A few women have said hi to me ... but fail to say much more ... I used to write my heart out now I am saying much less... Is more better or just an aloof comment what do women like?

If someone just sends a "hi" and you reply in any form or fashion, it's more than likely their next message is going to ask you for personal contact information to go off-site.

Use your big head not your little one.

Time and attention

?????????

I usually give back just a little more than they give. But the point of finding the right one is to find someone matches with you, so if you like to write then go for it. If they do not like to read all that then they are not right for you...easy test.

And admiration. Basically an ego boost.

What I want is a meaningful message, something that makes clear a man is truly interested in me.
It has to be and feel genuine, not some default message.
If there hasn't been any contact prior I do not appreciate lengthy messages.
It's rather presumptuous as well since you don't know yet if the interest is mutual.
It's the same as telling a stranger in the supermarket your life story. You wouldn't do that either.

And if a woman sends you "hi", I'd seriously question dealing with a scammer.
I doubt a real woman with real interest would send "hi" and nothing more.
You could reply with a short message that does show interest/has an opening so you can see what comes from it.
But personally I feel a woman would send more than just "hi".

Nailed it ;-)

Are nudges meaningful

Nudges are basically the same level as a like, but if the person is a free user then they can actually see who nudged them. The Likes are usually blurred out and just a letter or two of their name.

Yes I see the nudges. , scammers paradise 🥴
I can't likes or dislikes but I remember they used to cause so much conflict, people went crazy over them

I guess it depends, if not interested then don't reply seems the normal response online, if interested then a one liner is good as a starting point in my opinion. Good luck in your search.

he's deleted his profile...


however..
I feel an aloof comment is too banal.. I prefer engagement.. ask questions.. just not "what's your phone number?" or "can I have your email?"

ask what I do for fun, or if I have a favorite....(insert query.. and not "position" )

so my suggestion to men is.. engage in a conversation that requires responses

Because 99% of the messages I get on here seem to be scammers, I do not want to put too much time in the response. I do try and ask a question that might seem off the wall just to see if they are a real person.

hmmm.. so do I.. IF not 100% sure they're full of it!

so.. what's your number?

I just reported a "guy" (use that term loosely cuz one can never be sure what gender the scammers are) after replying "dream on..." to "his" 'I'd love to get to know you better, give me your whatsapp #'


do I Look DESPERATE???? or STUPID??
if anyone thinks I do.. pls keep it to yerself

I recently responded with a question about whether they had visited a place close to where they lived, easy question I thought, still waiting for a reply. I half suspected they were not real, doubt they even live here in the UK.

Try just being real...and not tactical.