in person, they can be completely different, yet all the information you read is "true."

They can answer all the questions in a completely false manner, but believe they're answering it true (What? I am 5'6...in heels! I am 29..this is my 15th anniversary of my 29th birthday!).

Someone can say they don't smoke on their profile, and after 2 months of dating decide to start smoking because of stress at work and their bosses all go out for a cigarette at lunch and have a power meeting.

Someone can look smoking hot in their picture(s), then gain 40 pounds in a couple months when they hit middle age and suffer from middle age spread.

They can put not religious, and then find jesus.

A profile is not like the ingredient list on the side of a box of cereal where you're guaranteed the ingredients and they will never change.

Profiles are relatively meaningless.
They're only really useful for people who are shopping for an object or a relationship, not all that interested in meeting people.
These people tend to look for reasons not to talk to people, always looking for a flaw to keep on shopping.

The best use of profiles is to provide for something to start a conversation and to give women some form of BS for their ego, so they'll possibly meet and continue the conversation.

So, the smoking question? Might as well have a "do you like ham" question for all that it really matters in the grand scheme of anything.

Yes, the systems of which you choose from on profiles are not really great for smoking. Some sights have often and occasionally plus sometimes, light, heavy and a chimney. Most assume it's tabaco but it could be the weed or other things. One site had chew, pipes, cigars, marijuana, cigarettes and other for smoking options. Think you can get in depth with the amounts and what type of smoking or smokeless items.

I do prefer people saying that they smoke or not. Also if they say "they're quitting" or "trying to quit" that's a walk away for me. Stopping is a choice and quitting is giving up. The people who I know that stop are okay. Those who quit become crusaders. Screaming at a turbine doesn't make it spin or not. Besides, it's none of your business what a person does if they aren't hurting others.

Years ago I liked walking around functionally drunk. I choose to stop drinking whiskey and it took me 6 years before I stopped completely. So I practice what I preach.