Age is not just a number; it is a measure of life experience. At 57 I have had a lot more life experience than someone at age 25 or 30. The only thing a younger person would see in an older person is a place to live, using them for sex, or using the older person for money. I have the intelligence to know that if I am not considered attractive to a man my age; I would be even less attractive to someone much younger. I know the difference between love and being used.

Tired. I am on day number 6 of working and still have one to go.

I don't agree that love makes life meaningful. I don't have love but I am happy and my life certainly has meaning. My volunteer work with my Navy cadets gives me meaning, hanging with my friends gives me meaning, doing charity gives my life meaning, etc. You can do many things that give your life meaning without love.

I work with Navy Cadets aged 9 to 12. My position is Executive Officer. This one cadet always announces " Executive or Commanding Officer approaching, mam or sir " as we approach the deck. Well this cadet kept calling me sir and I always laughed at it. One day this kid was announcing my approach and said "Executive Officer approaching, mam" to one of my male officers. The officer is smirking but says, "I am not a mam, I am a sir, get it right". Cadet's priceless response, " I am working on it sir." My response: doubled over from laughter.

Definitely money. You can live without love but you need money to survive. I know its not romantic but it is practical.

Dave; sadly most people in this world are shallow. I get turned down because of my looks and age. I just gave up trying and keep myself immersed in volunteer work and my hobbies.

MissJudy, so sorry to hear this but you are not alone. My friend says he doesn't understand why men don't want to be with me. He calls me a self made woman, I cycle and work out, paid off my house, and do community work. The only downside of me is my age and that seems to be a factor. All, I can say is that I hope there is at least one guy out there that is smart enough to appreciate you.

Don't get much free time between work, court cases, and working with cadets. Usually trying very hard to catch up on stuff around the house.

I think its creepy when any older person dates a person that is way younger than them.

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Lots of gold diggers out there unfortunately.

I find it creepy when young guys contact me. I find most young people are just out to use an older person for money or sex.

Work has to be a priority. Need to pay the bills before I can have any fun.

Thanks. I don't think you are smug. There are simply times that a person doesn't want company and people need to respect that. I am cranky first thing in the morning and the last thing I want to do is talk to anyone so I understand you.

I have found out that men here do not like strong women. I have served in the military and faced dangerous situations. I bought a house on my own and had to renovate it as well pay it off on my own. I am not afraid to travel on my own and certainly not afraid to speak my mind. I even moved a 450 pound hot tub by myself by using my strength and wit. I have intelligence and independence. Not saying; I won't work with a man in sharing the chores or even asking for help but I refuse to play the dumb and defenseless woman that men want. We leave in dangerous times and women can no longer afford to play the damsel in distress. You become dependant on a man; then you are in a for a world of hurt if he should die or leave you. I don't know why an reasonable man would put and leave a woman in that position.

This is the number one important thing to me. Glad, I am not the only one that thinks a couple doesn't need to be joined at the hip or lose their individuality. Too many people in relationships do indeed try to own a person. I find that an instant turnoff.

I think that is awesome that you volunteer with rescue shelter for wildlife. I volunteer teaching cadets from 9 to 12. I am also working on a garden once we get out of this freezing weather. I am also a seamstress and love making costumes. I think the thing of it is that we have to be happy with ourselves before being with anyone. So many people think they need a partner to make them happy and personally that seems like quite a burden to put on another.

These match things are so stupid. Got 216 but don't give a crap about checking it out.

When I am sitting at Tim Hortons; no one normally bothers me but usually the conversation takes place in line and I am the one to initiate it. LOL Only time I have ever been bothered is when there is someone drunk trying to talk to me. Although; you have me thinking of what a character on Star Trek said. If you wanted to be alone; you wouldn't be in a public place around people. Not saying that sitting alone gives people an open invitation to talk to you but personally when I don't want to to talk to anyone; I grab my coffee and go. You could try bringing a book and pretend to be reading it and maybe that might throw people off. Either way; Op I hope you can find a place to have coffee without someone annoying you.

YOU’RE COMFORTABLE BEING SINGLE.
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Since you aren’t willing to settle for just anyone, you must be fine with the idea of staying single if that’s what it comes down to. That probably means you’re independent and you can take care of yourself, and which guys doesn’t love that?



Yep, this is me. Its good as I am usually to busy with my hobbies, work, and community service to have a relationship anyways.