Because if i agree to pick up my socks and then forget we now have something else stupid to argue about. What if He just told you the truth from the start? "No, I'm not going to pick up my socks. Deal with it." Is that worth ending an otherwise great relationship over?

I was already happy. Am I responceble for her being happy too? Is her emotional state really controled by socks in the floor? If so I think I need to find another girlfriend.

Well the ADD explains alot to me. I have spent years asking my son to remember to pick up the towel in the bathroom, clean up his room, take the trash out. He is 18. A year and a half ago he was diagnosed with ADD and that is when I learned that his brain doesn't work like mine. He went on medication and 75% of the time the towel is picked up, the room is sumwhat cleaned and the trash makes it to the curb. It wasn't that he was doing it to make me mad--it just didn't matter in his brain.

Now the 25% of the time he doesn't do this stuff I do it without saying anything. It is not worth getting him or myself upset.

Maybe half of the unnecessary agruments occur because our brains work differently than our partners. So if the good points in my partner outweigh the bad then I will pick up the socks and hope that he will feel the same way about my faults

General statements about women is one crappy thing for sure.

I think the only crap for me is the inconsiderate things. Like if I am watching a program, he assumes it is unimportant if his game is on so he turns the tv, if I am lucky I will get a grin and a "sorry". It would have been more considerate if he would have warned me the game is going to be on earlier in the day so that I can make other plans for the night. Things like that. I don't know that it is male specific though so I would not generalize and say it is man only crap.

let me rephrase:

if he wants a blow job, he'll pick up his socks.

Ah ha! You use sex as a weapon to manipulate men. A smart man will find another woman to blow him. It's not that hard to do.

manipulate you?

hahahahahahaha

you STILL don't get it and i'm getting kind of tired trying to explain it.

the man who tries to please a woman and make her happy is a smart man who ends up satiated in all areas of the relationship, sex being one of those areas.


a man who finds sex elsewhere, just for sex, is nothing but a user who probably deserves to pick up his own smelly socks!

If "momma is happy, everyone is happy"... Very few men "get" that doing those little things will keep his woman happy b/c it's showing her that he cares and listens.. Most women need to be "emotionally" stimulated which is knowing he cares enough to try and aware of what makes her happy.. He doesn't have to be perfect but those small things mean a lot... Of course selfish men don't get that...

Anyone can say "they don't worry about silly things like socks, milk, etc" but when they're in that situation or when they're "socks, milk type" needs aren't being met, they don't get the other person but they sure get that they're not getting what they need....

Oh no, I get it. Any woman that tried to use sex to manipulate me I'd leave. That kind of BS is a deal breaker.

Each person is responsible for their own happiness. Trying to make someone else happy is a lost cause. There is always something more that needs to be done before she can be happy. The harder I work to please her the more she demands. I've been down that road a number of times. It ends with me being her doormat and her having no respect for me and eventually loathing me. It does not lead to a happy relationship. A smart man knows this.

TS you're dead wrong.. You don't know every woman, haven't been with every woman and need to stop lumping them all together... Whatever has happened in your past does not mean that every woman is that way... A smart man knows that!

well to me guys BS are BS'ers. Translation Guys who lie!!

Nattre? Hmmm I hope not! I still have faith there are decent men somewhere.....maybe over the rainbow..LOL

i might not bear the entire responsibility of making my partner happy, but i bet the little things i do put a smile on his face (as he does for me).



and yep, you get it alright.


cow patties anyone?

i'm curious as to whether you photoshop the women making out with you in your photos? and do you post them so that we think you're in high demand?

that's kind of cool how you have so many different babes in your life.

interchangable. like socks.

I met a guy at a bar recently who explained his gf of a year was holding out on sex from him due to a fight. He called it mental terrorism! LMAO ( I like terminology)

So anyhow he dumped his gf and got drunk and went home with a complete stranger who was the ugliest girl in the bar BTW. Now thats mental!!

I have been in more sexual relationships than are needed for an accurate scientific survey. It took me a long time to learn it because I am not a smart man. But, when you see the same pattern show up over and over, more than 100 times you start thinking about what you may be doing wrong.

I'm not going to be Captain Sav-A-Ho. This is the 21st century and she isn't a child. She can solve her own problems and is responsible for her own happiness. That doesn't mean I don't do 100 other little things to show her I care. It means I'm not going to modify my behavior to "make her happy."

Sense you asked, the young lady in the photo to the left is someone I started dating last week. I met her on another free dating site. She is 5'7" and weighs about 135lbs. She is also 19 years old.

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I will freely admit that I drop women that are not up to my standards. Attracting women isn't so hard that I have to put up with drugs, nagging or manipulation. These are my deal breakers. Other than these things I ask nothing of her. I expect the same in return.

She Must have Daddy Issues! A week and your posting kissy face pics and she is only 19 and your 48...thats not studly BTW in case u were unclear

Of course, she must be crazy to date him! That's the only possible explanation. After all, it's not like he's a real man and she sick of dating little boys. It simply cannot be that he's a good lover.

Why do any of you care who I date? It's got nothing to do with you.

Yes, everybody is responsible for their own happiness. They're talking about happiness within the relationship. It doesn't feel good to feel alone when you're with somebody. A couple is a team. They do things for each to make life easier for the other person. Love is about giving and not about taking. Relationships are about taking turns compromising too.

The women you talk about in this post, do not pertain to the all women. You sound like you're finding "users". Why is that?

Her weight and height are so important to you that you have to put it in a post.