oooooo that's a tuffy. The friends I know, man I don't know lol

oh I expected that, and I know what I am getting into. I am just giving it a second go, to be absolutely sure whether this is doomed to failure or not.

I am to a certain degree. This is a girl with serious self esteem issues (real used to the bad boys that beat her) Just seeing if she will come out of this funk.

Ok, I am now back together with my ex. It is going "ok" Not perfect, but better than expected. I am doing the whole "Don't be to nice method" and it seems so far to be working. I just wonder how long I gotta keep this up lol It's cool and all that she seems fairly happy with the current situation, but I am not getting any real affection in return as of yet. I just hope it gets back to like it was in the beginning at some point. Just wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation.

I think clingy is good when it is like effection towards each other on a frequent basis. Clingy like calling 15 times a day is bad.

Ok update. I noticed she texted me a couple hours ago and said " are you stranded?" I didn't text back because it's geting late here in michigan.
Stranded???? What does that mean? I am utterly confused.

this was the closest thing to love I have ever experienced.

here is the thing, there really was nothing wrong with anything. She had really bad insecurity issues and such, and I wonder whether she is now willing to work on that.

I pretty much know how most will reply to this but I am going to tell you anyway.
After two weeks now of moping around thinking about how great my ex girlfriend was, she texted me saying "hey! how are you? Can you talk? "
I did not actually call her, but I texted her back and forth with just really small talk, then made an exuse that I had to go. Now, I was in the begining stages of actually getting over her, and now I feel like crap wondering what she is thinking. I thought I made it clear that we could not be just friends, so that gets me thinking even more. I would take this girl back in a heartbeat (for better or worse) Your thoughts.

The last person I know was flirting with me was actually a guy. He was trying to get his watch fixed at the jewelery counter of a department store. The clerk could not get the pin out or something, and the man spotted me and said "let this beefy boy try it out" I did, and as I was yanking on that pin, I noticed this dude was totally undressing me with his eyes. I was slightly uncomfortable, but at the same time I thought, "well if gay guys check me out, I suppose women do also."

If you plan on getting a job and are currently seeking a job, that should not stop a relationship from developing.

I can't answer your question, but it is a good feeling to see people on here in the same boat as me.

yea, I don't think you will find too many happy love stories from people on this site. Maybe they might give you a story about someone they are with right now,but then try asking them a year down the road.

I am going to be the pessimist on this one and say start looking for another one. Even if she doesn't like talking on the phone, she could at least act like she is happy you called. I've been there, and it is frustrating.

thanks for the encouragement

Well stated.

that's why I said I was generalizing...in other words, I wasn't trying to offend.

With this economy, I think it's only fair that she offers to chip in every once in a great while.

This thread really hits home. Yes, contact her only every so often. Do not do what I did and try to take her out every other day. Just drop little hints that your still interested.

From my experience, (and this is just a generalization)many strippers have big time emotional problems, not to mention drug problems. I haven't dated a stripper, but I know strippers and I know people that have dated them. It never worked out. If you want a big confidence boost, it would be fun to roll in the hay with one for a couple weeks though.