What makes a relationship work. Love or Compatibility? Love to hear your thoughts.

there can be no love without compatibility

but there are many areas in which we can be compatible, from physical, to emotional, to intellectual, to spiritual, to philisophical....

and the list goes on and on


I think the most common 'compatibility' that people equate to being in love is the physical,,and thats probably the kind that (by itself) is least likely to last....

in what i belive is
it doesnt matter on your compatibilty

what matters is how well you truly get along

for i have dated many scorpios even married one
and im a scorpio

and all we ever did was argue expect for one old bf he was a very mellow scorpio

I was in a relationship for a really long time, and now i'm a firm believer that love is bs.

I think compatibility goes a long way. Love is temporarily. I don't think love makes a relationship work.

First comes compatability. Then comes love.

You have to get along in order for a relationship to work. Once you start to build that relationship, then love sets in.

When we first meet someone and start dating, we are infatuated with them. Love requires unending work. It isn't a given. If you aren't compatable, you will never build and maintain the love.

Both...but love without compatability will eventually die if both peeps are emotionally and mentally healthy....Existing in harmony is a major component to any relationship, but existing in harmony 24/7 becomes a vital component to the survival of this relationship...

I agree with you, but if two people are in syn with each other their relationship will last longer then 2 people who are in love.

Love in blind, it has it phases but then eventually dies out.

I think compatibility does not die out, maybe one might get bored of being too compatible, but then again there needs to be some upset in order to have life interesting.

I think you might be overthinking it...Love is pretty resilient...Something must kill it, it does not die a natural death like you are saying....And the only way compatibility dies if if one or both people change dramatically or if one or both "do" something life changing enough to affect the context of the relationship...

If its true Love, misdle finger for the compatibility, but in case of puppy love compatibility matters dude

Humm well myself I want both....if all I wanted was someone I was compatibile with I would stick to just a friendship then....

When you finally get hit by love then you will not think it is just bs...

Longterm, compatibility definitely. Short term, Love.

In my mind, a long term relationship is sustained by having a range of common interests not saying that love isn't important but it's the commonalities that enable longevity.

Yes you are absolutely right. I agree completely.

Alot of people are looking for love, rather then compatibility, and if two individuals are compatible they will love their compatibility of having a stress free relationship which will equate to Disney stories happily ever after

You are so young to be so cynical......

Neither. Work makes a relationship work. If you don't work at it, you don't have one.

Also, if you are in love, in most cases you are in some way compatible.

Just being compatible or in being in love in themselves does not a relationship make... it takes both mixed with the above stated work.

You can have love with compatibility. And you can have compatibility with love. Same values, beliefs, morals has got to save a lot of frustration. Personally, .I would not want to be too like my SO. I like to be taken by surprise and to surprise.

love, not infatuation or lust, which can evolve into love,
but real love is a beautiful thing. i would never settle
for a relationship without it. i do believe though that
for it to be true, there has to be compatibility, chemistry,
and a continuum of keeping it alive.

Speaking as a widower, I disagree with you.
Love is what held my late wife and me together during the worst of times.

So, you were once in a relationship. What was it built on?

Takes a bit of both...the jacked up part is there ain't a damned thing any of us can do to force love or compatibility....they are beyond our control.

Once ya accidentally get blindsided with love and compatability...that is the EASY part of a relationship....

From there it takes alot of patience and a butt load of hard work.

Nothing good comes easy....it is earned.

Love finds you. We don't choose who we love, it chooses us. I've been very compatible with previous bf's, but love? Nah. it was mostly just compatibility; that one person you could tell anything to because they just get you. That's not love, although it can lead into it. Love comes later, after time, when ppl grow together and stay compatible. That's what real love is, to me. It doesn't fizzle out because it's based in compatibility that grew into something bigger and both people enjoyed it enough to work at it and keep it going when times got rough.

You need to be compatable to build a strong relationship that will last.

Loving is easy, keeping the love is harder, so strong building blocks make it easier.