If I might offer a suggestion.... take it with whatever grain of salt you can... Kosher, Popcorn...

This person is not at all responding to your query. Interaction might, and will mostly likely prove..... FUTILE. JMO

It's wonderful that you feel so commited to remaining abstinate, but I do have a question. When you are married, will you have sex with your husband every time he wants? The Bible instructs wives to do just that. It also instructs husbands to have sex with their wife whenever she wants. I think that concerns a lot of guys, because sex is a lot more important to men than it is to women. In the hierarchy of male needs, sex is the single highest need of every man. So...once married, will you never deny your husband? If not, then how do you justify obeying one Biblical instruction and not another?

I respect a womems choice to not have sex until marriage. I may not agree with it but i still respect her choice not to.

Ummmm.... I think the OP is talking about her personal beliefs and convictions and NOT the literal translation of the Bible. She just does not believe in sex outside of marriage.

Why do you have to turn that into a twisting of the Bible???

Why can't that be just what she feels is right?

most definately i would never deny. the only time would be in severe sickness. the bible also instructs men to love their wives. if a woman is good the her man, her man would be loving and respectful back. jmo

There is plenty of fish in the sea and doesn't depend which way you look at it if I am not your cup of tea then good bye farewell. If I am then welcome to my world. I consider myself moral, educated, with integrity and discretion, I don't jump in the bed with any Tracy , Jenny or Fanny,I have lived some years totally celibete.

However I do not subscribe to the issues raised by the originator and that is due to my upbringing and ideology which is practiced in Europe. As a result our sex crimes do not reach to the pinnacles that they reach in this country

I was a small child when they made pornography legal in Denmark and every one threw up their arms in the air. Sex crimes in Denmark are ALMOST unheard of today

Prostitutes sit in the windows in Amsterdam
The only sex crimes reported are within ethnic minorities which do subscribe to similar points of view expressed by the originator of the thread who keep close knit to their kind so they dont really integrate

All theses anomalies brings me to the conclusion that as I said earlier there is plenty of fish in the sea and even then if you don't like it the world is your oyster or was it the lobster

the bible also is against shellfish and killing your kids if you talk back to them.

the reason no one respects your archaic no-sex thing is because its annoying and makes a very natural act into something "sinful".

what exactly do you expect a guy to do? masturbate over you until you decide youre ready to marry him? oh wait! doesnt the bible say thats a sin too?

so youre expecting a man to be madly in love with you for years, all the while supressing his very natural urge to have sex with his girlfriend until the day you get married and for that to never get old or annoying or unsatisfying to him?

unless the guy is really really desperate or just as brainwashed as you, i dont see that happening.

time to come into the 21st century.

Do you guys have talking points? Those are the old talking points, nobody has accused me of "twisting the Bible" in a long time. What I posted is the obvious and accepted meaning of those scriptures, if you have arguements to prove that they are not then present them.

dirtyblonde007 is a Christian, why shouldn't I assume she believes like a Christian? Any good arguments for that position?

Then it comes down to trust. The guy has to trust that you are going to be accomodating to his needs and trust you to be true to your faith. If he doesn't trust you, then he's not the right guy. It looks like you have a perfect "litmus" test for potential husbands. Be patient and explain your position to the guy and if he pushes you then I would dump him. You might want to give him a second chance after you dump him as some guys are a little thick headed...you might want to give him a third chance if he is a lot thick headed like me...

doesn't have to take years. i am not a fan of long engagements. personal conviction has nothing to do with being brainwashed. i made exceptions before and it brought about bad relationships.

personal conviction goes hand in hand with being brainwashed. i would dare say its the most important part of it.


doesnt have to take years? how long then? a year is still a damn long time to make a dude wait. less than a year doesnt seem like an adequate time to see if this is someone you want to marry.

you made exceptions before regarding what? you actually had sex with a guy? and youre blaming the bad relationships on that?

unless you made an issue out of the sex (which is very possible in your case) then dont you think maybe the relationship just went bad on its own? people have bad relationships all the time.

Hmmmm.... interesting reponse. You brought up the Bible, I asked why. You then bring in more assumptions. You cannot assume. Or rather, you can but it does not behoove you to do so. To bring up any sort of argument to what you said is ridiculous, as my post was saying what you asked the OP was not relevant to what she posted. You brought up the Bible, so then why should I continue in that vein when I think what you said was totally out of context?

That is ASNINE. And it brings to me to the point where I say I am done in this thread.

So very sad.

Good luck, OP. You're going to need it.

you have convictions, right? does that mean you are brainwashed? everybody has a sense of what is morally right and wrong. doesn't matter what religion or lack thereof. everyone is different. lets just agree to be tolorant of each persons convictions.

i respect your decision and your honor.

however, as many here have noted (mostly in Sex and Dating) that people are very sexual creatures and frequently need sex as an important part of their weekly or even daily life. we are all very social and dare i say most people men and women alike need to feel comfortable sexually with their partner as well as spiritually and emotionally before committing to a long term relationship.

i'm sure that there are going to be some others who share
your views on sex and marriage.

yeah but my convictions make SENSE.

witholding sex for a year or more because "its god's will" and expecting a guy not to be unsatisfied or annoyed with it makes absolutely no sense.

enjoy being alone.

Your convictions make SENSE, huh?

What good would it do the young lady to get an STD, pregnant or simply used for sex by some guy not interested in marriage? To someone who wants to be married...it makes perfect sense to wait until marriage. Only guys who are interested in marriage would wait for sex, which would eliminate undesirables from her dating pool.



Enjoy life with a woman who knows you are only with her because she puts out.

its true we are sexual creatures. i myself have experienced that. i am just saying that having sex right away to me spells trouble. why get attatched to someone in that way and then the relationship failed because the attatchment was just that... sex. a relationship has a greater chance of survival if both partners share the same convictions. now that isn't to say that temptation won't arrise (it will) but knowing that each partner wants a lasting relationship based off of trust and loyalty will make it easier to avoid temptaion. this is why i put my venting under religion and not dating.

Flip the waitingfor sex coin over for a second, If you truly love him you will satisfy him.
Why is sex the measuring stick of love? What exactly is this "love" we as humans speak of?

So everything is perfect and the big day comes and you ended up marrying an uncircumcised, 2 inches, full of lint in the foreskin man. Or he married the foulest persistent fish smelling woman and none of these things were known until you signed a contract.

Sounds risky

there are guys that will be willing to do anything for the woman they love and abstaining from sex for them is like the foreplay before the marriage but of course not all guys think alike and some may have sinster of hidden motives for the things they do which means there may be a downside to finding such a guy that women need to pay attention to...he may choose to abstain from sex until marriage but maybe not for the reasons you think ..

I try to respect the married ones. After they get married I try to stay clear of them. As a matter of fact I stay clear of a lot of them. I respect that you want to stay pure and if abstinence makes you feel pure then go for it.