I think you need to re-examine what you think of as "uptight," making a good moral decision is not uptight it is upstanding!

Keeping an open mind about who to date in the hopes of finding a responsible caring man who give and take in equal proportions in all matters.

Thank you. I've always been myself, the trouble has been that I've always been a giver and never felt worthy of doing any recieving. Makes it really easy for guys to take advantage of me, or worse, take me for granted. The plan is to think more of myself and expect more out of my next relationship.

I see it optimistically. They were talking about their regrets of breaking up with nice people that they just didn't connect with and think it would be sweet if you each had someone, maybe each other since you're both good people. They wouldn't bother at all if either thought of their ex in a really negetive way. I say give him a shot, you can always say no thanks to a second date if you don't care for him.

Truthfully I feel stupid. Recently realized I'm so afraid of hurting anyone else's feelings that I don't make wise choices for myself and also depressed to realize that I lack the social skills dating requires and I wonder why I don't laugh as easily as so many others, I just don't get the humor in the rudeness, stupidity and vulgarity that permeates our society and entertainment options today. Remember when the audience was given enough credit for our mental capacity that every joke wasn't followed up by an explanation?

Happy Birthday, Lex, the only gift I can give you is to let you know much your thoughts and sense of humor means to me on here and to admit that I do wish for you to find love and contentment not only today, but every time I see any of your posts. Luv ya! (((((Lex)))))

I hate rude people, but you did right not to say anything in your uniform. You can't put your company in a bad light and people that are that self centered would probably be so outraged by YOUR behavior that they'd probably make trouble for you with your employer. Some people just suck!

I'd go up into the mountains and live happily ever after with Grizzly Adams and the wild critters! I need me some big purdy sweet talkin' hermit!

I don't like little dogs anyway, you can't respect a man who carries around his little Foofoo. Give me a real man with a big dog, they're always sweeter anyway!

That is SO me! I feel so socially inept! My parents never went out or had anyone over. Family was always enough. I'm from a big family, the oldest of 7 kids. Vacations were to Grandma's and the only outtings were for family holidays. I never dated in high school, not allowed. Got married as soon as I turned 18 to a guy with about a quarter of my IQ. Divorced and slept around for about a year then married the first guy who wouldn't have sex with me til he got to know me and beat myself up for at least a decade still thinking of myself as a slut even though I stayed faithful to a guy who wasn't. This last relationship started at work with a guy also going thru a divorce who needed to rent a room and sweet talked me into believing he thought more of me than he ever did. Now I see how selfish he was from the very beginning, but it was way more easy to believe he would one day want to return my kindnesses than to be alone or be out in the dating world that I've never really participated in! I have no idea how to date or how to let someone I've been out with know that I'm not really interested without being hurtful. I HATE the idea that I could hurt someone's feelings. I'm so afraid that fear of letting someone down will put me right back in another relationship with another Mr. Wrong for me.

Too picky? For me the problem has been quite the opposite. A close look at myself has revealed a chronic low self esteem. I've always given my heart to the first new guy to give me a compliment and hold me close when I'm hurting. If anything I need to be much more selective and quit allowing my need for physical connection to override my need to take the time to know I have found my intellectual equal. I'm no genius, but I'm smart enough to realize I have to break my pattern of thinking these childish, irresponsible men that I keep falling for are the best that I deserve!

Interesting thread, it appears most of us tend to prefer to work under the opposite sex. I didn't expect that.

Quake is a good looking guy! What fine muscle tone! It's no wonder so many people are intimidated by pitbulls when they encounter chest muscles so wide and clearly defined!

Are you kidding? This place is full of funny dirty little old men! Most of them are pretty darned sweet tho.
I read your profile, you seem smart, sweet and honest. Good luck, hope you find a decent guy near you!

You keep that up, saying just what I've been thinkin', and I'm gonna fall for you!

There are plenty of us who still believe in and long for a fulfilling marriage, but the media and society in general has become so negative about the prospect of lasting committments that it's no longer cool to admit to wanting it. Divorce is too easy with no social stigma left to make people stop to contemplate the full implications of the vows they take when they do marry. Most people seem to say the words without feeling the need to fulfill them. Marriage has become a "for as long as it lasts" proposition rather than "til death do us part." Sad really, but what do you expect when God has been taken out of so many aspects of peoples' lives?

Congrats! I love hearing about the happy happening in your life, grab it with both hands and enjoy it without question! You're getting it because it is your turn, karma works both ways ya know!

Definitely prefer men, they are more goal oriented and focused on one thing... success. Most women I've had to deal with have been going in multiple directions at once and take on so much at any given moment that they stay stressed and difficult to deal with or left me feeling manipulated or back stabbed.

I started a 10 day vacation today, my first in 6 years! Wasn't expecting my vacation pay til next Thursday but it was on this week's check! BIG SMILE! Have to use it to catch up all the bills since I now have to take care of everything alone, so I can't really go anywhere. I did however splurge and buy myself a new vacuum cleaner. As you may have read before, everything I own is either a hand-me-down or bought used, so this is a pretty big deal for me and I'm sure I'll smile every time I use it for a while!

Agreed, it goes back to the post above about choosing what kind of man you want to be! Cheaters suck and if you do cheat, karma will catch up with you