Snowed in, no transit even if I could go out & every commercial on TV is for food LOL! Good news is there's power so far, in my neighborhood. So...should I just surf the net or go to bed?

In the modern dating world (OLD, Tinder, meetup groups & plain old bars & clubs) humans market themselves to be chosen just like the marketing in a supermarket. What's the newest/shiniest product?

But think about how people shop at the supermarket. Some just go for the same brands every time, some only shop when they are out of everything & some won't buy anything without a coupon. Same thing with dating: there's a choice of products & you feel like you can pick & choose. Except that there's a human on the other end of that choice (or rejection) & we will all face the experience of being "passed over" at one or another time in our lives. It hurts, & dating should be fun, not painful. I have to say it's too easy to "next" someone these days...

I'm not interested in the drive: high or low - what I want to do it get it into "park" LOL!

Crazy chit women say: "Online dating might be a good way to meet someone"

Crazy chit women do: Post a profile on this site.

The picture that comes into my mind when I hear "nice guys finish last" is of a short, "nerdy" looking guy with a pocket protector just holding open the door for a line of people who never give him a chance to get inside himself LOL!

It really depends though...if the guy is "nice" in the meaning of: lets a woman cheat on him & take his money (even uses his money to cheat),& never figures it out or always takes her back etc. then yes he WILL finish last b/c he's just not standing up for himself.

If you mean nice as in he doesn't cheat, take crazy risks with his life or his $$, respects himself & women too much to have a one night stand or a hookup etc., then no he is just a gem waiting to be found by the right woman who will appreciate him, that will take time so it may appear he is last.

Oh well, like I said, can't blame the site for trying to go for the $$. Someone has to pay these moderators & sys. admins. who spend all their time clearing out the fake profiles (or maybe not spending enough time on that task???).

But really, I don't think they are trying to compete w/E-harmony & Match & Zoosk now are they?? Those are serious sites & when I'm finally fed up w/POF & OKC & this one too, I might just consider a little, maybe, possibly, just - using a pay site, but never for this one.

Just added a second "new" to a first initial & a noun describing my status on the site (now it should be doldold LOL). One thing I learned, never choose the year you joined an OLD site as part of your user name (looks really bad if you are "smith 2010" & STILL single in 2015!)

Hi, I would remove the part about the bad luck & not dating in 10 yrs. It leaves to much room for a woman to ask "10 years? Uh oh, something's gotta be wrong?"

Everyone's forgetting the most important thing: the purpose of online is to get OFFLINE & really date the person (even the members here who've met "the one" had the in person experience).

An "online relationship" is just supposed to be a temporary thing. The real point of a relationship is to be TOGETHER IN PERSON. Email, Skype, webcams, cybersex etc. never kept anyone warm at night when they are sleeping alone.

When I signed on today I noticed that under "Match" it now had a number in parentheses = the number of people who said "yes" to me. Of course you have to be a paid member to actually see the matches LOL! I think not, but good try anyway (also I know out of the 173 numbered that 100 are scammers & 70 are out of state/country or just not my profile specs, so I'm not really bummed out by missing the 3 who "might" actually be close to what I'm looking for).

Yes: the woman you're with has to like the size of YOU. If not then you're both mismatched. Just as you need to like the size of her (weight, height, shape). As a purely physical matter nobody should have to be fantasizing about how good their partner would look "if only he/she had ______" WHILE they're being intimate with them. Defeats the purpose entirely. (& I don't want to hear any jokes about turning off the lights LOL!)

OP: while many in other countries may think badly of the U.S. for various above mentioned reasons, the question you should ask yourself is: when you look at your own country (U.S./England/India/China etc.) would you stay based on what you have now or would you immigrate to another country if it afforded you a better life? The numbers don't lie: for so many the U.S. IS the choice for the chance of greater opportunity. Example China has North Koreans illegally immigrating b/c they are desperate to escape conditions in their own land but how many people are applying at the Afghanistan embassy for citizenship, or smuggling themselves into that country??

