Believe me you, even if a woman was dumb enough to go along with the scam, there are SO MANY that even every single woman on this site would not be able to cover each profile that has those specs. There would have to be a daily quota amount, like 10 per female member, per day! LOL

Seems to me that all religions are hypocritical since they are the constructs of HUMAN BEINGS, hoping to find something to explain an unexplainable world. There may very well be a divine force, but humans want to define it based on what's acceptable for their own ethnic/geographic/cultural group.

Religions lead to divisions: the minute you say "I am a...", you naturally separate yourself from other humans who "are not a...", & you can essentially place them in a category lesser than yourself since they don't follow your religion, AND since they are lesser you can justify doing all sorts of bad things to them in the name of the religion, instead of being honest & saying: my group want's the resources (land/water/natural resources) that this other group has & we are going to take them. That's what being human is...getting what you want for yourself & your group & if another group is hurt...well too bad, "they weren't one of us". We call it religion, politics, nationality...but it's always the same thing.

If the dinosaurs had not been wiped out...they would have evolved the same divisions...can't wait for that next NEO object to hit & have the planet reset to factory settings, maybe the next dominant species will do better than us.

Oh, btw...I would have no problem keeping up in bed w/a younger man, but there's the issue of what's outside of the bedroom. I want a connection mentally & 10 years younger or more just doesn't hit the mark. That's an important factor in older/younger relationships (not an issue for a NSA, ONS, hookup etc.) What will you talk about at dinner? What can you share emotionally when the older person has already been through the issue the younger is having & is giving them advice like a parent?

OP, when you list off what you find attractive in a woman including the physical & the non-physical - does an older woman's specs check off all the boxes for you? If not...don't go there.

It IS very hard to find "local" matches on this site, & you generally can't set up a 1st meet w/someone who has to drive an hour to get to you or vice versa (which is all I seem to attract). I'm annoyed about it too...but good luck to us both anyway.

Hi, profile checks off all the basics women like to know & good amount of pictures too. Good luck on the site.

I see your point BUT...everyone has their own preferences & if a person's look (based on race/age/height) etc. is a turnoff then there's no point in going out on a date. I'm not saying that they are bad people just that I won't be attracted sexually & no amount of good personality, humor, character etc. is going to replace that. Too many people are going through life with partners that in all honesty they would describe beginning with the words "at least he's/she's": to me that means there is something lacking & they are settling. Age gaps are no different. I never want to be someone's "at least"...does anyone? I personally "only like" a certain physical type & that's ONLY what I find attractive. I'm not objectifying...are you objectifying if you don't find (fill in the blank)people attractive? I am inflexible - yes, but that's my issue, don't think that qualifies as a fetish either.

YES!!!!

Hi, IMO no marriage/RS comes to a screeching halt. There are always yellow & usually red flags along the way. If your wife was making it increasingly clear at each juncture of her life (school/jobs) that the family & your needs were not her priority...well, that's EXACTLY what she meant. If she took a job that needed her 60 hours a week that was the choice SHE made & it was up to you do decide if you could handle it, not just hope that the work/career would settle down eventually & she would then devote the time to you.

People get the relationships they want & work for OR they get the relationships they are given & accept. If you think back, you will see that each of her decisions on her education & career moves were made with her as No. 1 & you as No. 2. Usually it's women who fall into the trap of thinking "well, this is just for now - he'll change", but you fell into it too. You sacrificed for her & she came to see it as not a sacrifice, but just the normal status quo that she expected from you. Now you're feeling used & unappreciated & that's a horrible feeling, I know.

The bad thing is the kids are always affected in some way when there's a divorce, so try to shield the feelings of any anger/bitterness your have towards her from them. They'll figure out & appreciate what you've done for them when they are adults, hopefully. Good news, if she's more successful than you financially, because you put your own career 2nd, perhaps you can get support FROM her, if you can prove you're the primary caregiver to the kids. Good luck anyway.

Your profile (based on your pics) should let potential ladies know you are into outdoorsy, sporty stuff & are looking for a female who enjoys the same. Maybe mention the standard stuff like what music you like or more "psychological" details, like family being important to you or work/independence is high on your list. If there is a woman you like in real life but she's not available, then list the qualities she has (b/c you clearly like those things). Your profile should be a beginning screen for your own requirements & allow viewers to eliminate themselves before sending a message. Too general or too empty is not a good tactic, you'll get too many responses that aren't a match at all.

Age gaps are fine for dating only...for a LTR though, not so much. The bigger the gap the greater it looms as the older person AGES FASTER than the younger. How many men want to wind up with their hot trophy wife (20 years younger)acting as their nurse instead of their lover? How many hot trophy wives will be satisfied at their sexual prime of late 30s with an impotent 70 y.o. (little blue & yellow pills not withstanding) who's in poor health to start with? This applies to the female older/male younger too & with even worse consequences since there is no female version of Viagra.

