I was curious if we all had the same ideas of the "Looking For" options meanings. I usually do not label things like this and I know a lot of other people seem to have different ideas on what things mean Since I never seen a definitions section on this site what meanings the site holds to their labels, I thought I would ask here to see if there was any differences.

"Intimate encounter"= Hook-ups or one night stand type of things...

"Activity partner"= Some one you can go do stuff with, like hit up a farmers market or something? I am not sure on this one (one of the reasons I asked here).

"Friendship"= Just friends, don't expect anything else...but this is a dating site so it might turn into something else later...

"Dating"= Just the casual, nothing serious type of thing. Getting to know each other style of dating.

"Relationship"= This is more committed than just dating, you are part of each others lives. This is definite couples status even if you are not living together yet.

"Marriage"= This is probably the only one that everyone will agree on, getting married. Although some might have a different way of getting there, skip right over all the dating and relationship stuff and go straight to marriage, while others see marriage and a way down the road thing like a common law marriage set up with a long engagement time.

I just saw this and well.. I agree with all your definitions.. they seem pretty accurate to me..

I'd add tho:
"intimate encounter" = not interested in anything real.. just wanna do ya then leave yer azz.. another notch on the ol'belt or headboard

you got the actvity partner fairly right.. you could add "travel buddy" or "restuarant/foodie pal" too

dating sounds about right as well.. as do relationships and marriage = putting it out there so others know what your ultimate goal is

Sorry, too, GRB, never saw this ;-)

There is one other adjective that I now see
a lot = Chatter (and only that) for those
with no other objective ;-)

You had me!!! I looked it up to see if that was a thing.

It oughta be!

I'm also going to point out that when I see activity partner, it has the connotation of getting bounced on

I agree with that one too.. lots of us are here just for the forums so.. "chatter" could apply to that.. maybe?

Good to know ;-)

All definations are okay ;

My take is:

Activity partner: first a walk in the park then Sex in the backseat

Intimate encounter :: straight to sex on the backseat, to hell with the walk in the park.

Friendship: you buy me stuff and I may jump into the back seat of your Caddy.

Dating : dinner and drinks at your expense, but no backseat till at least six dates

Relationship : causal and open unless you have six figure income , six feet tall and six inches of hair ....

Marriage : I skip that part , cause it does'nt suit my interests!!!

Probably why I am still single and on this dating Site !!

yeah

I forgot I posted this, probably one of those late nights that there was not many people posting so I thought I would start a new one...lol

I had not heard of chatter, the same as small talk I guess.

For me this statement is not accurate:


For me dating is serious. I don't date just for the hell of it. I'm looking for a partner!
I've got other things to do with my time than go dating to basically pass time.
So to me it sure as heck is a serious type of thing!
At first about finding a partner then it moves to the next phase; getting to know each other

I view dating as just people of different genders joining together for a social activity that is traditionally couple orientated. It may or may not be exclusive.

So what you are talking about sounds more like what I hear people consider a relationship today. This is the problem with labels with fluid meanings...lol

No, it's not a relationship. It's going on meet & greets -so first time meetings- to hopefully find someone you really like.
If you do find that person you go on dates them more often to get to know each other. If it works out and you still like the other you'd transition into exclusivity and a relationship.

As far as I'm concerned that is what's meant by 'dating' when you listen to dating coaches etc. and it's what I do.
But you are right, it is a rather fluid thing so other interpretation are indeed possible.

Yeah yeah ....you go on a meet and greet if you are attracted to the person....if the meet shows promise, you arrange a first date then a second date ... So after how many dates do you get to sleep with the date...
I had one tell me , she does only after six dates.....but she enjoyed all five dates I paid for and then ghosted me....Was I suckered or just scammed by a serial dater.....

So if I understand correctly you think that you paying for dates means the woman has to spread her legs for you?
Do you really think a few dates/dinners equal a woman giving up her most intimate, most sacred sanctuary???
I don't have a set nr of dates before I get to that point. Any good dating coach would advice against that.
You reach that point when you as a woman really want to go that far with a man. And in order for that to happen I need to feel emotionally safe, feel that I can trust the man, rely on him, AND know he's not sexercising other women.
The only right time to have sex with a guy is when you have an emotional bond.
Until that time there may be other joyful things. Fact a man gets the privilege to spend time with a woman, feel her joy & warmth & playfulness, should be enough.
But a few dinners can no way vie with my most valuable gift to a man!
If you hold such selfish beliefs you better stop dating. Have dinner by your lonesome self and go see a prostitute for the rest.

There used to be another option that I don't see in the OP list. Maybe it got removed?
It was 'separated'.
When I first got here I chose that option as I was out of a relationship but hadn't been married to him.
I learnt in the forums that separated meant something different and not "split up".
I'm not really familiar with this cooling off period thing when you file for divorce.
We don't really have that anymore although it can take about a year for divorce to be official due to busy courts. But there is no legal cooling off period at all.

In the end I had to change to "divorced" which felt weird to me as I'd been divorced for ages and had a long term relationship after that. By choosing "divorced" I basically had to leave that relationship out of the picture, as if it had never happened.
That never sat well with me as it was big part of my life!

Not everyone is Crystal..... you may have very high standards, which may or may not work for you , but most serial daters, only do it for easy access to a man's wallet and all the free meals....otherwise why stipulate number of dates , before granting access to the world' most expensive property?

Now regular daters will only go on dates if there is a spark , a connection or an emotional charge. If that is not present after the first meet and greet, then forget the dates and the numbers....no leg spreading is required or warranted.

I totally agree with you Slim...

Who the hell tells someone they are getting to know they don't sleep with them till the 6th date then ghost them after the 5th date...Why even bring up the sleeping with someone?? Heck it either happens in the moment or it don't.

Those are serial daters only out for a free fancy meal.

Myself first meet is dutch and I let them know that from the start.. If there is a 2nd and they want to pick up the tab fine if not fine.. But there would not be a 3rd if no connection.. normally not even a 2nd date..

Now why cant I find a girl who will go Dutch on a first meet and greet....and I dont mean Crystal...lol...

You are talking about your status, not what you are looking for. Two different things and separated is still an option...lol