RiverSpirit1111

Welcome to my cyber mansion. You a doll.....im glad you posted here this was a case where your husband was really tired and just wanted to unwind. No cheating involved just onrnof those nights. You being secure within yourself and the marriage it strengthens your lives and marriage. Keeping cool sometimes works for your advantage as well as your partners. Im at this point now in my relationship where if my girlfriend say she a l ittle stressed and tired not tonight well i give her that rest. I have no doubt in my mind she cheating. Trust is the key.

IgorFrankensteen

Welcome back to my place .....well i hopefully think the bloody knife analogy is a medaphor and not reality......lol. But now seriously. Let me say this. Jealousy is an emtion of envy. To over react means to fly the handle before knowing the facts. Sometimes what we dont know about a situatuon but wr allow our eyes to view perception without following up pursuit. Which leads to over reaction. My whole point on this topic is to see how cool and secure we really are or how jealous we become.

Tom4UHere...

Welcome back to my cyber mansion. Well believe it or not to you its maybe irrelevant but to that person who living these situation may want advice or to be entertained. If you go back and read i did say this is not based on a person but to get a fun dialogue started. As an adult today i can honestly say i been there in over reaction moments and jealousy as well in my 20s i learn to investigate before reaction. Talk ask question place the dots together before i decided whats next. Your brain may see one thing but the truth maybe just around the corner. Tom i give you example when i was 19 i was in a relationship with my childhood girlfriend. To make this story short she went out to a dance club with a few of her friends which i did t mind. She got so pissy drunk she told on herself sort to speak.....a drunk mind speaks a sober tongue...i find out a guy at the club danced and made some form of connection.....i was livid. Very upset very hurt. And i cant remember if i ended it or what not but i did get jealous and rightfully so.

Ms Harmony

Hey mommie....i love it when you post your point of view. You always seems to enlighten me with new truths. I read your comment and the situation with your ex husband was interesting. See as men sometimes fellas dont hate me for this but when men and women cheat its 2 different planes ....when men cheat sometimes men dont think....we get dumb...almost flat out stupid. We tend ( not saying this is me) leave too much evidence. Dinner reciepts unchecked phone messages, behavior changes, senseless lies and secretive. When women cheat its believe it or not more emotional. More scripted. She can have an affair and make you feel like nothings unusual and lie right to iur faces and be on the phone with the other person. I know im getting off topic but my.point is to support your theory of over reaction and jealousy which exes can cause sometimes.

RockGenome,

Welcome to my cyber mamsion.....well here at my place we talk about everything. Somrtimes its not about always being the norm being serious. I like to throw out there fun stuff too.....get people to think. Most importantly get people to talk out. That to me will make America great again tolerance and conversation.

JustBeHonest,

Welcome to my cyber Mansion. Nice to see new faces as well as my loyal posters. Hmmmmm....a rat you smell ? Thats interestimg. I.have to partial agree i think turning down an evening of romance can work both sides of the.coin. On one side you can be right. He can be messing around cheating. He could of gotten so drunk he forgot to clear his call log before leaving the club. Then on then other side maybe the girl was just calling to say thanks for listening to her plight with her own relationship. Maybe a case of they had a friendly dance and she knows he in a relationship and called to make sure he gotten home safe as a designated driver. Anything i possible right?

Neelamz

Hello and welcome to my cyber mamsion. Well i read your comment and i think we all had trust issues at one point in our lives. Sometimes lack of trust can make us or break us. Now in your case you had good reason to feel the way.you did. Somebody cheats or lie can lead up to that. Now the question i have for you is are you better at mastering jealousy better today?

EyeAmYourHost39,

Well i admit back in my 20s i probably would over react. Im 42 now and it takes a lot for me to get jealous. If it was my girlfriend getting a ride from a guy i never met well i would not over react. Maybe the guy is a male plutonic friend. Maybe he's her boss. Maybe hes her gay friend. Maybe a co worker. I would sit down with her and gently ask her who is he? Let her answer. Trust her to keep everything honest and open. Not to give her insecurity. A relationship is based on trust and if you have something special dont ruin it by misunderstandings and lack of information.

Good Evening my lovely people of M2 shouts out to all those who posted comments and advice in my last 2 forums. We really spilled some serious Henessy with those topics. I have a new topic for my M2 family. Lets have fun. America how cool and reasonable are we really when it comes to situatuons we may not understand ? I want to throw out 2 senarios, no its not based on anyone in particular but just as more our views on over reaction & jealousy.

