You might want to look at your profile and see what there is about you that you bring to a woman's life that she would want and can actually have. That kind of generally applys to real life too.

After getting screwed on GM stock, seeing the declineing quality of GM vehicals buying them over the years, and tThen the bailout that clearly did NOT keep anything than over paid fat cats in their job GM won't get another penny of my money!

If a cop caught my kids doing something they would have gotten down on their knees and begged the cop to take them to jail. And they knew not to bother wasteing their one calling me or their Dad. Our SOP was they should not be in situations that would get them in that kind of trouble.

But no offense to the OP (he reports he saw the kids doing it) but it is possible to and experienced parent, especially if it is a great car
that the caps were taken off by someone else and the kids were just dumb enough to pick them up.

Unfortuneately when someone is vandalizing your car it is because you, or someone you know, have made someone mad. These little punks may have been put up to it by someone else. Seems odd Mom was johnny on the spot to bail them out. Maybe someone went to get her. The thing is if you escalate it you are probably going to have a small war on your hands.

When people threaten suicide you ALWAYS take it as serious.

If it turns out to only be attention seeking behavior then the the expense of EMS ect. will be a deterent in the future.

If not you have saved a life by doing the right thing for her.

NOW do the right thing for you and block her number from your cell phone and your life.

It is pretty obvious she has bigger problems than you can deal with. IMHO she knew six pills (strange that she knew exactly how many if she was really suicideal) would maybe make her stoned but hardly fatal. This can be called a cry for help but it could also be called Bullying behavior. Probably no secret which I think it is.

Two wrongs do not make a right. Unfortuneately he would most likely be caught; injured; or arrested on a number of charges.

Not saying she did it; but if someone caught my kids messing with their car and tried to "hold them there until the police came" my first instinct would be to put some distance between them and the owner. Especially since I know the cops are not going to hurry about getting there and tempers can easily get out of control. Not going to risk their physical saftey over tire caps.

Would my kids think they would die before they got out alone again? Yea probably.

If I found the tire caps on their person then I would be in for a much more serious punishment. Probably being required to go with an officer at your residence and apologize in person and be subject to any applicable laws.

Love; even the love of a parent for a child can be beaten down if the child abuses the parent's love intentionally, or not, long enough. Or; the parent does not bond with the child in the first place.

IMHO The idea of unconditional love is a romantic notion that doesn't really work where the familia relationship is dysfunctional from the start or is inner-generationally flawed. It is difficult to give, or even aspire to, that which you have never known.

Some Mother's unconditional love is just not "tested" in the way some other's are. Sadly for some children they have the luck of the draw to be more of a burden to their mother's than a blessing.

Unfortuneately the help we give Mother's in crisis does little to bond the child to mother and vice versa. We usually give less than subsistence living assistance and try to force the child into surrogate care and the Mother into the near impossible role of low paid sole provider. Family time is then usually subject to exhaustion which rarely makes it pleasant or contributes to bonding either direction.

When a Mother gets no choice, approval, or comfort for being pregnant or as a parent it is nearly impossible to develope love much less anything remotely close to unconditional love.

This post makes me think of a gal pal's thinking on divorce. She didn't believe in it but she did with five kids believe in homicide. Can't be sure but I don't think her hubby was ever the cheating kind. lol

That is funny. What a great advertiseing idea!

Possible Scenario's

He is married, no kid just an easy excuse for someone who like's kids. Best reason I know not to waste a lot of time talking to anyone you can't get the facts on.

Could be a nervous adoptive custodial Dad, that is worried that if something happens to the kid, that someone will challenge the adoption.

Doesn't sound like he is telling you the whole truth about why the kid is going to the ER but maybe he feels you will abandon him (and maybe a child with serious special needs) like the Ex.

What is probably the reality is he is living with parents as a custodial Dad who may or may not have actually accomplished his divorce and they walked in catching you talking on line.

Adoptions are final after a waiting period so he may be in limbo waiting to get divorced and just doesn't want to admidt it.

Bottom line your intincts are telling you to move on and I would listen. Life is too short to second guess yourself and compound a mistake just to find out what is going on.

Reuniteing with long lost family can be really great to really the pits. Go into with as few expectations as possible and a little reservation and it will be what it will be. I have some family ties now that I would not trade the woorld for. But in all honesty I have to add a couple that made life really miserable. Fractured families are not always hearts and flowers when they reunite. There are new rewards and rivalries and it is important to set your own boundries. You strike me as a well selected ambassador for your family. Good luck and great happiness in this role.

If you are personable I would get into any kind of services to the elderly. As the boomers age they are going to need every thing from delivery services, housing placement, medical support services, transportation, pet care, handyman, the list goes on. If you are squimish direct patient services are not going to be your cup of tea. Support services can be excellent. Know a driver for durable medical equipment company that is pulling in serious money.

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"I live in the middle of the desert, so I am stuck unless I drive, but I cannot til next week. So yeah, I want to just hang out at like a kickback or something, lol. I even offer gas money, but nothing.


Not having wheels can be a drag. I think I would grab a bike or bus or even hike to some place local. Or have some of your friends over for pot luck party (as in the food variety). Look around your neighborhood and see if you have an elderly neighbor you can volunteer to help. Call your local church and see if you can "tag along" while you are stranded; some even have buses.

As long as it is JD! Corney but kind of funny!

Hey! Thanks to all that sent up prayers and supportive thoughts. The Princess had a rocky 88th Birthday but must have been her lucky day because she is perking up and enjoying her new digs. Flirting with all the cute male nurses ect.. lol

Hey; you go knock 'em dead young lady! Promise yourself to never skip the first class and you ought to do fine. Already know your triple threat; Cute, smart, great attitude! Keep you in our prayers.

Sorry you had a crummy end of the week. Sounds like a plan to have some quality "me" time. Relax and renew.

Gardening, landscapeing, carpentry, cleaning, physically helping the elderly, swimming, riding my bike, shopping, then I crash and burn in the LazyBoy with the Puter lol

I know what I like and a guy who does not fall into that area is going to have to make a much bigger effort to connect.

Wish I had a Klondike bar. lol

Sounds like someone is having a bad day.