Topic: Why ex‘es contacting you after all this year (20)
lallyn861's photo
Sat 04/25/20 12:20 PM


can‘t men move on with their new life ?
Why can not men forget the past?

I don’t understand why men contacting you after all this years that has gone.
Some have already woman and children but they are still finding a way to reach you even reaching out to your family asking your contact numbers or your email.

If they are lonely in their current relation, why make a child to make the situation even worser ?

What is wrong with men ?





SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Sat 04/25/20 01:37 PM
Oh, I got one like that too. Been more than 30 years, 37 to be exact. He doesn't bother me anymore now as my family knows to not give him my address etc.
Once contacted me on FB, I told him I was in a relationship and he said, but we can be friends? Okay... maybe... I decided to see how it'd go.
But he was trying to get me as his partner again, even though I was happy in a relationship!?

I think many men don't get over a relationship & partner. They latch on to it and then don't heal. You often see that, on here too, men some 15-20+ years later still talking about their ex.

Just tell you family your feelings and to bounce him off.

no photo
Sat 04/25/20 06:16 PM
You know the answer already, this person is only doing this to inflict emotional pain on you. You are a better person than him and this is all you need to know.:rose:

ivegotthegirth's photo
Sat 04/25/20 06:26 PM
I know this happens often but I'm not sure it's gender specific.....yawn

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Sat 04/25/20 06:41 PM
May be a little self reflection and reminiscing or 'hoovering' which is a narcissists ploy.

Rock's photo
Sat 04/25/20 08:36 PM
Yanno...
I just really never got into watching
daytime television.


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Sat 04/25/20 09:28 PM
can‘t men move on with their new life ?

Sure.
For the most part.

Why can not men forget the past?

They haven't developed alzheimer's or dementia yet?

I don’t understand why men contacting you after all this years that has gone.

Beats me.
But I don't really understand high school reunions either.
I mean, 4 years of your life.
And you get people in their 50's, 60's, 70's having reunions for 4 school years.
That's nothing in terms of your life. That's little in terms of your education (especially if you go to college, graduate school, post graduate like m.d. or whatever).

Why aren't there grade school reunions? I mean that's like 12 years of your life and you developed a lot more during that time.
Get together, have some drinks, play with some blocks, discuss how much addition, subtraction, and where the sidewalk ends "really" affected your life.

If they are lonely in their current relation, why make a child to make the situation even worser ?

People do all sorts of crazy things.
I mean some people go onto dating sites and ask perpetually single people how relationships work.

What is wrong with men ?

How much time and bandwidth have you got?
And after that, can we discuss what is wrong with women?
And what's wrong with dogs? Why haven't all dogs learned how to speak in baby talk? I mean I'm told they are as intelligent as 2 year olds. But kids learn to speak after about a year. And I don't know anyone with a dog that doesn't talk to them constantly "stop it! Good boy/girl. Who's a good doggy? Who's a pretty doggy, yes you are, yes you are. Shut up! Go lie down!"
You'd think they'd pick up a few words here and there.
But no.
Stupid dogs. Tell me you appreciate the belly rub. Use words. Don't just lick me with your crotch flavored tongue.

Tom4Uhere's photo
Sat 04/25/20 10:13 PM
People do all sorts of crazy things.
I mean some people go onto dating sites and ask perpetually single people how relationships work.

I find it amusing how squarely you struck that nail on the head!
:thumbsup:

Toodygirl5's photo
Sun 04/26/20 05:02 PM
I dated a ex boyfriend after years of being apart.

He's a confirmed Bachelor never married.

Most single men couldn't compare to him! :grin:

feelyoungagain's photo
Sat 08/01/20 02:46 AM
Edited by feelyoungagain on Sat 08/01/20 02:47 AM
Why are you letting them? Do they know your #? Block them. If it bothers you so much, start logging his outreach attempts and go see the magistrate. Are you leaving a window of opportunity open?

feelyoungagain's photo
Sat 08/01/20 02:47 AM



can‘t men move on with their new life ?
Why can not men forget the past?

I don’t understand why men contacting you after all this years that has gone.
Some have already woman and children but they are still finding a way to reach you even reaching out to your family asking your contact numbers or your email.

If they are lonely in their current relation, why make a child to make the situation even worser ?

What is wrong with men ?







Men aren't the only ones who can't move on.