LOL how cute. Hide your good stuff or it will be it's chew toy soon.

I would start with more specifics. Student, music, and people is way too general. Look back over the last year to what you have been doing to use your time. Especially the things you enjoyed. Surely you have preferences. Name a few in things commonly enjoyed with women; work, music, sports, pets, movies, food, classes, places to shop, dance, worship, or just relax. Your young you might want to mention your future dreams and or plans. Might want to mention your living situation and if you have personal transportation. It is good you are honest that you smoke but it reduces your dating pool so you might want to think about quitting. Try to reference something about your personality type and values. And what you are looking for in a date. Stay positive and make every word count. Good profiles does not have to be an essay but you have to give people away to connect with you. It is ok to self promote a little. Pictures of you doing something you enjoy are better than expressionless face shots. You play a musical instrument, kick around a soccerball, can you cook, have a pet, go someplace regularly? Pictures save words and speak volumes. Smile!
Example;
______&_________major and summer ---(job description you are 20 and a student nobody expect it to be fantastic)--- seeks (type of girl (quiet, talkative, family oriented, career mineded, easygoing) for friendship, and dating, or steady girlfriend,or serious relationship (tell the truth here). Special interests are music (name a couple of favorite artists or types of music), (place you would go on a date______, _activity you usually do in down time_________, and --something fun you would like to share with a date. One goal for 2010 is -------. A great time for us to chat is (pick a regular time you are on line). Make it a better day by saying hello soon.

Stick with something that is natural for you. Trying to be funny out of context usually sounds stupid or fake. Something that is too time sensitive is probably not a good idea if you can't keep it up dated. Somehow closeing with "Hoping to hear from you soon" is friendly and upbeat which is rarely a bad idea.

LOL my Dad is convinced eventually they will come see him. At 81 on social insecurity you really can't blame him for hoping.

Well promoteing yourself is always hard because most of us see it as bragging. Good for you for ignoreing such dribble when you obviously have more important things to do.

For someone to say something so hateful to either of you only speaks to their own deep emotional problems not yours.

I don't see how in this century you can assign character to the length of a persons hair or assume from any of the pictures I have seen of you that it is not clean. My guess is has less dirt, oil, and or product than many women that only have it styled once a week but that is my personal bug-a-boo. No long hair on most guys is not my preference either but I don't see attacking someone because it is their's. Actually I think you have and intrigueing appearance and personality and frequently find your post well worth reading.

It is my opinion You have a very pretty heart shaped face and eyes that I would think many men would find feminine and inviteing. You are honest enough to say your weight is not ideal but I would hardly call it extream. Your profile text could be a little more focused on your good experiences but I would think someone who has the forethought career wise, intelligence, and desire to help others to be a nurseing student, has good values, likes to have fun would have more than a good chance of attracting someone equally desireable so "hopeless" doesn't seem like it would apply to me.

I don't see the need to call people names period. If you are not attracted to a person's appearance/profile you can stop at that. If and when they approach you a simple Thanks but no Thanks is plenty. Actually a non-response is enough IMHO. Personally I wouldn't waste my breath responding to the people who sent these offensive emails but I would be highly likely to report what sounds like a violation of site rules.

Sounds sad. Not much of and endorsement for public education in this country. Not everyone had the good fortune to have much better than a 4th or 5th grade education. Seeing that a child in Foster care may attend as many as four different schools in one year it isn't like some people have a chance.

I know I have preferences for height, looks, and size ect. that might get a guy a little more notice but it is and always will be how a man treats me and others over physical characteristics in the long run. Maybe that sounds like I am trying to be PC but it is true. So far the great love of my life was not most of my physical preferences, and I was absolutely not even looking but getting to know him how he was and how our life was together made him the the cats pajama's. I am just hoping that wasn't just one lucky moment but giving a guy a chance to be a gentleman and shine in his own personal way. I believe there are a lot of great guys out there and some of them are even on Mingle. Actually I think there are quite a few on Mingle. My suggestion would be don't be discouraged just talk to some people and find out who they really are.

