i was on here because the girl i was engaged to cheated on me and i came on to meet some one to help me i wasnt on here looking for anyone but then i met some one and i left her

Boo boo uh oh boo hoo.

Ooooga wooga shooga mo. Ooo oooo boogie mmmm woo woo. oobity wooo whoa. Shoogity swah.

It does get better with time, but dont let anyone ruin your life or career. Pick yourself up dust yourself off and start all over again. It will not be easy, I know I have been there also, but you do learn to trust again. Just dont put your heart out there so fast again. Take it one day at a time, and it is better that this happened now instead of when the two of you had kids together. I hope that it all works out for you.

get a hooker and celebrate




that's what i would do

why are people so harsh? And why so many flip answers?

I am sure this will help him.

Good answer. No one is worth your life, your health, or a great job like firefighting.

Deal and heal.

I know it hurts like hell right now but it will get better over time. It's better to find out now that shes not your soul mate than to spend years with her that you will never get back. Hang in there and you never know who you might end up meeting that could help you forget all about her

Karma is a b**** sometimes, isn't it?

so you still living with her? and here you are again same pattern... humm well maybe take a break between this time? time for you to think... to get to know yourself.. remember you left that other gal for a reason... she cheated is that what you want to get yourself into? anyhow..... i wish the best for you

Totally agree with chevylover, this is how men cope with these things. But don't grab your own ones, what the hell are your buddies at the FD doing? They should have had t**ties in your face days ago!!!

wow first time I see OP in forums, but more shocked at the responses supplied.

Accept things as they are, if she's not willing to work things out, let it go.

Find positive things to focus on, stay busy.

Everyday will get easier than the previous one.

*bars/strippers only offer temporary relief, if this is what you are after, more power to you* (jmo)

You came here for the same reason we all did to find someone else. Rule one in finding someone:
BE HONEST

Whether you realize it or not you are doing the same thing you did before. When you use sympathy to have someone attach to you emotionally you will get more pain. Learn from your mistakes.

Coming on here when you have just been screwed over is a mistake. Believe it or not if others are mean to you forcing your departure would likely be the best thing. Get your head together before finding someone. Do not use sympathy as a tool to get someone else.

(Franshade you got this one wrong.)

sorry to hear about this...time will heal ya

FInd something positive about this & start there.

Be glad it has only been 6 months & no children yet.

sounds like to me you fall in love to easy,work on that before you go finding another woman. why am i giving advice when im single and looking?

"Lessons of the past are the rewards of the future" Live long and prosper.

Welcome to throwaway society. Marriage is serious business. Not everyone agrees, however.

My advice? Get premarital counseling next time. And get some professional help now, mind over matter for now?

not sure what I got wrong?

Read the thread. This is how he works. He lost his last girlfriend as she cheated on him. So he came to a singles site for "advice"? Google "relationship advice", I don't think you'll get any hits for singles websites.

He came to get his revenge on the woman who cheated. He wanted to get layed. He found a great opening line which was to use sympathy. It worked. He found another who felt sorry for him and now he is doing it again.

He wants sympathy not advice. What advice can you give him other than do not get involved on the rebound. Stay honest. Stop using sympathy to attract women to you as you will have the same thing happen.

Your big warm heart was taken in by him Franshade. That is how he finds his relationships. He either stops that now or it will get him more pain. I view him as a player. He is dishonest and using.