For my ladies......
Lets just say your guy went out with his friends for a fellas night out. They decide to go to a popular dance club. While hes out you decide to give him a night he'll never forget. You feeling sexy the cat wants to come out to play. The kids is at your mother's for the weekend and the mood is set. You been dying to wear your lace shear body lingerie with ypur signature Victoria Secret robe over it. Hours later he arrives home and you greet him with affection gesture and you grab his hand to escort him to the bedroom. He looks and tells you " not tonight honey im tired maybe tomorrow". You a little disappointed so his phone rings with a female name on his call log. Ladies whats going thru your minds? Is it innocent or you smell a rat?

For my fellas......
Lets say you came early home to suprise your lady with a romantic dinner candles lit. You brought out her favorite bottle of champagne and top things off she drew her a bubble bath with rose peddles in the water. She calls to say shes on her way home not to worry she got a ride home. Time passes a car pulls in front of ypur home and a good looking guy gets iut and opens her door. She follow with a hug.....fellas whats going on in your minds? Is this a over reaction moment or is he somrbody to worry about? Maybe its a.co worker or a distant relative you never met yet? So lets talk about it....are you jealous or would you over react?

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Thank You All
EyeAmYourHost39

KLC,

Well it takes a good woman like you to reckonize a stand up guy like me. My Candice is all the woman i need right now. I believe in loyalty like the Italian mob....lol

EyAmYourHost39

Breaking News..........

America i've made a break through.....okay remember my last topic about my girlfriend's parents racist views. What im about to tell you will blow your mind. Okay about 2 days before thanksgiving holiday ime and Candice was at my place waiting for an Uber Ride into downtown for a casual dinner and champagne for the evening. I notice she was on her I phone and then it happened. She hands me her phone and her dad was on the other end. I nearly almost out of a little fear hung up but on a another note im like if he ready for war im all about it.....no violence but a hell of a debate. I introduced myself and painting a visual picture of who i am and my being who i am. He heard wonderful things about me and told me i was different. So again in my mind what the heck that means? He said i carry myself very well and he was impressed that i am European. We exchanged ideals theories ideologies and thoughts. He came to say and this is his words." I want to meet my future son in law" i felt a sense of happiness. I know family is important to both of us. It felt like a planet size weight being lifted off her and my shoulders. Now that we have the support of dad but the war not over. I still have to meet mom but as long as dad support us i can wait for mom. The moral of that evening to me is and i know it may sound naive but it teaches everyone to to allow hand me down race theories to stop ypur loved ones happiness. Every man and woman of my people are different. Just like the world we have good in us and baf as well too. In another view in can understand his concern as a father that wants nothing but the best for his daughter. Im a father myself so the extra questions did not bother me at all. Well i want to thank all my Vocal Avengers for posting but the party aint over keep posting your comments.....talk to you all soon.

CireTom,

Welcome back I always enjoy your wisdom in your comments

KLC

HI welcome to my cyber mansion, America, i don't think you all understand. WE were friends for 3 years plutonically. We now in a 5 month relationship. i think you all thinking we was together for 3 years ....no.

Sam

Hi how do you feel about when its time to say you love your mate?

Johnny111,


Sorry , but she not going anywhere neither am I.........we are into each other like Nutello & Jelly on wheat bread......

TOTAGE

Welcome and happy holidays to you and your family. See I was like you I used to be that guy to not say it first trying to avoid an awkward moment. but honestly I'm secure enough to if I feel it I can say it and take the risk.......but I like what you mentioned with I believe an Ex of yours? you also on the money when you say communication is the key. converse and find something that makes you closer to your mate.

TechnoVative,

Hey buddy, well we defiantly spill more Hennessey with our hot topics. Well I believe the time is coming soon where we will tell each other we love each other. I can see me marrying Candice my sweet. she a wonderful girl......

IgorFrankensteen,

Welcome back I like how you broke down the logical side of when to say love word. I find it sometimes easier to express deep emotions when the feeling is mutual. when I was younger lets say in my early 20's I would have the woman come out first to sat she loves me before I responded back....it was always that insecurity of rejection. now I'm 42 22 years later and I tell my girl how much I really care for her. She responded by saying I love how you listen to me and treat me. You not tripping that I'm white. you don't judge me and you make me feel like a real woman. So with all that great compliments I'm tickled. But bottomed line I feel her the same way...

Catnidaho,

Well we were best friends and still are but we made that upgrade to now dating? relationship. known her for 3 years dating for about 4 months now.

Blondey111,

You brings me to your understanding of the period to reveal you love someone. Like my girl, she told me " Corey I love you....I love who you are and how much fun I am. Should I brush it off or rebuttal?