The male/female sexual physical love turns into something like a generic "caretaker/companionship" love which is a loss to the relationship as a whole. It's one thing if you started out w/no sex, but to have it disappear over time only due to the age of your partner? Aging together at a similar rate is far preferable in terms of what's going on with the human body. And yes...having an equal age partner who is suddenly unable to have sex (like having a car accident & becoming paralyzed) is putting the other person in exactly the same situation as above: one wants it & can do it & the other can't. "Love" does not satisfy every need & unless you can face the future without a sexual connection to you partner, well IMO it's not a satisfying relationship.

Hi Angeltripping17,

I tend to think that the guys with a profile photo of a woman are telling the female viewers what they want their ideal female to look like. They are also unintentionally telling the women on this site that they themselves must not be anywhere near that ideal in terms of male attractiveness & confidence, if they can't post at least one real photo of themselves on a dating site.

IMO unless their profile is detailed & properly spelled, correct grammar etc., I would be very wary of responding to any message they send you b/c a lot of scammers obviously wouldn't post their own picture. Be careful...

Hi, your profile says you have children & they live at home. How are you going to "have fun" while being a responsible parent? Older women might have already raised their kids & are definitely not interested in helping out with yours.

You do need to find a girl your own age who is understanding about your situation. The problem is that girls your own age without children want to go out & have fun & that means a guy who is unencumbered. Maybe a girl your own age with a child would be better, you can arrange playdates for the kids & just hang out casually. It's not really a date but it's a start.

We do want honesty, honestly...BUT we want it upfront. The truth does hurt but it hurts less if we haven't invested anything. So...

Give us honesty in the 1st email or text or phone call. NOT 4 dates in when we are actually considering that there might just possibly maybe could be an "us", as in dating long term or oh god, a relationship. That's not the time to "honestly" open up about your not quite divorced, not quite employed, not quite no children, not quite your own hair selves.

Good luck...

Hi...Welcome to Mingle LOL!

They always have "military" as their profession, always list as "widowed", "Native American" & always have children. Yes definitely they always want to Yahoo messenger you or some other email. Their grammar & syntax is way off too. They use phrases like, "can't wait to read from you" & always start out with something like "hi beautiful or pretty lady" etc.

I didn't know it when I signed on to this site, but it's an "international" site so it's easier for them to get on & fish for targets. Never send anyone any $, & also look at the location their profile lists...they don't match any known location in the U.S. I've (i'm from NY)gotten messgs. from people who "lived" in "Iceland, Nigeria" and "Paris, New York" LOL! They also don't actually read your profile (since English is not their strong suit), so they will never reference anything in it when sending that 1st message. I don't know how they get ahold of those photos of military guys too...that's another tipoff. Be smart & good luck in your search.

I spent New Years Eve catching up on the Walking Dead (AMC did a marathon) & alternately watching the SciFi channel's Twilight Zone marathon. Didn't even see the countdown LOL! Heard the fireworks in White Plains though.

LOL!! OMG, your profile says you're 5'6! I hope you don't plan to charge these women by the foot, they'll really save $$ LOL!

If you're "better looking than them" then why are you trying to have sex with them at all? There's no physical attraction for them on your part which means no desire = no sex.

Aim for the beautiful ones, then you'll have to come up with another excuse why they won't have sex with you, I'm thinking it will be "they're too vain, stuck up" etc.

I would never have sex with someone unattractive either, it's not being too picky, just keep your standards high.

I come from the "My Fair Lady" school of polite chit chat...when in doubt or meeting a stranger for the first time the only polite topics are the weather & your health & in the movie she still managed to mess it up LOL!

I remember the Jack Handey Deep Thoughts from SNL. Some were very funny.

I guess the only one I have is when I was in a local 99cent store (Not the Family Dollar store or Dollar General-they are a chain). Two 20ish girls were prowling the cooking/kitchen utensil wall as they shopped for their first apt. (I know b/c they kept talking about it), one asked "I wonder how much this is?" Signs on the door, & at all the cash registers & in front of every aisle said "all items except balloons/jewelry are 99cents". I don't think they were from New York LOL!

It's only a "sad" thing if you like snow sports (skiing, etc), own a sports store w/an overstock of snow gear, own or work in a winter resort, own or work in a business that gets overtime for cleaning up snow. Or maybe if you have a snowman fetish LOL!

For the rest of us it's great to have a "dry" winter, although that could mean summer drought if the reservoirs don't fill up by May or so. I don't like wearing boots anyway so I'm thrilled my part of the world got let off easy so far but winter is not over yet.