ID say a mixture of less family structure, less parental interaction and guidance and discipline, more societal coddling, and more addiction to immediate gratification and constant entertainment, and the drugs/alcohol don't help.

Die Hard. Hans Gruber forever!

Yep. As long as she doesn't keep putting it in her mouth

Stop worrying and doing so much for the next person..Start thinking about doing for yourself..I have done for people my whole life and that is why I am in the situation I am in now..and I have stories for days and they're not good ones and it's all because I put others before me..Don't do it take care of yourself because in most cases in the end what you realize is all they cared about was themselves while taking advantage of your kindness..

As has been said, you can't love someone you don't like. Unless there's something drawing you to them, or triggering a feeling of love.
Mismatched couples exist.
But generally, if you don't like someone you're probably NOT going to want them.
Romantically that is.

Yup, especially on this.

Here's mine: I don't buy the "men are driven by hormones to chase lots of women and women are driven by protection of eggs to find one man" garbage. It sounded logical when I was a kid, but then I gradually noticed that each person who claimed stuff like that, were doing it either to promote their own agenda, or just trying to make themselves feel okay about whatever mes the world around them was in.

For myself, I eventually realized that there's actually a whole cluster of things going on in me about this whole "want to have sex with a woman" stuff. Yeah, MAYBE there's a procreation/spread the genes thing, but that's a hell of a lot smaller motivation than personal comfort, and social status.

The people I've known, male and female alike, who wanted multiple mates, were all very similar in that they just wanted lots of personal fun. Yeah, some of them would come up with esoteric explanations for it, and would "borrow" whatever faddish "scientific" explanations were lying around, but in the end, all there ever was to it, was their own personal fun and comfort.

In younger age groups especially, the idea that having sex with multiple people as a form of CONQUEST is fairly common. When I was in college, I knew both males and females who played that exact game.

Heck, even part of the "Monogamy Club," is only there, because they want to feel they are smarter and more important than other people. They aren't really calling for monogamy for the reasons they claim, it's just an ego game for THEM.

For myself, I've discovered that I am sexually attracted to pretty much any fairly friendly and intelligent emotionally mature female on the planet. And on some level, I'd like very much to have sex with all of them, just so that I would feel cared about and valuable as a human being.

But for practical as well as emotional reasons, I am looking for a monogamous situation with a truly committed mate. Not because I think monogamy is "all that," or because I've given up the chase due to age, I just always really wanted ONE mate to live out a life with, as a thing to do.

But if a set of two or more women showed up who seemed to love me, and said "It's all of us or nothing, dude!" I think I'd go that way too.

Sooooooo....who is the girl you want to shag and how many "yes" responses will it take for you to eventually do what we all know you will do?

Oh, and no beard/mouse-stache