How to keep your partner to desire you ...So sex is more than once every 4 months?

Try making sure things are light and calm around you.
Keep yourself up.
Keep up your surroundings.
Be positive.
Buy some alluring clothing.
Make a romantic setting.
There are lots of things to renew a relationship you can try. I would start by asking my partner.

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treat him like a king and he will treat you like a queen... its that simple !
off course if a prince / princess has entered the picture , all bets are off.... cut the cake !!

treat him like a king and he will treat you like a queen... its that simple !
off course if a prince / princess has entered the picture , all bets are off.... cut the cake !!

P.S.

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If you two are married, then sex is supposed to be a regular part of the relationship when possible.

Really? If there's one way to get a man to lose interest it is to do too much for him.
I will adore my man provided he cherishes me.

Kind of depends how you got in that situation.
Often both slip into a routine once in a steady relationship and then soon habit and possible boredom will set in.
Both have to make an effort to keep things fresh.
Do things separately with your own friends, stick to your boundaries, do fun things together, spend quality together as well as apart.

But then also... often women go too far and try to please the man non-stop. Think make-up, lingerie, sexy clothes, etc. etc. This makes a man lose interest real fast as it's too easy.
Meaning there has to be equal give and take for which you will need your boundaries and not agree with everything. And don't make him nor the relationship the centre of your universe.

If he doesn't want to have sex, have sex with yourself. Stop trying to push & force. Instead try to bring fresh & new to the connection.
However, if the other does not pick up on that it may be time for a hard decision.

Never ever encountered a woman who did too much for her man .... if I ever do ... she will be cherished and a real keeper ... yep ! It's that simple !!!!

Well .. I am no sex expert wink: but sex and relationships are complicated .. especially if libidos are mismatched . He may be satisfied with the frequency of sex . Hopefully you will be aware if there are bigger relationship issues at play . If this is not your normal pattern., when did things change ?? Do you know what is behind that change ? If you are unsure , you need to communicate with him (in a sensitive and supportive way ) and identify if there are problems you can resolve together . Then work on reconnecting with each other and rebuilding intimacy . If you are still attracted to each other .. igniting desire should not be that difficult .

For instance ..,Do you initiate sex ? (You don’t need to answer) .. just something to consider . He may like to be surprised best of luck to both of you .

I should have asked more specifically. I have already did all the advice given by you all before for over the last few years or so. I am doomed to only satisfy myself .. We can't all have a sexually sensually fulfilling relationship and it does get lonely. For the mind is the sad escape.
Thank you for the tips

hmmmm....

Close The Puzzle

Well, as I said in my 2nd post... if you've done it all and nothing changes you may have to make a tough decision.
I've lived in a 10 yr long term with barely any intimacy and I can tell from experience it ruins your sense of self as a woman, trashes your self-confidence, and overall sense of well-being.
In short, it is devastating. I ended up constantly suppressing my sexual energy which means you also suppress your sense of self and expression, creativity, and life-force energy since sexual energy is all that.

I'm glad I'm out of that relationship. Now it's up to me whether I have sex or not. It doesn't hinge on a man having a headache, not wanting, or unable to get it up.
Now it's my choice.
I can tell you that feels a helluva lot better!!

Possible of course, but I find it odd as it is a typical feminine thing to sacrifice her own needs and wants when in a relationship. Not even as an individual thing, but as a collective feminine trade. Like it's mostly women who sacrifice their own career by staying home / working part-time to take care of their kids. Meanwhile the man can pursue his career and future while that of the woman comes to a screeching halt.

Most women, even the strong ones, let go of their boundaries and needs as soon as they are in some sort of connection with a man. They adept to the man's agenda and needs at their own expense.
The result often is that the man loses interest as things become way too easy that way. Then the relationship falls apart, usually leaving the woman broken hearted as she gave so much and got left in chit regardless.

I think part of this happening has to do with women bonding much sooner than men. Plus men's collective wound is fear of commitment, woman's is fear of abandonment.

The above scenario happens an awful lot!

Also, very very few man can appreciate and handle a woman who gives from the heart. That's one of my problems with dating/men. I am naturally inclined to be generous, to give, to share, from the heart so not to get back.
It's who I am, how I'm wired.
But it often leads to the above scenario nonetheless as it leaves men flabbergabbered. I've seen my last partner overwhelmed when I gave him his B-day gifts. And no, not thousands of dollars worth, but just my input, the effort I'd made.
Have had that happen before which makes me think/feel I have to dial it down, a lot, meaning I have to change myself and go against the grain of who I am.

well said

Tell that to my ex-wife. Sex with her was like a trip to the dentist, once every 6 months.

"Marital Status
Separated"


^^^^
Might have something to do with it.

A giver!!!
But,very true....very few men can handle this kind of woman! Seems that to a man,we have to look at economic terms....scarcity driving demand and cost?? You get too available,too giving,too open,too loving,man loses interest ‍♀️
demand goes down with availability...

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