Looking at the original post seems like you have your focus off kilter. It doesn't matter if her family thinks you are wonderful or not. She is not into you. She has told you to wait because it is the answer you will accept.

If I heared about a guy with no hair on his "business" I figure he has had some unwelcome parasites and I am not about to cozy up to him. Yucky! The idea of prickles "after" double yucky!

Sounds like summer love is in the air....hope you have a great time!

I wonder if I should sometimes. Seems like my values of being a traditional wife is out of style.

Having seen things in my career that I didn't always want to I am sorry to hear you had a tough day. It is late for my old bones but I will remember you on my God Bless list tonight that you have the ability to let it go and get some rest.

I am sorry for your pain guy. I would think he feels your devotion and finds it great comfort. That you care so much for this form of pure love makes me think you are a far better person than you give yourself credit for. Hang in there. Lots of us wish you strength, peace, and grace in this experience.

Suggesting people who expect to meet someone viable for a relationship on line are desperate or any other negative is saying more about you than them.

Statisticly the number of couples who trace back their spouses or significant others to casual conversations on line in relaxed periods is significant.

Since I personally have met a mix of what I would consider equally viable dates on line as off if you have a consistently bad experience I would look at your selection criteria or your own attitude if your results are less successful.

Dateing is never simple so meeting people on line is not necessarily easier. It takes time and effort and repeat exposure. Jump on the forums, change your pictures, and tweak your profile occasionally if you are not getting the results you want. It is hard but no whineing and don't rag the regulars.

You probably run into the even more of the pretty girl anxiety on line since at least if they are talking they have gotten a little attention and don't want to strike out in person.

I am beginning to wonder if the ask a lady for a date is a dying art but it is not unique to younger guys with more options. Most women won't admidit but the ones who date a lot usually ask the guy in such a way he thinks it is his idea. Sad but true some just trow themselves at guys hoping something will stick.

Dateing has, and I believe always will be, ruled by two things; meeting a large number of people and being a fun date. I am not suggesting being easy sexually but easy to talk to, laugh with, and do a variety of things with usually helps. Especially if it is activities that guys can relate to.

Looking good when you don't think you have to doesn't hurt either. The average woman is seen by 50+ guys a day but don't realize that going out looking like warmed over french fries is signing your own death warrant since most of us function in a very small pattern and most guys won't jump on the opportunity to talk to you the first time they see you unless you look your best and are approachable. Flirting helps but being oblivious is often mistaken as taken or worse stuck up.

I will agree that bars are not the only place to meet great people but there are great people who do occasionally go out to socialize with friends in bars celebrateing life events and meet people thier own age. Keeping your eyes open it is really easy to seperate the wheat from the chaf that makes it a habit.

The problem with thinking that you can avoid "creeps" by avoiding certain locations is that real creeps don't exactly wear a badge that keeps them from going very many places. If you just keep eliminateing avenues that occasionally introduce you to a creep your world will get really small.

Hang in there. As is already pointed out you are still young and the game is not over if you don't find someone in six months.

Somewhere after I got past turning 12 to 21 in a D cup I used to love to run into these guys. I would do my utmost best to find a swivel chair and give them tennis neck. Stupid is usually not entertaining but it is kind of fun to play cat and mouse with these special forms of Peter Pan.

Guys who say they wanted a traditional stay at home wife and homemaker when they are raiseing a family and need support for their careers but want a fully vested career woman when it comes to later in life relationships because the first wife gets a fat chunk out of their retirement when they catch them with another woman.

While that kind of devotion sounds good I would wonder how long I would feel like someone that submissive would wear. Hardly feel like they would be and equal or honest partner. I feel like I am a pretty good catch but I don't walk on water and a partner would have the right/obligation to refuse if I were being a pain.

I think maybe you were overly flattered by the note with the email address. Some gals fill out their social calendar by dropping bread crumbs. Sometimes it is to make a boyfriend jealous or on a dare from friends. Maybe she is feeling guilty or just bored but I would not give anyone and opportunity to dis me like that more than once.