Remember when people were saying they would give up their citizenship when "Dubya Bush" was elected AND when Obama was elected? How many actually did & moved to another country? Come on folks, even with all of our inequities regarding race/health care/environment etc...I think we've got it pretty good here.

The flip side: at least the country is free enough to handle a new radio station for specific "demographics". In other countries, you either play what the government allows or no station at all - Big Brother is alive & well around the globe & it's scary. So...at least they are free to program music as they wish & you are free to not listen or protest, as you wish. In the west most of this comes down to $$: will their chosen group be able to translate into financial gain for the sponsors/owners of the channel. A lot of 25y.o.'s are still living at home without disposable income of their own so IDK...

LOL! Always suspected that was true...

Really, most of us are just not evolved enough to deal with having a mate in a highly sexualized profession who comes into contact w/people who want them the same way WE want them.

The internet has made the world customizable. You can program onto your smart phone/tablet/whatever device your own news feed, your own twitter followings, your own specific media tastes in podcasts & especially music.

What does this mean? A whole generation of people who know what they like & seek out the same. BUT: a whole generation that will not experience (willfully or not) other tastes, viewpoints in music, politics, fashion, news etc. How will these people be able to rationally administer the world? "If it's not ________ then forget it" it their mantra. This type of personalization can create closed minds, like we are all 5 y.o.'s who won't taste anything on our plates that isn't chicken nuggets LOL!

Back in the 70's I remember hearing (on AM radio to boot) a playlist of songs that included a Country, Rock, Disco, & top ten "pop" songs, all in a row. Dolly Parton, ELO, Sister Sledge & Fleetwood Mac. If I didn't like a particular song so be it, there was another genre coming right up & I got to learn inadvertently all about different kinds of music. No more...

Welcome & congrats for just going for what you want...however, based on your profile I don't think you're going to find "deep thinkers/intelligence" in the younger set LOL!

Past due rent payment seekers & always down for a party guys more likely. Best of luck on the site.

Nice profile, but most dating sites do advise to leave out pictures of your kids if you have them. Safety first.

1st million: hire an account & a lawyer & a "hacker" who could erase every online trace of me since I don't want to be inundated with requests for $$. Then: pay off credit cards for me & my bff's. Then (weeks later) tell whatever boss I have to "take this job & shove it". Then take a trip to Tahiti.

Once I get the rest of the money: invest in rental income real estate so that even if I somehow blow all the rest of the $$ I would still have some kind of $$ coming in to cover my basic needs WITHOUT having to work a regular job. Donate to a charity close to my heart & then wake up every day of the rest of my life feeling GOOD!

Don't fall for it ladies: it appears that pics of men in military uniforms are very easy for the scammers to get, so that's what they post profiles under. Tell them you want a selfie of them holding a piece of paper with today's date on it: you'll find out pretty quick...also check their grammar from their typing: you can almost hear the foreign accent through the screen: lots of "am so & so by name" & "will really like to" that's not how someone who speaks English as a 1st language writes OR talks.

Don't forget, they all have children "live away from home"... Most importantly, their first message to you will NEVER have anything from your profile (interests) referenced, since they did not (possibly can't read English too well) read your profile...it will just be a string of bad grammar & badly spelled compliments about how pretty you are. A message from a real guy will have something in it that matches your profile (including coming from a reasonably close location). Messages from guys who are across the country or even a couple of states away should be viewed with suspicion, if what you want is a ongoing dating relationship. Obviously someone in California can't pick you up every Sat. nite to go out if you are in New Jersey etc...

Be aware & good luck with the site anyway.

Looking at it w/a female current stripper as example, then you have to be a really really secure man, really believe that as part of her job she is surrounded by men who look at her sexually & will try for it, that she will remain faithful to you. Same thing for a former stripper: can you restrain yourself from being jealous of any male "friends" she knows & meets "without" you along - especially if you know she met them at "work"??? Same thing for a male stripper: I'm not secure enough to put up with the competition on a daily basis. Unless it's a NSA thing where there's no chance of a RS developing.

P.S. (Related job catergory: I don't know how porn stars ever find husbands/wives LOL!)